Post # 1
I am begininng to think that I am nothing more than an afterthought.
I have been with my current boyfriend for 7 years now. We are in our mid 30’s. He was married before and was with her engaged and married in less than 5 years. He has made the comment before that marriage is just a piece of paper. So we are not even engaged. At one point he even said he cant save for a ring. But he was able to save for his car downpayment and to go to his brothers destination wedding that is coming up. I am not going. I wasn’t invited. We recently went to a friends wedding and another friend asked if I was going to the brothers wedding. I didnt know anything about it nor did I even know they had got engaged. They told me the emails went out six months prior and my bf’s email was on the lsit. So they invited him and he never even mentioned it to me. He had made plans to go and stay with his other brother and then tried to casually ask me what i as planning in July. He also didnt tell me about their state side reception thats coming nor did I get an invite, it went to him and he said nothing. So I am good enough to live with, but not to attend a destination wedding for the brother. After 7 years of no commitment should I consider it a bust?
Post # 3
Yes, yes you are. Go find someone who makes you a priority!!
Post # 4
Did you confront him about not inviting you or even telling you?
Post # 5
Definitely a bust, sorry.
Post # 6
trust your gut feelings, you know you deserve better than this. time to plan a getaway for yourself!
Post # 8
brettashley : I did. And his logic is that he wanted to see if he was even going to go. But by the time he told me he had already booked the room etc with his family. He knew for 6 months and never even mentioned that it was a possibility to go or not go. One would think you would tell your significant other if A. your family member got engaged and 2. thet an invite was sent for a destination wedding
Post # 9
Yeahhhh this is going nowhere. Cut bait and get out of there. This is a huge waste of time. Sorry bee.
Post # 10
whyme22 : Yeah… Go be in a relationship with someone who is excited to be with you. It’s been 7 years and he doesn’t even consider you “destination wedding date material”. Move on.
Post # 11
whyme22 : run, run as fast as you can. You deserve better.
Post # 12
His response is BS. He should have contacted his brother to clarify that you have been a couple for 7 years and that he expected you to be included in the invitation. Instead, he hid it from you. What does that say to you?
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2019 - USA
whyme22 : That’s not acceptable behavior bee. Someone who respects you would at least tell you what’s going on in their life. I mean… SEVEN YEARS??? Why wouldn’t you be invited anyway? Leave him and find someone who actually wants you to be part of their life.
Post # 14
I bet he’s planning to take someone else. Everyone knows but you. His friends are sick of covering for him, so they decided to throw him under the bus by mentioning the wedding. Why else hide such a big event? Clearly he didn’t want you tagging along. If the invite didn’t include a plus one, he could have told you that six mos ago. Or if his parents are paying his airfare to make it possible for him to attend, he could have told you that too. Why hide it, you ask? Because there’s something to hide.
Post # 15
bearinabeecostume : It wasn’t a formal invitation. The email that went out to everyone was a Save the date for our destination wedding. It had all the details so people could book/save early etc. He is paying. We got into an argument over it and he tried to say it was only going to cost him $1000. However, I had already called the wedding location/planner from the email and they sent me pricing. It is roughly $2500 a person because of the airfare. He is sharing a room with his younger brother. He casually mentioned if I had plans for July but I flipped out because I already found out that he knew for 6 months.