Am I right to be hurt by this?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m with your friend on this. She didn’t respond to your invite, which was a good indication that she wasn’t interested; you pressed her , she accepted but told you she had boundaries (wasn’t intending to buy anything and was just there to support you); you pressed her again by getting “sales pitchy” on her, and she gave you an honest reaponse. She came to support you in your efforts. This doesn’t mean FINANCIALLY support you. You’re well in the wrong here. 

A word of advice: you’re getting into a line of business that depends on you selling things to your friends/family, and you need to be able to accept their less-than-enthusiastic response to your company and its products without taking them as reflections on you or your relationship with them. They can love you and wish you well without drinking the MLM koolaid. No one is required to buy stuff they don’t want just because you’re selling it. 

Post # 3
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1122 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

No.  She told you she wasn’t interested and you asked her to come anyway.  Not sure why your upset that she didn’t buy when she told you that before the party. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it’s really shitty to expect your friends to fund your life. It’s not her job to support you by buying overpriced leggings, and she’s entitled to her personal reasons for not supporting the company.

You said you understood when she told you she wasn’t going to buy anything, so you have no right to now be mad for that very reason.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

newbeginnings :  She told you that she wouldn’t be buying anything from the very beginning, so no surprises there. Her honestly may have been too blunt for your tastes, but she has every right to her opinion regarding their clothes and the company in general. Expecting her to still buy something after she clearly stated her reasons is unreasonable. The fact that she came despite her personal feelings was showing enough support IMO because she easily could’ve just declined. No one is obligated to buy things from you just because you are struggling. I hope you aren’t administering this kind of pressure to other people in your life because it’s tacky. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

🙄 This is all on you. You learned the hard way that people don’t like it when you ask friends and family to supplement your income with crappy products, using a system that immorally targets women who lack the financial sense to know to stay away. I do not ever purchase items from MLMs on personal principle, so I’m with your friend here.

She didn’t respond, then you pushed. She said she would come but not buy anything, then you pushed further.

Post # 7
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I’m also with your friend on this. It is not her responsibility to financially support you. She was clearly uncomfortable with the situation you essentially forced her into.

I also hate when people get all sale-pitchy with me. It makes me super uncomfortable and I don’t want to have to feel guilty for saying “no”. If I’m not interested, don’t push it. 

Post # 8
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31 posts
Newbee

Yeah, sorry, bee. I think you’re overreacting. She came to support you because you asked her to, but you can’t force her to like the clothes or expect her to support you financially. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee

She came because you guilt-tripped her into it.  She was damned if she did and damned if she didn’t.  You wouldn’t take her avoidance as a sign she didn’t want to come, you forced her hand, she was upfront about not wanting to buy anything and you told her that was fine, and then when she made good on her word and didn’t my buy anything you cry foul and say she is unsupportive.

This is why lots of people hate these MLM schemes and the people who foist them on their loved ones and then equate not buying with not being personally supportive enough.  You need to separate your business from what being a supportive friend actually means.

As I see it you are in the wrong here.  Your friends are under no obligation to financially support your business decisions.  I’d sooner give a friend who was strapped for cash money to buy clothes than I would sit through an MLM presentation and be guilted into buying crap I don’t want.  You need to build an actual client base of people who actually want to be customers, not guilt your friends and family into subsidizing your wardrobe.

Post # 10
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645 posts
Busy bee

I’m with your friend. People who try to make money of their friends (ie you) and then get mad when a friend is up front with you are very off-putting to me.

If she came, drank all of the drinks and ate all of the food that you put out and was being loud while telling everyone her thoughts on the company, it might be a different story. But it sounds like she was up front and you were counting on her changing her mind once she saw the clothes. And, regardless, an invitation to come to a party is not a conract that you must end up buying something

I for one hope these MLM companies are gone soon because only in rare situations is it not tacky to ask your friends to buy stuff so you profit, whether through money or free kickbacks.

Post # 11
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1226 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

It sounds to me like you’re more disappointed by the lack of support from your friend’s pocketbook than from your friend. I’m on her side here. 

People have their own personal reasons for not supporting MLMs. I’d feel uncomfortable too in her situation if you got “sales pitchy”. 

Post # 12
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5035 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m sorry, but I really, really dislike Lularoe products and the influx of people who have started selling it and automatically including me in events or groups on FB has been really off-putting.  Personally I unfriended, blocked and unfollowed those individuals from my social media. I want to see my friends excel but I am not on facebook to be targeted for a sales pitch.

It sounds like your friend was attempting to be supportive of you.  She has no interest in the company and its products but you were a bit persistent in following up by text so she reluctantly joined the event.  She has expressed that she is not interested and you should respect that.  Know your audience and be careful to not push potential buyers away by coming on too strong.  If someone declines or does not respond to an invite just let it go and you will likely avoid further situations like this.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s only “free” for you because your friends and family are paying for it. 

Also, I’m with your friend on this. 

Post # 14
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1637 posts
Bumble bee

I view things like Lularoe  as a pyramid scheme scam. I would much rather my best friend just ask me for money flat out than try to get me to participate in something like Lularoe which I also object to and my guess is your friend feels the same way. 

When you try to sell people things they don’t want and have made clear they don’t want, you are making it awkward and uncomfortable . She didn’t respond to your invite because she didn’t want to go, but you called her out so she said she would go to support you but that she wouldn’t buy anything and yet you STILL pressured her? If I were you I would apologize honestly. 

Post # 15
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499 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think you really have a right to be hurt. Sure, does it suck you couldn’t make an extra sale? Of course! Because it’s what you’re trying to do. However, like everyone else said, she told you upfront that she wasn’t interested and you tried to push her. She was there to support you, but that doesn’t mean she was there to buy anything (which she said she wouldn’t) so you don’t have too much of a reason to be upset. She still came to support you, so you should be grateful she did that!

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