(Closed) AM I THE ONLY ONE!?!?!?!?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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2247 posts
Buzzing bee

I feel that way everyday, nearly.  On the rare occasion am I actually excited, anymore.  We’re far over our budget/guest limit, to the point where I have no idea how we’re gonna pull this off.  The stress of that, alone, is enough to make me sick.  Then, there’s: My dress doesn’t fit, I just found out I won’t have any money coming in until August, people inviting themselves, my phobia of standing up front of the crowd….

I keep saying that the day after my wedding will be the happiest day of my life.

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

When i read your post it could just as well have been me. I was at that point where i was so over all the rubbish and the fussing and the family opinions. The wedding became more stress than love. But now i’m 10 days out, and just filled with excitement. And okay, still a bit of worry. But it will get better – trust me i have been there.

Post # 20
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304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Not alone. I feel like I’m spending our entire life savings on a big party for my in-laws. I feel like every choice I made was done to please my Future Mother-In-Law and i’m starting to feel resentful. We wanted to elope but the in laws wouldn’t let us. The money part id the worst though. Fiance and I are on edge all the time about it.

Fun times!!

 

Post # 21
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1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I felt the same way.  I love being married, but planning the damn wedding was way too much work.  I’m much happier now that I have my weekends back!  Hang in there.

Post # 22
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I feel the same way too!!! Looking forward to the day of, but moreso the marriage. So sick of all the BS that comes with wedding planning! 

Post # 23
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416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel like its a circus. At this point i really want it to just be me and my fiance at a courthouse and then off to a honeymoon.

Im feeling embarrased that all these people are coming to watch us get marrried bc on a day to day basis, none of them seem to be concerned with me and my fiance.

 

 

 

Post # 24
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170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think you’re over stressing it… things change a lot during the planning process for many different reasons. I had a six month engagement and in less than two months ill be married and things have been so fast paced. sometimes I do freak out but i’ve just decided that I seriously do not care about having the perfect pintrest wedding… I secretly believe they don’t really exist and are just made up to make us all feel horrible about our weddings… lol. When I first started planning I had so many things invisioned about the day and so far I’ve gotten nothing I originally wanted… even my colors changed! I had a saturday booked at my dream venue just to find out its the day my fiances step dad died… after a lot of crying from fmil’s part I changed it to a friday… but omg nooo a friday is just bad luck apparently so I had to go with freakin sunday!!Lol my point is things change when planning a wedding and you just have to roll with it or else you’re just not gonna make it in one piece. 

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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@mrsginmay:   I feel like I’m spending our entire life savings on a big party for my in-laws.


That’s exactly how I feel about it!  My family (all 2 members) live on the other side of the world…my mother due to health reasons can’t travel anymore, and I doubt my brother will be able to afford to.  Unfortunately Fiance, even though he’s an only child, has a huge amount of cousins, etc….and the bloody Future In-Laws have already made it clear that they expect a huge party.  But have also made it clear they won’t even be helping to pay for it…

They didn’t like it when my Fiance didn’t have a 40th party – we went on holiday instead.  And Future Father-In-Law managed to wreck our engagement party by sulking because he thought none of his family had been invited….they all had, none of them could actually be bothered to attend (which was also hurtful to me).

So yeah, I’m pretty much angling for an elopement.  I’ve been married before, had the big day.  I hated it then, don’t want it again, certainly don’t want to pay for it!  Luckily I have plenty of time to convince Fiance…

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