Post # 1
I have some very talented people in my life who have offered to help with invitations, cake, decor etc. I am extremely grateful for their help and I realize they all have a lot going on too. However, the wedding is 4 months away and we have barely discussed anything. No invitations designed, cake flavors decided, no decor decisions…Even with the bridesmaids; they have ordered their dresses and shoes but haven’t brought up a shower or bachlorette party. Can I even bring this up without being “bridezilla”? The knot says I should write lists of duties for everyone but is that tacky? I’m just starting to panic.
Thanks for any imput!!
Post # 3
i agree that it might be a little off-putting to write out “duties” for each person, as they are doing this out of their good graces and really aren’t obligated to do anything. Instead, I would take things one step at a time. Invitations will have to go out before the cake is baked, so work with that person first. He or she may be waiting for you to step in and ask about it, so I don’t think it would be inappropriate to send a kind email about the cake, decor, or invitations. I don’t think you need to be worrying too much, though. Also, in regards to your bridesmaids, they may be of the mindset that all they need to do is buy the dress and show up on the day of the wedding. i don’t think it’s up to you to disillusion them of this – you really can’t demand a shower or bachelorette party, so if they don’t happen they don’t happen.
Post # 4
We Have the same date!!! 🙂 I feel really behind too. We just started making our invites today. I haven’t had my girls order their dresses yet so you are good one that part. I think if you just start talking about ideas stuff will start to fall more into place. I wouldn’t wait too much longer though. I talked to my Maid/Matron of Honor about throwing a bridal shower for my side of the fam. So I don’t think that will make you a bridezilla.
Post # 5
to Cinnamon, I have talked about invitations with the person and how I wanted to get them out early (If we have a few no replies we can invite a few more without making them feel like an afterthought.) I even mentioned a date! The person has said several times, I will have them done by (insert date) and it doesn’t happen. You’re right, the cake and programs and that stuff can wait. With regards to shower/bachlorette party I wouldn’t be devestated if they didn’t happen but it would be fun.
to smdudek21-great day! I guess I don’t feel sooo behind. I think I just feel bad asking for things. I don’t want to offend or seem controlling. I’ve tried bringing it up casually and it seems to be interesting for the time being but never gets mentioned again. I feel selfish when I talk about the wedding constantly rather than what’s going on with them. Thanks, I feel less like a bridezilla 🙂