Am I right to be hurt by this?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 135
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

My SIL hosted both a Jamberry and LulaRoe party. I felt like I had to buy something from her Jamberry one (even though I enjoy just painting my own nails), and ended up spending $20. Have I ever used what I bought? Nope! Waste of fucking money.

For the LulaRoe party, it was at her house. I tried things on, but they didn’t have what I would have wanted in my size. And I wasn’t about to spend $30+ on a skirt that didn’t fit me correctly. So I didn’t buy anything. I then found out that she was a little upset that I didn’t anything. It’s not my job to support anyone and buy clothes from them.

OH ALSO, someone I was friends with in college messaged me on FB and was asking me how I was. He just so happened to slip in that him and his wife were doing the ItWorks Wrap, and wanted to know if I was interested. I said not right now. So we continued talking and asked again. He then messaged me a few months later saying that he switched careers, and did I need financial advice?

I hate when people just use me for my money

Post # 136
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

duplicate post

Post # 139
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Buzzing bee

You might want to close this thread.

People might comment before seeing your most recent comment.

Post # 140
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

This took an unexpected turn, but it’s good you recognised what happened. Now you can learn from it. 

We all get the wrong perspective sometimes, you’re not garbage! 

Post # 141
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

leembee :  That acai berry juice was pitched as the fountain of youth and just so happened to cure every disease in the world. It’s amazing I didn’t fall for it!

For OP, listen, you behaved and reacted poorly but that doesn’t make you garbage.  I hope from the experience and feedback here you have gained some perspective.  Don’t beat yourself up, but do reach out to your friend offering an apology.  There’s no need to ruin a good friendship over this.

Post # 142
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Buzzing Beekeeper

newbeginnings :  If you are having a manic episode I encourage you to touch base with your mental health professional.

As for thinking your the worst person ever selling a MLM let me tell you that you aren’t. I recently blocked an actual friend on social media who sells rodan + fields because she used her sons very serious accident which required hospitalisation to try and sell lip balm. It was disgusting. So take comfort that you haven’t stooped so low as to use a loved one’s trauma as a marketing tool! She also tried to convince me that my chemo sessions would be a good place to spruke her products. It is like she has entered a cult and the formerly rational and nice person has been replaced with a money hungry monster.

Post # 143
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Newbee

Do not go to graduate school to become an Art Historian or Art History Professor without doing A LOT of research first.  A LOT.

Post # 144
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601 posts
Busy bee

Yeah no, you are definitely in the wrong here. Own up to it and apoogize to your friend for your behaviour!

Post # 145
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Sugar bee

I really hope you’re a troll.

If not, please make an appointment to see your therapist soon.

Post # 146
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Worker bee

It isn’t your friend’s job to financially support you and help you earn money and you can’t expect her to buy something she doesn’t like and/or doesn’t need. You’re lucky she came to show her support at all. Getting sales-pitchy isn’t nice either and I’d be disappointed in a friend who treated me like I was just her customer. A party where you are expected to go along and purchase items isn’t a party in my book. You likely put her off by trying to force her to buy the clothes she already told you she didn’t like/want from a company she doesn’t believe in and that’s why she left quickly. I’d have done exactly the same as that would have made me feel very uncomfortable. I think you owe her an apology.

Post # 147
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Worker bee

newbeginnings :  It really doesn’t seem like you’re listening to anyone as you’re just repeating yourself in slightly different words with each reply. If you don’t want the advice then you really shouldn’t ask for it.

Post # 148
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

newbeginnings :  I’m going to be super honest here… I have defriended every person involved in a MLM job on every single social media platform. I can’t stand the posts and the invites. They all force good people to scam their friends and family. 

I have lost friendships over this because what was originally planned as a girls wine night turns into a freaking infomercial. Texts to meet for coffee turn into trying to get me to re-up on a pity order or become a sales person below them. Nooooo thank you. 

Your friend was probably sick of watching you embarrass yourself by trying to sell ugly overpriced clothes as a pawn in a scheme. That’s why she left early. 

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