(Closed) Am I the only one…

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
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Blushing bee

prism :  This is pointless because I didn’t even address you or call you out to begin with and actually agreed with your comment because you separated the idea of not being able to “get” something from “understanding the appeal.” Being obtuse due to a personal bias is not the same as being habitually obtuse as a person. I never said anyone was personally and habitually obtuse. I am obtuse about many topics becauses of biases, and there is nothing wrong with admitting that.  

Post # 47
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Busy Beekeeper

leilarobs2 :  and I had a two carat F, VVS1 emerald cut diamond set in platinum with tapered baguettes at the age of 25 and ended up divorced before I was 30. It’s about the promise. It’s not about the ring.  

The irony, OP, is that most of the people I know who placed so much importance upon a material object are divorced or close-to and most of the people I know who never wear their ering, wear a plain band, or wear whatever ring (or rings) they feel like wearing on that finger any given day have enjoyed long marriages. The promise…it’s what matters. Not the jewelry. 

Post # 48
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656 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I definitely plan to upgrade my e-ring. However, that’s been the plan since I got it. Assuming Fiance and I are in a better financial situation in our 40s or 50s than we were in our early 20s, I know he would want to get me a ring to reflect that. 

The ring I wanted was over $7k, and he just couldnt afford that. He ended up getting me a similar cluster ring for $1k. But when he gave it to me he promised to “get me a bigger ring one day”. 

Post # 49
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Helper bee

libra12 :  I never said you called me out or were talking about me.

Post # 51
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Blushing bee

prism : Then why do you keep quoting me…

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

leilarobs2 :  Exactly. I have been married 11 years and when I got engaged, the ring was not a big deal at all to me. I chose the first ring I saw that was on sale. My husband paid $600 for my ring and I have realized over the years I don’t care for diamonds. I still love the ring but there is no rule I have to wear that one ring and just that one. 

Over the years our relationship has changed in many ways, so many ups and downs and our love has grown stronger and stronger but we are so different than those twenty something year olds that got married back then, I don’t think the ring has to stay the same. Just as marriage changes, jewelry can change.

Post # 53
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Busy Beekeeper

mrsv18 :  So if that ring was lost or stolen you would … never wear another ring on that finger? 

You’re coming across as pretty judge-y for someone who isn’t judging anyone. How old are you? 

Post # 54
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218 posts
Helper bee

libra12 :  I quoted you once in my response to you. I’m not going to highjack the thread with this bickering. I think it’s clear where our perspectives lie.

Post # 56
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Blushing bee

prism :  Thank you because I don’t get why you quoted me in the first place if we weren’t in disagreement. 

Post # 57
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Busy Beekeeper

mrsv18 :  I asked because such a baiting post seems immature and your responses have supported that opinion. If this is your second marriage you should certainly understand that while a material object can indeed be sentimental it is still a material object and not truly indicative of anyone’s level of commitment to their partner. 

ETA: commitment is someone who takes a week off work when you are in the hospital, takes care of your kids (not his) and gets the oil changed on your car. Oh, and then stocks the fridge and does the laundry so you are set when he has to to back to his important project in another state. I have some lovely, fancy jewelry. It’s not why I am committed to my man. 

Post # 58
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200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I think it’s pretty cool when people have different sets.. Or a upgrade… If the couple together decided they want to upgrade their ring then it shouldn’t matter to anyone else but them… My old e ring was damaged, the center stone had cracked and the thickness of the band made a oval shape when sizing it.. It felt sore over time wearing it.. So my Darling Husband decided to upgrade my ring.

Post # 59
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

mrsv18 :  idk man. Im sentimental too. I dont want any other rings. I have 1 engagemwnt solitaire ring I love and will have 1 wedding band (no stones) that i love and that’s it. If he wants to give me any rings on like 5, 10, 15, 20, 25 year anniversaries ill stack them. Both my ering and wedding band are fairly dainty so i can stack others later who wil also be dainty. 

Post # 60
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Sugar bee

Y’all are getting indignant as all hell over this. Geez Louise!

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