(Closed) Am I Selfish? Nvm, I know I am; but am I being TOO selfish and inconsiderate?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m all for education and I’m especially for a female to go for it no matter what. Is doing a LDR an option? Is doing distance education, or part-time schooling, over the next year as you work & plan your wedding an option?

And I just want to point out that plenty of grad students have babies.

Post # 4
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Congrats on your up coming wedding.  I think you are in a difficult position but one thing at a time.  I think you should focus on the wedding and your FH finishing his schooling.  Having a Phd is a dream of yours but not a necessity.  Have you researched exactly what a Phd would do for your job prospects?? I did some research and it would not do much for me other than self satisfaction.  Maybe you just need a career change.  The wedding is a once in a lifetime.  You have your whole life to fulfill your education dreams.  By The Way I dont think you are being selfish at all.Good Luck

Post # 5
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687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am kind of in a similar situation, except opposite. I will finish my 3 year doctorate of physical therapy program about 6 weeks before our wedding. My Fiance moved with me so we could be together while I was in school. He moved away from a really good job and  had a rough go of it for the first year we were here, but things turned around for him quickly. He wants to finish up his schooling by getting his masters degree and we decided that he would continue working until I was done with my program and until we could relocate to the city of his top choice school. He moved here for me, so it’s only fair that I move where he wants to go for school too. This has turned into a little bit of a ramble, but I think my point is that there is lots of time for everyone and there is no right or wrong way to do things. 

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