Post # 1
Hello, I’d like to have people’s comments on this video.
We used to live with my parents in law house. But I couldn’t get along with them. They ignored my son and me several times and yelled at me in front of him. They lied about me. We moved out from their house. And I did’t want to go back to there. But I wanted to be nice, I went back there to let my mother in law play with my son. That’s what my husband wanted.
When we arrived, my mother in law told me that “Why are you carrying him(my 2 year old son)!? He is not a baby!” and “I heard you bought a celling fan. Do you need to remove it when you move out?”. And she was telling us we should put a sticker on our new apartment’s window. My husband and I told her the reason why we don’t need it. But she insited we should put a sticker. Since my husband gets influenced by her a lot, I’m worried my husband will be brainwashed by her. I told her that “Please try not to controll us”. (No interfere was only my condintion when we moved in. I belive they knew that.) She and my husband got mad. She left the room. My husband told me that I cannot leave the room until she gets playtime with my son.
I asked her to play with my son. She said that she doesn’t want to play with him until my son talks at least one Chinese or English. She was yelling at me. I asked her to calm down because it’s not good for a child. She just said “No!!! I’m mad!!!”.
My husband convinced her to play. He asked me if I want her to speak in Chinese or English. I answered that “Either one is fine.”
My husband started taking our video. Then she started repeating “Don’t controll me”. I thought that’s crazy. And I wanted to leave. Because I was there for her. And I thought “why I need to let her play with my son if she is so mad”.
I urged to my son. But I guess she thought I wanted to fight against her. So an another argument happened.
Could you please check my video from 3:00? What do you think? Recently, my husband threatens me that he will talk about me badly to our 3 years old son if I leave him. I used to think my husband and his parents are abusive. But I’m getting confused. And I’m worried that he will show this video to our son. (Content moderated) My family doesn’t understand English, so I needed someone who can comment on this!
Post # 3
What the hell did I just read?!?
Your poor son shouldn’t be witnessing these family domestics. Your husband has said he will talk about you badly to your son if you leave?? What?? What kind of loving relationship is that?? He shouldn’t be threatening you of any sort and definitely shouldn’t be bringing your son into it.
Are you chinese? Do you have any family or close friends near you? I think you need a bit of support at the moment because you are going to have to try and untangle yourself from this mess of family, if you can’t do it for yourself do it for your son. I think you need to contact a lawyer and a counselor.
Also, stop worrying about who is the bad person in this!! That’s irrelevant!! Just get help to get out of this unhealthy mess of a situation for your son’s sake
Post # 5
I’m afraid to click the link because I’m not sure of its validity
Post # 6
Sorry bee, I have moderated the link as am not sure of the validity and I for one would not want to click on it.
Post # 7
i think you have a serious problem but i cannot see the video. it does not sound like you should visit your mother in law if there is that conflict. also it is for me a red flag that your husband is not choosing your side. your man must always be on your side and have your back. that is what it is being married. that person is choosing you over any one and every one else
Post # 8
This is incredibly stupid and short-sighted, but it does explain a lot.
Your train of thought is incoherent, and I don’t believe it’s because English is your second language.
Post # 9
It seems like you’re in a bad relationship with a family that doesn’t like you.
Post # 10
I think you need therapy for you and your husband to deal with his mother. It’s clear she doesn’t like you and wants your husband to still listen to her and doesn’t care about your feelings. I’d stay out of that until she can be more civil with you since your son doesn’t need to see family drama like that all the time.
Post # 11
If your husband is not on your side, nothing any of us can say will help you.
Post # 12
Could you please put the link back until you atually watch the video and confirm that the vidoe’s unvalid?
Post # 13
You do not sound like a bad person. It seems like you are in a very bad situation. I sincerely hope you find a solution.
Post # 14
Sorry, I don’t want to run the risk of infecting my computer. There is no need anyway. Your description of the situation is enough. Also, if you need people to review footage of your family dynamic that probably tells you all you need to know. Sorry bee.
Post # 15
I am trying to go back to my country. Because he threatens me a lot and my parents in law and my husband don’t hesitate to scold at me in from of my son. Yesterday, he told me that I need to pay rent if I don’t have sex tonight. I don’t think that’s how he should have sex with someone.