(Closed) Am I ruining it for myself??

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I know that it’s hard, but you do just need to let it be. You have told him what you need, so your job is done, he knows all that he needs to know now. Your job is to wait and let it happen, especially if you want something special. It’s not going to happen overnight. It’s easy to let waiting take over your life, but try your best not to let it. Drink a glass of wine and enjoy being with him for a little while!

Post # 4
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333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

i don’t think you should worry too much, and try to put it out of your mind (easier said than done!). i know a pretty specific timeframe in which my SO plans to propose, and even knowing that, i know it’s still going to be a surprise and romantic and very special! i’m convinced that even if you know it’s coming, when it actually happens, it’s still a shock and better than you ever imagined 🙂

Post # 5
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38 posts
Newbee

If you are wanting a surprise, I suggest to not bring up the engagement anymore.  I sorta knew the timeline my fiance would propose and was worried about the same thing.  When it did happen, I was totally surprised!  Go about how you normally would prior to everything and you’ll get your love story 🙂

Post # 6
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1013 posts
Bumble bee

@MissCT:  Agreed. Three months cushion is fine.  He could do it right away, or at the end.  You still dont know!

Post # 7
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6 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m in the same boat, except my SO has always mentioned he wants to propose in Hawaii because it would just be so romantic. He’s been there twice before we met, and I have never been there. And he told me that when we first met. The last few weeks he has started saving up for a trip that he really wants to take me on, because I should “really see Hawaii as soon as possible” (!!) And we’ve even gone ring shopping and I am nervous that it may ruin the trip if he doesn’t do it- that may be all I’m waiting for on that trip.

But one thing I’ve been learning while reading all these waiting posts and engagement stories, is that if there’s one place a guy is going to give it his all, is the proposal. And if he really wants it to happen and he knows what you want, you’ll get something very sweet and thought out. 

Post # 8
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2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m glad you are asking this question because YES, you are RUINING it for yourself!

I know people who have cried when friends have gotten engaged…it’s nuts! Let it happen on your own time and know that it will happen! You are putting unnecessary pressure on yourself and your bf. Don’t try to rush through life’s great events….let it happen in its own time…it will be better that way, trust me!

Post # 9
Hostess
11168 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

As someone who waited nearly six years for a proposal my answer is yes. Just sit back and enjoy this time of “pre-engagement” as it is a great time. All that excitement and suspense (which I know sucks sometimes) will lead to something amazing so use it to think positively and look towards the future.

Just relax and let this happen as it should. Pushing doesn’t do either of you any good. I know its hard but trust us fellow bees!

Post # 11
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8 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have been with my fiance for 8tyrants and we to knew we were going to get married, the more I brought it up the longer he pushed it back! I finally let iT go and he proposed and it was such a wonderful surprise! Pleaseeee stop bugging him and you need to relax about it because if he comes hone one day and goes here is your ring with no thought or surprise you will be forever disappointEd! But when you do get it you will appreciate him so much and i’ve planning like my crazy butt is! Haha hope this helped! Smile

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