(Closed) Am I supposed to find out the name of the Guest someone is bringing?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2840 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t know about “supposed to” but I know that I put the name of the guest on the seating card.

Post # 4
9114 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Why would it be awkward if you asked?

“I’m making placecards. What’s your guest’s name?”

What’s so weird about flat out asking?

Post # 5
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yes, I am finding out guest’s names so I can do the seating chart with everyone’s names. I’d just shoot her a text/facebook message/call/face to face and say, “Hey Jane, we are so excited you’re coming to the wedding! We are making up seating arrangements. What is your guest’s name so we can add that in? Can’t wait to see you!”

Post # 6
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m doing group placecards…

Mr & Mrs John Smith

Miss Mary Jane & Guest


The way I addressed an invite is the way their placecards will read. If that bothers someone well.. they should have told me when they RSVP’d 🙂

Post # 7
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yes, they are expected to provide the name of the guest. If not, then yes, you should ask. I think it’s better for all the placecards/escort cards to have names rather than so and so’s guest. We had to ask a few people. Apparently, one person wrote guest because she wasn’t sure who to bring. She ended up providing a name right before our deadline.

Post # 8
3267 posts
Sugar bee

Definitely the name.  To be called Guest when that is not your name is rude.  All of your guests should be treated equally. 


Post # 9
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Yes, you should know all of your guests’ names.  If you are letting people have +1s, they are essentially your guests.

Post # 10
1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You should at least try to find out the name. Also, you could do place cards with both names on them, “Mrs. Jane Doe and Guest” or “Mrs. Jane Doe and  Mr. Bob Bobingston.”

I tried to get names of guests, but some people never responded (seriously, how hard is it to tell me a name!?) Those people who didn’t tell me got a “…and guest” place card.

Post # 11
3120 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would only worry about it if you’re doing escort cards or a seating chart. 

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