Am I really that terrible for not attending a graduation?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 16
318 posts
Helper bee

Umm what exactly is a “baccalaureate” and is that a regional thing? I’ve only heard of a graduation party and most people here don’t even have one if those. Yeah I wouldn’t feel bad skipping it, maybe for a close sibling but not the HS graduation of a cousin an hour away. 

Post # 17
4111 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

As a teacher of seniors in high school, trust me when I say that your cousin isn’t even going to know you were there if you do go and attend. She will be preoccupied with her friends. She will spend a little bit of time taking pics with her immediate family but trust me she isn’t going to even care either way if you’re there. 

Your mom is being really really extra about this. Did you little cousin go to your college or high school graduation? I highly doubt it…

I wouldn’t worry about missing it AT ALL. Not in the slightest. Go to your friends birthday celebration and don’t give it a second thought. 

Post # 19
2705 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

My parents didn’t even make it to my university graduation (they were on an international flight, booked before graduation details came out!).  You don’t have to go and your mom is overreacting.

Post # 20
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I was bored to death by my own graduation ceremonies (all of them, even the one where Annie Lennox was receiving an honorary doctorate which was actually pretty fantastic), I would never expect extended family to be dragged along.

Tell your mum to call you when said cousin is getting her second doctorate – HIGH SCHOOL GRADUATION LOLOLOL…!

Post # 21
1037 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

What! Your mother is being crazy! Why would you need to attend your cousins graduation. I mean maybe if it was your own sibling or your own child but other than that there is just no need.

add in the fact you barely see her and it’s even more strange why your mom is so upset. Tell your mom that she can have a good time and pass on your regrets that you couldn’t make it. Definitely don’t change your plans for this. I would never even have thought of inviting extended family to mine and we are also very close with a small family. 

Post # 22
1059 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Uhhhhh it’s a high school graduation. She’s not departing for a space walk. Go ahead with your original plans. Your cousin will not give two shits if you’re there or not. 

Post # 23
622 posts
Busy bee

I’ve only ever been to two high school graduations, my own and my sister’s. Also here we have tickets for graduation so you get a certain number like 4, and that’s it, just like college graduation. I agree with the bees, I think most people don’t go to their cousin’s graduation (and honestly grad ceremonies are SO boring generally) so I think we’re all on your side here and your mom can get over it. 

Post # 24
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Yeah no. I missed my DHs PhD graduation and no one made as big a fuss as this. I felt terrible for missing but that’s not the point. I would definitely not worry about it. Maybe send your cousin a text saying you can’t make it but you hope she enjoys it etc and I would leave it at that. I’m sorry but your mom is being way over the top here.

Post # 25
1249 posts
Bumble bee

i had to be dragged kicking and screaming to my own HS graduation and didn’t even attend my college graduation ceremony…i’ve never been to anyone elses. so my answer here is pretty clear. lol

Post # 26
3176 posts
Sugar bee

I didn’t go to any of my siblings college graduations, so I wouldn’t go to a cousin’s high school graduation.

Post # 27
2399 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Honestly I’m closer to my cousin (he’s like a younger brother to me) and he’s graduating HS this year, I will not be in attendance and no one cares.

Post # 28
1352 posts
Bumble bee

Plans are plans. If it was so important that you attend, then an invite should have been sent out earlier. Enjoy your evening with your friends!

Post # 29
131 posts
Blushing bee

I am graduating with my doctorate next month and only my partner, my parents, and maybe my grandparents and siblings are coming to the actual ceremony. I honestly don’t care that no one else is able to come (we only get a limited number of tickets anyway) because I get that it’s boring! I’m probably going to be bored too, haha. 

Many more people are coming to my celebration party, and that’s what means a lot. I think it’s great that you are going to 2 out of the 3 events. A 30th birthday is also a once in a lifetime event, and maintaining friendships gets more and more important as you get older. Go to what you can, and try not to feel guilty! 🙂

Post # 30
9379 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

my boyfriend (now husband) didn’t go to my master’s graduation. i didn’t get enough tickets.  but even if i did, i wouldn’t have subjected him to that boringness.  i didn’t even want to go to my own graduation, lol. 

Leave a comment

Find Amazing Vendors