(Closed) Am I risking being accused of upstaging my SIL?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 32
9352 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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LadyJDAG :  

I concur with everybody else, there is no way any reasonable person could see a private photoshoot, even one with a weddingy theme as upstaging  a ( as yet hypothetical ) wedding date.

I might  not use a it a FB pic though , or at least only use one of your faces maybe,  as I think that might be able to be  twisted into use as ammunition,  

Post # 33
228 posts
Helper bee

In some circumstances I am all for lining up preemptive strategies but in this case there is currently no drama and if drama ensues cross that bridge when you get to it.  You have IL issues which appear to be making you anxious talk to a professional who will give you specific coping strategies to deal with this. This may help as you navigate SILs wedding. Best of luck. 

Post # 34
154 posts
Blushing bee

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LadyJDAG :  unless you are doing the photo shoot during their wedding in front of them and their guests I don’t see an issue and how you doing a what sounds like a private photo shoot is upstaging anyone in any way..

Post # 35
4227 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

First and foremost, I LOVE your photoshoot idea!

To be honest, it wouldn’t have even occured to me that my IL’s would view something like a small photoshoot as upstaging a wedding! But if they truly ARE that petty, then it wouldn’t matter when you did the shoot…you could do no right with them anyways. I agree with your Darling Husband, just do it 🙂

Post # 38
3833 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

If they get upset about this they are absolutely ridiculous. That anyone could think your photoshoot affects your SILs wedding is completely beyond me. Do as you wish!

Post # 39
13022 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I fail to see how your private anniversary photo shoot has anything to do with anyone’s wedding or what difference the color of your outfit makes. 


Post # 40
569 posts
Busy bee

your friend is on crack. that’s just dumb. take your photos. live life. be happy. they’re photos. its not like you’re trying to renew your vows at you SILs wedding! LOL 

Post # 41
7140 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Unless you choose to hand out flyers of this photo-shoot at your SIL’s wedding, I fail to see the issue. Have your pictures taken, make photo albums of them, post them on social media, send copies of them to whomever might be interested, and have FUN! This has nothing whatsoever to do with your SIL’s wedding.

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