Post # 92
@FauxBoho: If you can’t see that from either side then you yourself are racist and ignorant to the fact.
That is where you attacked people, because people on this board clearly have differing thoughts and views, which we all can see, but you stated that people who can’t see your view that the letters were racist from both sides are racist.
Post # 93
We can agree to disagree, but thanks for the comments. I enjoy trying to understand things from another persons perspective.
Post # 94
attacked people or attacked you? I don’t think this is an attack, merely an observation. Sorry if you are offended by my opinion but I can’t help it if our views differ greatly. I see racism on both sides.
Post # 95
I have to agree with you. I cannot see how anyone would NOT see the letters as racist. They are both clearly stating the superiority of their own race and the inferiority of the other.
Post # 96
I can assure you, I am in no way sensitive to the issue and as I stated in the post before I actually like engaging in conversations where people do not believe the same things as I do, because it challenges me to be open to other perspectives.
No, you can’t help it because our views difer greatly and you don’t have to, because we are different people with different experiences. However, you should be mindful that name-calling (i.e., calling people racist for believing something opposite of you) is very different from having an opinion.
Have a great day!
Post # 97
I think Angry White Girl has some disgusting thoughts floating around in her head. And while she said her Fiance said those harmful things, she’s the one with the audacity to post it. What does this say about this couple’s view of FI’s sisters, nieces, female cosins, aunts, grandmothers and his mom?
Post # 98
Sweeping generalizations are never accurate. De-friend her.
Post # 99
This is just so f’king ridiculous. You really need to delete this girl, because she’s NOT interested in your happiness, at all. She is extremely jealous because you’ve found yourself a good man and he just so happens to be black. Internally, she feels that she deserves him more than you do. Well, maybe not him, specifically, but the idea of him… a black man who treats his woman right. I would not tolerate someone putting this racist bs on my wall, at all. She would be blocked and deleted.
My first boyfriend whom I lost my virginity to was half Hispanic and half Asian. He had extremely dark skin. We received very dirty looks in public from people of all races, because I am very pale-skinned. His family was not very accepting of our relationship, either. His grandmother repeatedly tried setting him up with another woman at a wedding they went to, because the other girl was Hispanic. Why?! I just don’t understand. I was on the quest for a “good man.” Not a good white man, or a good black man, or a good Hispanic man. Just a good damn man! As a child of God, I have the utmost right to choose to be with whatever other human being on this planet who treats me well.
Post # 100
+10000 I totally agree with you I was raised to date whoever you want as long as he is good to you.
Post # 101
Oh FFS. Sometimes people just date other people because they connect. Not because they have some weird alterior motive to “control” who they are with, and not because they have some strange perception that dating someone with a different skin color is somehow “better”.
Post # 102
+1. why did the white woman take it upon herself to write in to what I assume is a magazine written for black women by black women with the sole intent of stating white women are superior. her letter dripped with racism. and fyi, you can still internalize and perpetuate racism despite having best friends and spouses who are PoC.
While the response was definitely inflammatory and obviously not accurate, it wasn’t on par with the racism of the first letter. Whiteness is still a driving force of our society and white people, white men and women, continue to benefit from it. I’m white, and I thought that the man’s response was more of an attempt to knock her off her racist pedastal a bit. Even if this man did discriminate against white people, a drop in the bucket does not compare to a waterfall.
Ignorance is saying discrimination and prejudice born out of a response to centuries of white supremacy is the same racism that has been endured by PoC. History and context matter.
That said, I’m scratching my chin as to why your “friend” posted this on your wall. I’d delete it and distance yourself because she obviously feels justified in having some commentary about your relationship, which is bs. Enjoy your Fiance, and put it out of your mind.
Post # 103
Both sides were so racist, wow. I can’t believe your “friend” posted that to your wall.. she seems jealous and is just trying to make you feel insecure about your relationship. I would ask her what exactly did she want you to learn from that article?