(Closed) Am I the only one…

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Helper bee

I thought there was no judgement? But I think people who say they don’t get it, do in fact get it. It’s not a tough concept, it’s just not for everyone. Some people are sentimental about jewelry and some aren’t, or if they are they can be so with multiple rings. Seems pretty simple to me anyway.

Post # 33
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Helper bee

 

mrsv18 :  That made me chuckle. “It’s not a cell phone.” 

Post # 34
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Helper bee

alessia :  We understand the concept intellectually, we just don’t understand the appeal. Hence, I don’t get it. 

Post # 35
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Blushing bee

alessia :  Yeah definitely a lot of judgement in here. People have given reasons in this very thread why their multiple sets/bands are sentimental for them and none of the reasons had to do with one upping anyone and everything to do with sentimental elements of their marriage. It’s really simple. People own multiple rings that symbolize their marriage and choose to wear those rings on the finger that society has deemed to symbolize marriage. Why would they wear them on other fingers/hands? What is there to “get?” If I can get why someone would be attached to one wedding set and not want another what is so hard to understand about someone expanding those feelings of attachment to other rings that symbolize their marriage and wanting to wear them on their ring finger? 

What else is there to “get” or are you just being obtuse on purpose because of your own biases? 

Post # 36
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Helper bee

prism :  of course, I’m not implying anyone is stupid and literally doesn’t get it. But plenty of posters have given pretty good reasons I think as to why it appeals to them. I think it’s cool that everyone’s so different in this way. I can’t relate myself to being attached to one set of rings, but I see the appeal in the sentiment and I think it’s sweet, even if I don’t feel that way. Likewise I think it’s cool people can rock different wedding sets on that finger and make different rings special.

Post # 37
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Helper bee

alessia :  I mean everyone has an opinion or preference. I don’t understand the appeal but I also don’t give a hoot what anyone else chooses to wear on their fingers.

Post # 38
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Helper bee

libra12 :  If I were to do this personally I know my husband would be a little hurt like what he gave me wasn’t good enough. So there’s that perspective for you. I have other rings but I don’t wear them on that finger. For me I will only ever have one engagement and wedding ring. The rest would just be fake even if they were better quality. I don’t care what anyone else does, it just doesn’t appeal to me personally. You’re making it very serious and getting bent out of shape.

Post # 40
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Blushing bee

prism :  How am I the one getting bent out of shape? I just provided examples of how more than one wedding set can be sentimental or symbolic and so did others in this thread and people keep stating that they don’t understand. I just threw it out there that maybe biases are getting in the way of understanding a simple concept since people keep stating that they don’t understand despite multiple examples. I didn’t quote people I disagreed with or attack anyone, just emphasized the examples of different emotional connections to rings. 

Post # 41
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Sugar bee

Stay married long enough. This is not my exact ring but pretty danged close! My center stone is larger and an I1. Mine is even thicker because I have 4 diamonds stacked instead of 3. My husband did the best he knew at the time. The jeweler told him it was FABULOUS and he paid a pretty penny for that ring. I LOVED the ring. I still have it and I’ll never part with it but I ain’t wearing that thing…lol. Trends are not the same over long spans of time nor are people. I also used to wear purple mascara and Candies shoes. It’s jewelry.

Post # 42
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Bumble bee

mrsv18 :  I dont “get” how a person think that starting a thread about not understanding why people have multiple sets and after a few people stated why, can then say “it’s not a cell phone” and says she’s not judging…

Post # 43
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Helper bee

libra12 :  Just because you explained your perspective doesn’t mean people are going to “get” the appeal. You shared your opinion and I shared mine. I’m not going to call anyone obtuse over it or imply they are being simple minded. 

Post # 44
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Helper bee

leilarobs2 :  That I can see, with a unique style of ring that is specific to a certain time period. When thinking about myself I just have a classic solitaire so I didn’t consider specific styles that way. Touché 

Post # 45
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Helper bee

arosebyanyothername :  I guess it’s ok to pity the men (or women) other people are married to. But honestly you can leave my husband out, lol- we are not traditional and although he did gift me a ring it was after we counted ourselves engaged. And he honestly couldn’t care less if I stopped wearing it altogether.

 

for the record, the day we decided to be engaged still feels more important to me than the day we got married. It was just about the two of us deciding to be with each other. The wedding was the party to celebrate. It’s a symbol and while I understand that it’s a very important symbol to many people, that doesn’t mean that couples whose priorities are different don’t respect their relationships.

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