(Closed) Am I really over the top?

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think I’ve ever seen that many people walking the bride down the aisle, but if it’s what you want you should go for it.  Would everyone be walking at the same time, or would there be some distance between the three groups?

Post # 4
9028 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ultimately its your wedding so if thats what will make you happy then you can do it that way..

Post # 5
1937 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think that after you ask someone to be involved, it’s out of your hands – they have to make the decision about what they are comfortable with.  I like that you are trying to include them, but maybe they just aren’t comfortable doing it this way.

Post # 6
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

They are guys and they just don’t get it. They probably don’t understand why you are buying a new dress and don’t just wear something you already have. Don’t worry about it!

Post # 8
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Personally… I think its your wedding your choice BUT are you having them walk in front of you… will your FH even be able to see you walk down the isle with 4 people walking in front of you?? or are they coming down behind you?  I think there would be better ways to include them without having all 4 of them walk down the isle with you… maybe as groomsmen?  Ushers?

Post # 9
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ive been to a wedding where the entire family walked the bride down the aisle -mom, dad and  2 siblings. It was sweet and everyone knew it was what the bride to do. Just go with your heart.

Post # 10
197 posts
Blushing bee

Honestly, I think it would be awkward walking down the aisle with 4 men in front of you and one next to you. Not only would it make it difficult for people to see you, you won’t be able to see your fiance, and it will make it really hard for your photographer to get pictures of you coming down the aisle. I also think it would be really crowded up where you meet your fiance.

Post # 11
116 posts
Blushing bee

I think this is a nice idea, but in reality will make the aisle look crowded and REALLY take away from the special simplicity of seeing a bride coming toward a fiancee.  I also think that many people will be confused by this and it will draw unnecessary attention to your brothers and AWAY from you and your fiancee.


I would give them another role – either an usher, a groomsman, a toaster at the reception, etc.  I wouldn’t let them share in your moment or steal your thunder. 

Do they even want to do this?

Post # 13
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think it might sort of look like you have a group of bodyguards in front of you. Perhaps you can find other ways to include your brothers, such as being ushers?

Post # 14
1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Why don’t you just have them stand up with you and come in like bridesmen? If you want to do it like you’ve proposed I would have them walk in front of you, but farther apart (assuming you have a nice wide aisle) so you and your dad are clearly visable in the middle. However, brothers 3 and 4 might not be visible. In fact, your brothers aren’t giving you away. To my mind your dad isn’t either, but that’s traditional. Your brothers are standing up with you to give their support to your marriage. I’d seriously consider having them be bridesmen, or groomsmen, if you want to be traditional. Or two on each side and they can walk in together.

Post # 15
850 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

GO FOR IT!! It saddens me to hear you say “I was hoping to” and “oh well” If that’s what you want, by all mean, you should have it. I’m just imagining as a guest how cool it would be to hear a group of men say “we do”!


Post # 16
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

When I first read your post, I totally agreed with your brothers and some of the PPs that it might look like an entourage of bodyguards. But after reading your later post, I totally agree with @bunnyfoofoo: Please do it! Could you reverse the order and have you + your dad enter first, followed by your brothers a short distance away so that you will still be the focal point? Or does that sounds totally weird…

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