Post # 61
L606 : He did eventually ask me if I woul want to go away in July. Of course thats when i let him know that i wasnt planning on going to the wedding since he knew about it for six months and I had to find out from others. By that point I would have been the third person in the room since he already booked the room with his other brother. It would have been okay if we booked the room and then he asked if his brother could stay in our room to help save him some money, but I refuse to be the third wheel. I am not close to his brother and now fiance. A few years back a friend of our broke up with his gf. I told her it would be okay and that he is a narcissist and some men are not meant to be with others. She went and told him and he then told the social circle of friends. Such drama. But I wouldnt back down. So his brother and fiance were like “you should defend your friends, not her”. Needless to say I havent talked to them much since. The irony is that the rest of the social circle calls that friend a jerk, and A-hole etc because of the way he treats people. But it wasn’t okay that I said he was narcissistic. My bf agreed with my comment but wouldnt stand up to his brother and fiance.
Post # 62
whyme22 : The family is excluding you, as is he, because he doesn’t consider you to be a serious partner. Whatever he is saying, doing, or indicating to them makes them KNOW that you are not an investment and do not have a future with him.
Now, his behavior patterns are saying the SAME thing directly to YOU.
Process that information, and then take steps to remove him from your life.
I had an older brother, I have many male friends. This is exactly the pattern of someone who sees no future value in you.
Post # 63
The more you update, the more it sounds like he’s told his family that you are already broken up.
Post # 64
whyme22 : I cant say at this point that I would want to go on the vacation either.
But apart from this stuff… is there anything you feel is off or wrong in your relationship? I am not too sure where to go from here. A lot of people are saying break up, but obviously we dont know the full story of how he really is and treats you – only you do.
If this is not the only instance that he has made you feel like ana fter thought, it might be time to rethink some things.
Post # 65
Um you are his roommate with girlfriend benefits this is insane.
Post # 66
whyme22 : Wait I’m not sure I understood the story about his brother & fiancé — are you saying that your boyfriend publically took sides against you while agreeing in private?
Regardless, your boyfriend isn’t worth your time. I hope you make plans to leave him as soon as possible.
Post # 67
I would find this extremely hurtful. Who wants to go to a wedding without their girlfriend or a date? My only thought on this is maybe he doesn’t want you to come because he is planning a really crazy inappropriate bachelor party there and doesn’t want you to know about it? The good part about this is you can start to plan your own destination wedding with someone other than him. Please dump him ASAP. I get the sense his family doesn’t want him to marry you or they would be inquiring why you weren’t coming to the wedding. Although very hurtful, take this as a sign that there is someone much better out there for you.