Am I the afterthought

posted 3 months ago in Relationships
Post # 62
1015 posts
Bumble bee

whyme22 :  The family is excluding you, as is he, because he doesn’t consider you to be a serious partner. Whatever he is saying, doing, or indicating to them makes them KNOW that you are not an investment and do not have a future with him.

Now, his behavior patterns are saying the SAME thing directly to YOU.

Process that information, and then take steps to remove him from your life.

I had an older brother, I have many male friends. This is exactly the pattern of someone who sees no future value in you.

Post # 63
554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

The more you update, the more it sounds like he’s told his family that you are already broken up.

Post # 64
2890 posts
Sugar bee

whyme22 :  I cant say at this point that I would want to go on the vacation either. 

But apart from this stuff… is there anything you feel is off or wrong in your relationship? I am not too sure where to go from here. A lot of people are saying break up, but obviously we dont know the full story of how he really is and treats you – only you do. 

If this is not the only instance that he has made you feel like ana fter thought, it might be time to rethink some things. 

Post # 65
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Um you are his roommate with girlfriend benefits this is insane.

Post # 66
1295 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

whyme22 :  Wait I’m not sure I understood the story about his brother & fiancé — are you saying that your boyfriend publically took sides against you while agreeing in private?

Regardless, your boyfriend isn’t worth your time. I hope you make plans to leave him as soon as possible. 

Post # 67
63 posts
Worker bee

I would find this extremely hurtful. Who wants to go to a wedding without their girlfriend or a date? My only thought on this is maybe he doesn’t want you to come because he is planning a really crazy inappropriate bachelor party there and doesn’t want you to know about it? The good part about this is you can start to plan your own destination wedding with someone other than him. Please dump him ASAP.  I get the sense his family doesn’t want him to marry you or they would be inquiring why you weren’t coming to the wedding. Although very hurtful, take this as a sign that there is someone much better out there for you. 


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