(Closed) Am I the only one??? Haven't met the in-laws!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is it crazy I haven't met my in-laws????
    yes! I can't believe you haven't met them!!! : (24 votes)
    24 %
    No, sometimes that's how life works, don't fret. : (29 votes)
    29 %
    I've met my in-laws : (43 votes)
    43 %
    I haven't met my in-laws : (5 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    2494 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    It sucks, but at least they don’t live 30 min away and you haven’t met them. It’s how life works sometimes, I guess!

    Post # 5
    2907 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I didn’t meet my future mother in law until after Fiance and I were engaged. He met my parents after about six months of dating, but it took almost two years – and a ring! – before I met his mom.

    Post # 6
    3461 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    How long have you been together?  I guess it might make sense in an older couple scenario where you have a shorter engagement.  We’re in our 30s, together 4 years before the wedding, so yeah, we met everyone in the family, not just the inlaws before marrying.

    Downside, you could be getting terrors and not know it.  Upside, if you’ve avoided them a while, then you can continue to do so post wedding with luck.  🙂

    Post # 7
    2411 posts
    Buzzing bee

    It depends — how long have you been together? A few months or a few years? If you’ve been a couple for a year or two (or longer), then I’d say it’s extremely unusual not to have met each other’s family by now.

    If you’ve only been together a short time, I can see how something like this could have happened.


    FWIW Darling Husband introduced me to his family after a month or so, but then we all lived in the same town. I introduced him to various members of my family when they came to my city – pretty much all within the first year of meeting each other.


    Anyway, getting back to your situation — you gave some very good reasons (jobs, logistics, distances) for why everyone hasn’t met yet. I wouldn’t worry about it. When it finally happens I’m sure it will all work out fine.

    Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!


    Post # 8
    4429 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Woodstock:  ahh dont worry too much i havent met my Fiance father and my Fiance has not met my father they both live up north ; (

    Post # 9
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I don’t think it is *that* strange. I did meet my inlaws before we were engaged, but my mother in law I didn’t meet until a few months before we got engaged and only then because she decided on her own to come visit us. If she hadn’t I probably wouldn’t have met her until we traveled to NY for her wedding which was a few mo before ours (and only the 2nd time I’d ever seen her). I think the distance makes it understandable. 

    Although I have to say… I would probably make an effort to get everyone met before the wedding if it was me. It just seems like it’d be more comfortable at the rehearsal/wedding if you weren’t worrying about first impressions. I’d probably suck it up and either make the drive to both your parents’ places or just pay for a flight. 

    Post # 10
    41 posts
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I don’t think it’s that strange. I’ve never met my Fiance mother, and I’m better off not ever getting the chance to meet her. I’ve met his dad, but he moved to England two years ago, and only just came back and is watching my FI’s sisters place while she’s in Afghanistan. I’ve never met my Future Sister-In-Law either, and once again, it’s not likely. His family all left the east coast and have no intentions of ever coming back.


    My Fiance met my family the first day we were dating, he ended up staying with me the whole week he was in town for vacation.

    Post # 11
    3452 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’ve met mine, but haven’t spent a whole lot of time with them.  I barely know them.

    Post # 13
    19 posts

    I met my in-laws the 3rd weekend my boyfriend and I were dating.  Well, to be truthful, I met his Dad & Step-mom first and then I met his Mom, Grandmom, Uncle, Sister & Brother-in-law a few weekends later.  I was greeted with hugs and kisses on the cheek by his Dad & Step-Mom which was a nice surprise as I wasn’t expecting that.  They are the coolest, most laid back people I’ve ever met.  They’re a joy to be around and I love spending time with them.  I loved meeting his Grandmom and Uncle, they’re nice people and I enjoy talking with them. 

    His Mom, Sister & Brother-in-law on the other hand, not so much.  They’re very uninviting…wait, I take that back, his Mom & Sister are extreme attention whores.  If ANY, and I mean ANY gathering is not about them, they make it about them.  It’s not cool.  His Mom wants everything her way, and his sister is slowly following suit.  I was told by my ‘future’ father-in-law that he wouldn’t be surprised if his Mom tries to take over when we do get engaged/married.  I put my foot down last night when this was told to me, because well, I’d rather have MY Mom try to take over than his.  My Mom is at least fun…especially when she’s been drinking. LOL.


    ETA: It isn’t very odd…sometimes life happens that way.  Like my sister, sister-in-law, and I all say “When life hands you lemons, grab the tequilla and salt and have a parrrrttaaayyy!!!”

    Post # 15
    338 posts
    Helper bee

    SO met my family after we had been dating for 3 days/the night of our first date and I met his after 10 days.  However, we were in high school so it probably isn’t too surprising!

    Post # 16
    807 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    It’s unusual but not unheard of. I’ve met my in-laws but there will still be a somewhat interesting dynamic at our wedding because our families haven’t met at all. I think it’s just part of the reality of joining two families…and hey, nothing brings people together like a party, right?

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