Post # 1
FH and I were talking about this the other day. We are not card people. We dont care if people get us cards or not. We would rather have the $3 someone spent on the card then the card itself.
It seems like everyone gets upset if they don’t get cards are we the only ones!
And I mean cards for everything not just the wedding but birthdays etc. FH and I NEVER get each other cards
Post # 3
Oh…don’t even get me started. Some people apparently get VERY insulted if you don’t get them a card for their wedding. Especially if you don’t give it to them within a week of their wedding. We, on the other hand, wouldn’t think anything of it if we didn’t get a card from someone. I think it’s a touchy subject with some people. I say if you know they’ll be upset, try to remember the card. I wish I had!
Post # 4
I’m a split decision. If it’s a casual friend, then skip the card. If it’s for my best friend, sister or Fiance, I buy or make cards so I can tell them how much I appreciate them.
Post # 5
If they’re not going to give a gift, I’d like to have a card… that way I can at least pretend they care (because I have no idea if they just bought the first wedding card they found or if they read through a whole display before choosing one).
Of course, in all honesty, I’d rather have gifts – items, gift cards, money. lol
Post # 6
@FutureMrsSpinewiz: I’m with you!
If they aren’t going to get a gift, at least pretend like you care about the couple and are excited for them and get them a card with a nice note.
Post # 7
I don’t like to keep “things” (thanks to shows like Horders) but I always feel bad when I throw a card away. I would much rather someone call or email on my birthday etc. that way I dont have the guilt of getting rid of their card.
Post # 8
I personally really like cards but that’s because I love to spend time picking out the perfect ones and giving them to other myself.
That said, I don’t expect everyone else to be as weird as me. 🙂
Post # 9
@mishelleez: Thank you!!! I feel the exact same way. I thought this was one of those cultural things I just didn’t get due to not having grown up in the States. Every birthday and Christmas I wonder, I’m already telling them happy birthday or merry christmas to their face, it’s not like they’re on the side of the world, why do I have to write it on a fancy piece of paper too??? My husband tells me that’s just the way it’s done and everyone expects one.
Post # 10
My husband hates cards so much, but I love them! I save cards from years ago!! I dont like just the card itself, but rather what someone writes in it. If I give a card to someone I always try to write something meaningful and memorable. But I totally understand where you are coming from!
Post # 11
I think cards are fine if you really like them. I love reading cards that are funny. My family never did cards from each other but FI’s family is really into cards. Go figure.
Post # 12
I love cards. I love buying them, sending them, writing them out, and of course, receiving them! I am a little nutso though so I don’t expect everyone to feel the same. I have a few friends who I know couldn’t care less so I skip them for the more mundane occasions.
Post # 13
Lol I love cards too! Fiance doesn’t really understand them and thinks it’s funny how I run around and get so excited about them. He says that before he met me he always wondered who shops in stores like Hallmark and how they stay open. He thinks I’m singlehandedly keeping them in business. 🙂 I know it’s totally irrational but cards are just fun.
Post # 14
I wasn’t before, but my hubby is and he turned me.
Post # 15
I hate cards. I don’t mind reading the funny ones, but if its the long “I love you, let me count the ways one” I totally skip over, say thank you to the person (if they are in front of me) other than that-I toss it in the recycle pile.
BF never gets me cards, if I get him a card its because it has a funny picture of an animal on it or something silly like that.
Post # 16
I have never been a card person either. To me cards = clutter. All my friends know that I don’t like cards, because in my eyes the card will just get thrown away the second after I read it. Letters on the other hand are totally different. I guess I feel like it takes an effort to write something from scratch vs just buying a card and putting your name in it. I know I’m bad but I equate cards with money so when I open a card and there is no gift card or money in it I’m dissapointed and just feel like you wasted $1-3.