Post # 1
Anyone waiting to have children into their 30’s? From what I read on the boards here, most people TTC for the first (or more) time, are doing this in their mid to late 20’s. I’m starting to feel like something is wrong with me for being reluctant to have a baby yet. I don’t want us to be old parents, but I’m not fully ready yet either, so I start to think maybe I should be and wonder why I’m not.
Tell me I’m not alone. Anyone TTC for the first time in their 30’s? Why did you wait?
Post # 3
No, you’re not strange! I do know there are quite a lot of bees who are going to TTC or pregnant in their 30s. I don’t fall in this category since I’m only 27. I will definitely fall in this category when we have our second child.
Here are some threads on it.
Pregnancy after 30- Give me hope!
30+year brides – who don’t have kids yet…
Post # 4
Your normal! People TTC based on a host of factors and some people simply don’t care about fretting over preparations or maturity. For each argument their are valuable points-its really just a personal choice.
How old are you now? Perhaps in a year or two you will feel differently 😉
I haven’t had a child yet but I too was interesting in waiting till at-least 30. My mood about it changes daily 🙂
Post # 5
Nope, you’re not strange. The 30’s board has lots of info/threads about age/TTC : ) Make sure you check those out, too. I’ll be in that group as well.
Post # 6
No, you’re not strange. I just posted something similar, feeling like all these people who are younger, married less time keep announcing they are pregnant.
Post # 7
I think the majority of women are in their 30s now arnt they?
All my friends who are TTC/ just had their first are in their 30s.
Whilst I am not intending to have children, if the urge overwhelms me I wouldn’t have one until I was around 31 32.
My good friend turned 40 just after her first. Bouncing healthy baby girl.
So no, your not strange lol
Post # 8
I read a study that said most women these days start thinking about children after they establish themselves in their career and get married. The average age for all of it is 32. And that’s not when they start popping out kids – that’s when they start thinking about it / TTC.
Post # 9
@firsttimemom: What study? I would like to read it.
Post # 10
Nope you’re not strange. I’m 27 now but have no intention of even discussing TTC for another 3 or so years, putting me in that 30s braket. Although we’re both financially and emotionally ready now, we’re just realy enjoying our lives and aren’t ready to give up some of that freedom just quite yet.
Post # 11
Your not strange at all!! I was about to write a post- dont know which category to put it in- about not wanting children at all or to have them later in life, I feel like some women are frowned upon on not wanting children, I dont understand why?! My friend gives me grief about why I dont want kids and if I dont feel the “urge” to have kids by the time my hubby and I are in our 30’s we will not have kids at all. I know right now I am not mentally/financially ready to have kids, and we are to selfish to have kids- we love our free time, going out when we want with out worrying about the kids, and no additional stress kids bring. So I give you a huge thumbs up on waiting, some women out there have kids when they should really wait!!
Post # 12
Not at all. I was 29 going on 30 when we started TTC and now 31 1/2. I NEVER wanted to be a young mother, and now that we will be adopting we are waiting longer. I have no issues waiting a year, 2 or even longer now bc there’s no pressure. I’m loving life and enjoying what I do have!
Post # 13
Well let’s see I am 37 and pregnant with my first child. Am 24 weeks along and everything is going awesome so far
Post # 14
I’m recently 30, and most of my friends are all starting TTC and having babies now. I think it is the norm. Well into 30s maybe not so much?
Post # 15
I think it depends on where you live and who your friends are. I recently turned 30, and we just started TTC. If I get pregnant soon, I will be one of the first from my group of friends to have a baby. (One other friend had her first baby a year ago.) Darling Husband is in his mid-30s, and most of his friends waited until mid-late 30s to have kids. You are certainly not alone. I often get the sense that the group on weddingbee is mostly a somewhat younger crowd…
Post # 16
Thanks for all the replies. I guess it seems like all the new pregnancies around me and on the bee are younger than me. I was starting to feel like there was something I’m missing or something wrong.
@skibobrown, I agree that where you are from makes a difference. When I was in my mid twenties, I lived in Boston. There, most women I knew were getting married in their late 20’s or early 30’s and TTC a few years later. But, I am originally from Florida which is where I live now. Here most women marry much younger and have children in thier 20’s.
@sassygrn CONGRATS and good luck! Love it :o)
@firsttimemom Although, I can’t say that I will be fully “established” in my career when I start TTC, I will be nearly done with my training. If I waited to get established, I’d probably be in my late 30’s. I have the man, the house, the degree, and the money, so I will bypass the established career part. Something’s got to give :o)