(Closed) Am I right to be jealous/irritated?posted 8 years ago in Emotional
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I just skimmed mostly so I’m not sure if this has been mentioned, (I did read your update though), but I think the biggest deal to me is what she said about him being “in trouble” and acting like the two of them have a secret from you.
Especially if you believe him that he is not instigating this or encouraging this, he is not stopping it either. She is putting herself between him and you (a them against you situation) and even if he has no intention of ever pursuing anything with her, that is not a fair position to put you in. For one, he should have told you in the first place, and second when she said that he should have been able to say that he has no secrets from you so it’s no big deal (or that he hadn’t even thought to mention it but he would be telling you right away because it’s not a secret). Basically, he should have put her in her place and not given her the impression that he was willing to hide things from you and fight with you to see her.
I don’t know if I’m explaining myself correctly but basically, the way I see it is opposite sex friendships are fine, as long as the SO is still the most important relationship. When you start having secrets or having conversations you would normally be having (or should be having) with your SO, that’s when your getting into the territory of emotional cheating. And even if that’s not what he’s meaning to do, he’s giving that impression (to both you and her).
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
I don’t mind if my SO hangs out with girls (if I know about it) but this situation is not cool!
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