(Closed) Am I really that nontraditional?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m sorry people are giving you a hard time–it’s impossible to please everyone sometimes.  I think your wedding and reception sound really intimate and nice.  You get to have a pretty, quiet ceremony on the beach and a relaxed, fun party the next day–sounds awesome to me ๐Ÿ™‚

By the way, we’re date twins!  Only 92 more days!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think that they are just being jerks because they haven’t heard of something like that. I’m having a cocktail party with lounge seating everywhere, instead of a full sit-down dinner, and i’ve gotten lots of eye-rolls. I think in the end, the people who really care about you will come and celebrate with you.

If they don’t come just because it’s not a ‘traditional’ wedding, then they don’t deserve to see you get married!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Honestly, here’s a pet peeve I never knew I had until WB – People need to get over themselves about snooping on/gawking at/witnessing/feeling special because you saw vows/going to the ceremony!  Some people act like if they don’t get to stick their stupid face right up to yours and watch you recite vows that you’ve somehow smacked their mother, or something.  Get over it! AAAHHH!

Sorry – it annoys me so much!  It’s like the people that get totally pissed if you don’t let them in to watch your kid get born.  I would tell ANY person that acts so rude and says that seeing the ceremony is the whole point and other stuff doesn’t matter and blah blah – “ok – you can come to the ceremony but then I’m assuming you’ll go home after and I can fill your spot at the reception with someone that actually wants to celebrate our marriage with us.”

Not sure if that’s good advice for you, lol – as i’ve mentioned before I’m a bit of a loose cannon sometimes ๐Ÿ˜›  I will say that your wedding sounds like it will be awesome!

Post # 7
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671 posts
Busy bee

Yes, very non traditional. Personally I would feel offended if I were not invited to the ceremony. I would kinda feel like I am not as important to go to the ceremony but a body to fill a room at the party the next day. It is kinda like.. being invited to the ceremony but not the reception. But I def think it will be fun for the people who do come

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@luckyprincess: I love you. ^_^

I agree. People should be happy that they are invited at all! If you want to get married in your parents living room with just them there and then have a big party later then what’s the problem. Etiquette “experts” will tell you that it’s such a big no no because it looks like you are just asking for gifts. WTF!? Why does everything you do or not do have to be about gifts? Like Oh woes is me! I didn’t get to sit in your church for 10 minutes and see you say your vows! I’m so offended that you would even invite me to a reception. GAH! Those people don’t have to come. Do what makes you happy!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think that sounds like a really cool way to celebrate your marriage. Just ignore the guests who are classless enough to actually comment on the way you’re celebrating. You can’t make everyone happy, but the beauty of the situation is that it’s YOUR wedding. You only need to make you and your fiance happy. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It’s not traditional at all, but sounds so cool. Do what you and your fiance want, and don’t worry about anyone else!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’m not sure this is untraditional….lots of my friends do it this way.  But this much I can promise you:  no matter WHAT you do, there are going to be some people who aren’t happy with it.  Just accept that, and get on with the party!

Post # 14
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671 posts
Busy bee

@Miss Tattoo: etiquette experst say that because thats what it makes people feel. 

@rebeccarich: this sounds like a different story then! no invites, super informal and just a plain celebration. Basically like you eloped and you want people to come celebrate with you. That sounds nice. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@napabridekelsey:  I don’t want to be annoying but just to nitpick they actually aren’t even getting the option to “see her get married”. Whether they deserve it or not, she has not invited them to do so.

@rebeccarich:  I will admit, I too would be a little upset about this.  The ceremony is the whole point of a wedding… that’s what you are celebrating.  So I can see why people would be disappointed by not being invited.  That being said… it does NOT make it OK for people to comment about it.  This is how you chose to plan your wedding and that’s absolutely your choice.  If people are upset by it then they should keep their mouth shut and deal with it, or decline to attend.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

@Miss Tattoo:

Lol – love you too you crazy bee!  Even though your town thinks the Penguins are better than the Rangers….silly folks! ๐Ÿ˜› jk….sorta

 

@rebeccarich:

You are so welcome!  Hope your day is awesome!!

 

I must say that I have never in my life gotten a wedding invitation and then rolled my eyes and thought ‘Oh GREAT! They just invited me to get a gift!!’.  Do people really do that?  Do they think that a loved one invites them to ANYTHING and immediatly get bitter about giving a gift?  I can’t imagine ever thinking this way.  I’m actually astounded that people go to such a dark place when being invited to such a happy event…

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