Post # 1
Me and my other have been together for 2 years now but jurecently got engagDining we always fight its uncommon for us to get along for a long period of time but we are still in love and enjoy eachothers company 🙂 for the past few months though he has hit me very hard several times, shoved me a few times, and seems to be drawn to porn … I love him so much though and I know he loves me but I’m not sure if this will end one day… He cries after it happens, begs me to hit him back and offers me thee world… Promises it will never happen again… Can I trust him though? Do I deserve better or should I stay where my heart is?
Post # 3
@DesiredSpirit: your relationship sounds so unhealthy and toxic (no offense). he is hitting you. Do you really need to ask if you can trust him, or if you deserve better? of COURSE YOU DESERVE BETTER. real men don’t hit women, and there are a million REAL, GENUINE, CARING men out there. leave. I knew of one abusive relationship that ended in the woman’s DEATH. just leave before this is you.
Post # 4
If he hits you, yes, you deserve better
Post # 5
@DesiredSpirit: sounds like tons of emotional and physical abuse going on here.
Post # 6
Honestly (and I’m sorry to say this) I would get out of that relationship. Absuive relationships are not something you deserve, and I would -personally- not trust that him hitting you would not happen again. I understand you love him and I understand this is a difficult postion to be in. I do not think you are stupid for staying, but I would highly advise putting serious thought into whether you can trust him.
In short, yes, you deserve better than to be abused, and sometimes you have to trust your head over your heart.
With that said, please BE CAREFUL. Be careful if you do decide to end things, and make sure you have someplace SAFE to go. I hope you can figure out what is right for you, I am sending you love.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
“Do I deserve better?” – YES. No one deserves to be physically abused. LEAVE NOW!
Post # 8
Don’t walk, run. Run far, far away. Your heart will lie to you and tell it he can change. He will not, not ever.
Post # 9
Leave; and don’t look back. True Love doesnt hurt!
Post # 10
As soon as I read that he hits you, I didn’t need to read further. Get out while you still can. Go, take your things or dont even take anything but go to somewhere you feel safe and never look back.
Post # 11
@DesiredSpirit: Any type of abuse is dangerous to you and to him. You need to get out, and get out now. Go as far away as possible, and make sure your family is aware of the situation so you can lean on them in what is sure to be a very difficult time for you. You deserve so much better than abuse of any kind.
Post # 12
@DesiredSpirit: you know what, I couldnt finish reading your story, GET OUT, YOU DESERVE BETTER. Do not sit there and wait till he will hit you and make love to you later. That’s not love. What is wrong with you? stand up for yourself, there are so many good men out there who would love, respect and adore you for who you are and not hurt you. Please leave . I know I am being harsh but I lost 4 years of my life for a man like that, and in a week I am marrieng the great man who loves, respects me and would never ever hurt me.
Post # 13
Leave him, please. You don’t deserve that bullshit.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@DesiredSpirit: A real man will never ever hit a woman, EVER. You need to walk out of this relationship and cut all contact with him. I have dated over 10 guys and not one has ever raised a hand to me. Being hit by your partner is not normal and completely unacceptable!
Post # 15
@DesiredSpirit: you are not stupid for staying! Leaving is hard(if you scroll down on the emotional board you will see my post about it). But what you wrote about is abuse. It made me afraid for your safety. I suggest calling the national domestic violence hotline, even if you just want to talk. 1-800-799-7233.
you deserve better. Lundy Bancroft has a book called why does he do that. There is a section about is he really changing.
Post # 16
When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE them!!! You need to leave him ASAP!