(Closed) Am I the only one that finds this kind of racist?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

WOW. I actually read all of that & I don’t think I could stand being friends with someone like that. It isn’t important what color your man is, it’s important that you are in love & happy. If she posted this stuff on facebook in general I would be annoyed but not take offense since it wasn’t directly aimed at me but for her to post it on your wall over & over?? I don’t think I would put up with it.

ETA: since you say she is/was your best friend, maybe you can talk to her? I tend to drop people instead of talking it out if I feel like it’s not worth my time but I don’t think that’s something good to do.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Both sides of that are very racist. Your friend also sounds racist.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

She posted that on YOUR wall? Wtf, that is crazy! I’m all about people being proud of their heritage and background – but that is just weird and rude and racially offensive.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@allyfally:  Oh gosh…. its racist on all ends. I could see if she posted it in a “hey, this is so stupid and I thought you might also agree because of your relationship, etc…” bu it doesn’t seem like that. And even that would be a little weird.

I agree, the woman was stereotyping and being judgmental and kind of racist herself, but the man went above and beyond what she did with his racism.

Why can’t people just see interracial relationships the way they do every other relationship? Fiance didn’t choose me because he’s intimidated by other women or whatever. Him being with me isn’t because rejecting every other woman in the world. Nobody would say that Fiance, who is white, being with a white woman instead of a black woman is because he has something against black women… so why say that about a black man? He chose me because he likes me and we’re compatible and maybe, JUST MAYBE, interracial couples are the same. Go figure, huh?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@allyfally:  I hate shit like this.  I consider it reverse racism. 

There are good black men, bad black men and good white women and black white women.  The color of your skin does not dictate how strong you are, how easy you are to control or how good of a person you are – or not. 

I HATE this kind of attitude.  I’m all about having pride in who you are, where you come from, what your people have been through and all the obstacles you have to overcome, but do not try to make yourself feel better by putting someone else down – regardless of the color of their skin.

I hope this doesn’t come across as racist – it’s not.  I hate when black people put down white people and vice versa.  Because I know of many black women that do NOT embody what Black Royalty described as what he liked about black women (AND many white girls that do not embody all the good characteristics A Disgusted White Girl was saying).  And that’s just life – stereotypes are wrong no matter how good/bad they sound.  It’s human nature to have exceptions to every “rule,” so yes – I think it’s racist and I would be pissed, too.  Sounds like you have to talk to this girl and put her in her place or drop her.

This reminded me of that movie with Julia Stiles – Save the Last Dance. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

This girl is clearly struggling with accepting your relationship, and I think whatever feelings she has probably run deeper than a heart-to-heart conversation with her can fix. It’s pretty obvious that she sees you as being on the opposite team from her, and supportive lasting friendships can’t be built on that kind of foundation. I would phase her out and not let it get to me. I’m sorry you have to put up with this, and I’m appalled at both extreme views expressed by the writers of those letters. 

ETA: @futuremrsk18: funny, I was just thinking about that movie and how much I liked it earlier today

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Ugh, sorry you’re going through this. Yes racist. I don’t have any better advice than PPs. What crap.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah, I don’t think I’d be talking to this “friend” any time soon. She seems SUPER passive aggressive.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would ask her what she was trying to say by posting that on your wall, just in case she was posting it to make fun of it or something and not intending to make it seem like she agreed with it. However if that really reflects her opinion, I would agree that you are right to be offended by it.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Taeyers:  Do you remember the part I’m talking about?  Where Julia Stile’s friend gets pissed at her for taking one of the only good black men in the community?? 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Can you ask her why she is so fixated on race? It’s 2013 for crying out loud.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It seems that Disgusted White Girl, Black Royalty, AND your friend are all racist. I can’t believe she posted that on YOUR wall! Wtf?! I couldn’t invite someone like that to my wedding, I’m sorry. I’d be afraid she’d do something to stir up some drama or controversy.

I’d also block her. What ELSE will she try to post?

 

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