Am I required to stay all night as a bridesmaid

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
6 posts
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t think although you’re a bridesmaid, you’re entitled to stay until the end and furthermore, cleaning up!

If she’s really your bestfriend, she would’ve understand and won’t force you to stay. At least you did make the effort to arrive and attend her wedding according to her schedule.

Post # 32
4651 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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ashleynich :  I have had to clean up afterward for three weddings I’ve been in, so I don’t think it’s totally unusual.  It was the norm for the bride’s family in each of these cases and I knew up front that was what they generally do.  I usually stay until the end of the wedding when I’m a bridesmaid, but have left early once  (after dessert) when the couple didn’t serve any food that I could eat (I was a vegetarian at the time) and I was STARVING.  The bride apparently was pissed that I didn’t stay until the end, but I already was having a hard time focusing on driving after not having eaten all day.  If I were you, I would plan to stay until the cake is cut and if you’re having a good time, stay until the end, if not, make a graceful exit.   

Post # 33
575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I’d be disappointed if my best friend didn’t stay until the end, especially if she was a bridesmaid, but in my circle of friends everyone always stays until the end – it’s older family members who tend to leave earlier. So this also probably depends on your friend group as well. I’d be disappointed but not enough to be angry with her or anything. If you have a baby or young child to get back to, I’d understand leaving early, but you haven’t mentioned that so I’m assuming that’s not an issue. As others said, you can pack ahead of time.

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