(Closed) Am I the only anti-rustic bride out there?

posted 6 years ago in Themes
Post # 136
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Helper bee

Nope. You’re not alone. I’ve seen burlaps and mason jars everywhere that I’m starting to loathe the idea. Wayyyy overdone. Simple elegance is definitely what I’ll go for

Post # 137
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m so confused.  If you are having a rustic wedding (great for you), why are you opening this thread just to get heated and then throw down the “classic, elegant” weddings WE like?  You do realize that by being on your high horse of “why do you have to be so mean??” you are doing the exact same thing.  The purpose of the thread, I’m sure, wasn’t to bash rustic.  It was to find other people with a similar aesthetic.  It’s hard to be wedding planning in some areas and NOT have a rustic wedding.  It’s nice to hear from other people that they are in the same boat.  We aren’t saying that rustic wedding people suck.  We are just saying they’re not our style.  It’s not personal.  Stop getting so upset.  

You don’t have to read every thread on the bee.  Tons of threads aren’t relevant to me, like all the TTC and baby threads, so I don’t open them.  You know what we are talking about in this thread.  If it upsets you, open the ones that talk about HOW to do rustic!  There are plenty. 

Post # 138
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t care for rustic type weddings but I do see why they r popular. They’re darling! Tons of cute, lesser expensive, easy to DIY ideas r put out there in every bridal magazine, on pinterest, at bridal fairs etc. It’s extremely difficult to find things to buy that r NOT rustic/vintage, depending on where u live. Especially that does not look like 90s cheesy plastic decor from a big box craft store. I took 18 months planning trying to avoid rustic vintage shabby chic, and every other pinterest trend. I don’t like rustic, but I also don’t like glam crystal blingy, and I also don’t like modern deco, I don’t like Disney, nerdy, I don’t like Gatsby, old Hollywood, beach themes or the like, and I dont like feathers and tulle etc etc. Basically, I dont like themes. If I had to call mine a theme, I’d call it botanical/natural, but that’s what I chose because that’s what I love. I certainly wouldn’t disparage anyone’s choices because weddings r too individual.

Post # 139
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I live in a major city so I’ve never been to a rustic wedding. I would love to attend one. I don’t see how someone can say someone else’s theme or idea isn’t “elegant” or classy. I hope for all that said that you are having some major six-figure black-tie affair. If not, get off your high horse.

Post # 140
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Definitely not alone!! We will not have any burlap, mason jars, boots, hay bales, chalkboards, etc. it’s not my style and few people make it look good. 

Post # 141
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA

The only rustic wedding I’ve been to was held at a country club. The decor was super cute, but I didn’t feel went with the venue. I think if you’re going to do a rustic wedding, the venue needs to match the theme. 

I know rustic weddings are still really popular based on all the pins on Pinterest.  I think when they’re done well, they look wonderful and can be very personal looking. I won’t say unique, because honestly, there’s no such thing as a unique wedding–everything has been done before. I don’t think brides should go for unique–they should go for personal.

I thought about doing a rustic wedding for about 5 minutes, because I saw all these beautiful pictures on Pinterest. But then I realized, rustic is not personal for us. 

Post # 142
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My wedding is not rustic but people have classified it as such. I am having a FALL wedding. With glass jars (not mason), candals, and burlap glued around it. My colors are brown, Ivory, and Red with touches of orange, plum, maroon, and other fall colors. My wedding is FALL themed. Because since I was a little girl that is all I ever wanted. Before I even knew rustic was a thing I came up with everything I wanted and now that rustic is a theme EVERY likes to comment on the fact that we are having a “rustic” wedding. NO….IT…IS….AN….AUTUMN WEDDING! grr. 

<rant over>

Post # 143
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Helper bee

As someone who also did NOT have a “rustic” wedding, I still think this thread is loaded with a bunch of absolute a-holes. Let’s all take a look at your weddings and judge all of the details that we deem tacky, classless and low-budget.

Get over yourselves. 

Post # 144
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Helper bee

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bgu073:  yum yum! Can you introduce me to some of your friends?! ;P

Post # 146
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Helper bee

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Mrs_Amanda: I think by “budget wedding”, that 
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theshannondee: was referring to the hardworking brides who actually have to fund their OWN weddings… The ones who prefer to invest their money on less important things like their home,reliable  transportation, savings and such.

Believe it or not, but for those who don’t have the luxury of their parents paying in full for their wedding (looking at you, theshannondee), they actually choose to have (GASP!) a “budget wedding” rather than go into debt on a single day… Regardless if their decor screams “budget” or not.  

Post # 147
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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PoliticallyIncorrect: right, because I am the only one who mentioned associating rustic and budget. I have seen super cute cheap backyard weddings that did not have to heavily rely on mason jars and burlap as a crutch. To each their own. 

Post # 148
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Fiance and I are eloping so we don’t have any theme. Rustic themes don’t bother me. I find many of the rustic decorations attractive, especially when the bride is skilled at DIYing.

I don’t think any theme is more indicative of sophistication or wealth or whatever. Best not to make assumptions about other people’s degree of worldliness or elegance based on that. LOL You would be surprised.

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