(Closed) Am I the only anti-rustic bride out there?

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Post # 61
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Busy bee

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akkaer1:  you would regret mason jars but not Disney at your adult wedding?

Post # 62
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

wasn’t my taste at all.  i got married less than a year ago.  mine was classy and elegant.

Post # 63
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My wedding decor is a mash of anything I have found that I have liked. I have incorporated burlap in a couple signs (for cards on the card basket, and then a Mr. & Mrs. sign for the head table).

But, my center pieces for the reception are just tall vases (about a foot tall) on a round mirrored tile. The vase will have a 2″ rhinestone fabric around the bottom, a floating candle in it, and then maybe some petals or candy surrounding the vase it.

We are also using a lot of chalkboards for signed, not sure what category that fits into. I wanted to do that so I could maybe use them for something else later. Plus, it sure beat buying an already-made sign that I wouldn’t use later on, and would *maybe* get it to sell.

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

 

seevang:  LOL Try being in the south (where it’s in everyones wedding) and not wanting a rustic wedding., You should see the looks I get when people ask me about my wedding and I say it’s Classic Vintage and they are all oh I love Burlap and I stop them and say there will be NO burlap, Mason jars or anything like that at my wedding. My venue has all antique tables and chairs and I and a simple clean classic look. I may live in the south but I am not country and do now ant any Burlap or any of that stuff in my wedding!

Post # 65
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Honestly its not any more trite to me than a stuffy ballroom/banquet hall/ballgown/tight ball of roses wedding which is just a snooze fest.

Im throwing an elegant, vintage, bohemian garden party wedding that will be quite original in the floral dept and the whole thing will reflect my style/aesthetic. There will be no burlap and mason jars. But it is outdoors, in the south, with a barn on site so I could very well get lumped into “rustic” but its just not, and IDGAF.

Theres a reason youll never see me asking decor/style/fashion questions… I am literally a professional with that stuff and have my own style that I never second guess!  But to the PP who said nothing is new: truth! We just recycle ideas through our own lenses.

Post # 66
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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seevang:  I can relate! I’m a wedding photographer, and I always giggle to myself when I hear a bride say something like, “I have this idea to have a rustic wedding. I know it’s different but bear with me here..” I always think to myself, “Have you even looked at our blog lately??”

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Post # 67
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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seevang:  We’re doing a woods theme because we are outdoorsy – hunt, fish, camp, I work in lakes – and I swear, if one more person asks me if I’m using mason jars and burlap for decor and if they should pick some up, that person is going to get severely glared at. Lol. We’re using a lot of ferns and wood as decor and hoping that will be different enough to be ‘woodsy’ themed instead of the cookie cutter ‘rustic’ theme. 

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Worker bee

Since when does a bride have to stick with a theme she grew up in?  I wasn’t swaddled in sequins or had uplighting in my childhood bedroom–am I not allowed to do a classy hotel ballroom wedding?  That’s ridiculous…have the wedding you want, regardless of “how you grew up”.

Post # 69
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Blushing bee

Rustic/vintage/whimsical weddings seem like a natural push-back to all the weddings from the 90s and 00s that got increasingly “bling-y,” with all the uplighting and beading and 6-foot cylinder vases and crystals draped everywhere. Sure, a lot of brides are wearing lace and tulle now, but that’s just a change from every single satin strapless sweetheart a-line dress we saw at every wedding in 2005. Grooms in gray suits and suspenders are just a change from grooms unfamiliar with formal wear looking uncomfortable in badly-fitting tux rentals. And, to be honest, when people who aren’t used to formality in their regular lives try to do “elegant,” the results are often an eyesore. So, no, it doesn’t bother me. The next wave of style will probably be a push-back against rustic– perhaps stark and modern. That’s okay too.

Post # 70
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Everyone has their own ideas as to what they want for their wedding. You can be anti-whateveryouwant and I’m sure there will be someone else out there that agrees with you.

I’m in Chicagoland and the “elegant, upscale” is all I ever see and I think THAT is overdone. To each their own. I don’t start threads putting it down.

This is not the first thread that puts down rustic weddings. These threads made me feel so bad about my planning I actually was almost in tears because I saw how many people said it was “too overdone” and they hated it. Why do you have to put it down? What’s the point? So you feel validated that your wedding is better?

I’m probably being way too sensitive, and I know you have the right to start whatever thread you want. But I just don’t see the point of these threads and they pop up all the time.

Post # 71
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Buzzing bee

It seems that the majority of people who replied to this thread have modern, classy upscale weddings. So could one argue that those are being overdone?

Again, live and let live.

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FutureMrsGG:   Dont feel bad for what you are doing. Embrace it. If people don’t like it they can kiss your ass. And don’t allow people you don’t know dictate how you should feel ๐Ÿ™‚  If you love rustic, embrace it. Because I have a sneaking suspicion that in a few months people will start to say that gold, classy, gatsby etc. are overdone. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 72
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Let it be. LET IT BEEEEEEE.

 

Do what you want. Who cares whats in or whats new or whats over done?

 

rustic or ballroom or whatever it is. its your idea and your wedding ๐Ÿ™‚

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Helper bee

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MrsBuesleBee:  Exactly!!!! +1,0000

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bgu073:  Fave part of your comment “when people aren’t used to formality in their regular lives…” This statement is soooooo true.

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FutureMrsGG: I think that “thing being overdone” is relative to the community that one is talking to. Of course a bride/wedding site is going to feel lots of things are overdone…duh because we have made wedding details our business for the past months years of our lives.

Like pps have said nothing is really and truly original when it comes to your wedding. The only qualm I have is when your wedding isn’t cohesive. Not to say it has to have a theme, but half of the flowers shouldn’t look very minimalistic and contemporary and right next to it is a very tradtional casket-looking spray of roses.

Post # 74
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I wouldn’t say I’m “anti-rustic” because I have seen them done really beautifully, and to each her own and all… What I will say is that it’s so frustrating trying to describe my vision as “woodsy” and “natural” without people cutting me off and saying “oh you mean rustic?”  Um, no, I don’t mean rustic.  Rustic (to me) is barn doors and mason jars tied with burlap and cowboy boots under dresses.  Not the same at all.

At least one friend was recently telling me how excited she was for my wedding and what she thought it was going to be like- she definitely was envisioning a lot of those rustic things and I just laughed like what on earth gave you the impression we were going full rustic?  Haha       

Post # 75
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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FutureMrsGG:  I knew better than to read this thread but I did it anyway. Thanks for standing up for those of us who do dig rustic and vintage and whatever burlap we want! My wedding fit who my my husband and I are at heart….that’s what its all about! We had burlap and lace and birdcages and dried lavender and ferns…groomsmen in vests…and it was amazing! ๐Ÿ™‚

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