(Closed) Am I the only one that finds this kind of racist?

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Post # 32
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Bee Keeper

Lol omg. Nothing I can really do but laugh. How ridiculous. I mean obviously it’s hurtful, but I just can’t believe people really think this way. 

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee

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@futuremrsk18:  “I hate shit like this.  I consider it reverse racism. 

There are good black men, bad black men and good white women and black white women.  The color of your skin does not dictate how strong you are, how easy you are to control or how good of a person you are – or not. 

I HATE this kind of attitude.  I’m all about having pride in who you are, where you come from, what your people have been through and all the obstacles you have to overcome, but do not try to make yourself feel better by putting someone else down – regardless of the color of their skin.

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Either way – you need to talk to her and tell her it’s unacceptable and I would delete that off my FB.  No one needs that kind of negativity in their life.  Tell her that – and then delete her, too, if she doesn’t stop.

+1000!

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@allyfally: I totally understand and I am single out every single day by someone and there is nothing I can do but develop a thicker skin and that is my advice for you my dear because she is just one of many who feel that way.

I know it is painful and I truly understand your pain trust me but I have acknowledge these people are not going away and they will do anything they can to upset you because they are not happy with themselves. 

You have a solid relationship it was never about color for either of us it obviously just happened because we were open and met someone of a different race and it just clicked. You werent thinking of his color and vice versa love knows no color.

If you want to PM me you can anytime because I truly understand.

BIG HUG  

Post # 35
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@allyfally:  OR she just says that because she can’t find what she’s looking for. 

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@allyfally:  AHHAHA your Fiance gets me!!

Post # 36
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ignore her and move on. This is more a reflection on her than on you.

Most of the time what people say has nothing to do with anyone but themselves — even they’re pointing the finger at someone, the person pointing is usually projecting their own issues on other people. People can’t help but to be ruled by their own subconscious and color the world based on their own issues. 

So, basicially, it’s your choice to take it personally. This woman sounds like a angry fruitcake and you really don’t have to take issue with her, unless you feel like you need to fight a battle and prove something to the world. 

I say “unfriend” her from facebook and be glad she’s so transparent. Let her find someone else to trap in her quicksand who will sink down to her level. That’ doesn’t have to be you…. Besides, you have enough to do with planning the wedding, right?!

Post # 38
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

The funniest thing I read what as docile part, I don’t know where he lives but all of the white women I know are extremely opinionated, have tons of courage & strength, and sometimes, wear the pants in the relationship. Sure, I’ve known girls who “went along” with their relationships, or were stuck in awful marriages, but this can happen to ANY girl, no matter the color of her skin.

Your friend seriously has some issues.

I don’t have ANY problems with anyone dating any color. The only problem I have is when people want to throw up white pride, black pride, latino pride, whatever the case may be, and then date/marry someone of another color. To me, it’s killing the bloodlines. I’m not saying this is a BAD thing, but in hundreds of years, everyone could be just 1 color.. where will our “pride” be then? I think having differant diversities and backgrounds is what makes us unique.

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@allyfally:  Did anyone else write anything? I’m hoping someone would have said something to make her see how ridiculous it was to post that on your wall!

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@everyheart:  I have to agree with you …the so called friend who posted on her page is not happy with herself and it appears that she is jealous of her relationship.

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@allyfally:  I think your response was perfect, pretty much word for word what I was thinking! Let us know what (if) she says something back.

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@allyfally:  I would delete it too. That racist post does not belong on your wall.

Post # 44
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Jeez both sides of that are jerkfaces, and honestly so is whoever put that on your wall.

I don’t get what could possibly spur that initial letter writer to be so cranky she’d feel the need to put voice to such venom. It’s almost creepy how she can be with someone and hate half of their race so much.

A little odd, almost funny, how that language about white women being “docile and easy to control” is so reminiscent of the language I hear when I hear someone mock a white guy who dates an asian woman. “Oh, he just wants someone docile and submissive.” Which is just as obviously stupid of a generalization. My friend who is Canadian hears this crap about him and his Korean wife all the time. 

Heaven forbid two people just be in love, and not get judged for it, whoever they choose. Undecided

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I’m not saying he isn’t a racist jerk, unlike your friend, however I don’t think he is.  It sounds more like he wanted to give her a piece of humble pie and thats all.  She was being a brat and she had that slap to the face coming.  I could be completely wrong about him and he could truly think that.  If he does think that oh well he’s not in my life so why should I care about his ignorance.

She probably always wanted you fiance to love her however he never did.  She found this as a way to attack you and hit you where it hurts.  She’s not worth your time.

Post # 46
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

As a Black woman, I felt obligated to respond to this thread because unlike many of you I was quite pleased with the writer for standing up for AA women. 1. Could he have used better languange? YES 2. Are all White women docile and suibmissive (stereotype)? NO 3. Are there AA women who are docile and submissive? ABSOLUTELY

so, WHY in the world did I like the letter? I liked the response, because I do not believe it was the intention of the responder to belittle White women or make AA women seem superior. I think the responder realized that the writer of the letter clearly has some White superiority issues and that she needed to be “knocked off her high horse” (for lack of better words) in order to realize that she is perpetuating a stereotype about AA women (that we all somehow hate White women who date AA men) and about AA men (that they all want a White woman because these women know how to treat a man). Furthermore, I think the responder wanted to show that he takes pride in AA women and although the media/society sometimes do not pay tribute to this particular group of women, he wanted to show his reader that he does.

 

Now, on to this friend. 1. She is NOT your friend! Please do NOT be fooled 2. Some people, particulary AA women, struggle with interracial relationships (too many explanations why), so your “friend” most likely has personal issues that she needs to deal with and it has nothing to do with you EXCEPT for the fact that she wants to to take it out on you and your SO. 3. I would DEFINITELY respond to her and tell her how inappropriate and rude she was. Although I shared the letters on my FB, I did not go around posting it on my friends walls who are in interracial relationships! That is crazy! Shew was wrong and if I were you, I’d think long and hard before I invited her to my wedding.

 

Best of luck!Laughing

 

 

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