Post # 31
My fiance and I feel the same. I was going to use my whole tax return for a nice wedding, but it was stressing me out like crazy. Instead we’ll be finding a beautiful spot outdoors in WV with just immediate family and a few friends. No chairs, no decor, just me in my wedding dress and him in dress pants, shirt, and tie. And then we’ll all go out to eat or have a cookout and just have a nice time. It’s not huge and elaborate, but it’s still going to be intimate and beautiful with the outdoor setting.
Post # 33
I personally didn’t want to spend a lot of money on “just one day” but we ended up with a more lavish wedding that expected. My main goal is to marry my Fiance, everything else doesn’t matter. So I can agree with you, OP, to an extent. BUT, I think it’s in extremely poor taste to come on a wedding website and call a more extravagent wedding a “waste”. Maybe it’s a waste to you but not to me. Maybe that starbucks latte you pick up every morning on your way to work is a waste to me, but not to you. Why start a thread to basically roll your eyes at other people’s wedding choices? ON A WEDDING WEBSITE.
Do you. But leave other people out of it.
Post # 34
ktsteimel: Just because one is in their 40’s we are not old! As for wedding costs, it is more like as one gets older we know what we want. And I got married at 37 and we had about 150 person wedding moderately priced. I wouldn’t generalize on age, it is all on personal taste.
Post # 35
Expensive weddings are always a luxury purchase. Ours was a formal affair co-hosted by parents, but I never would have spent my own money on something like that just starting out in my 20s. Had this not been gifted to us, we would have done exactly what you want to do now. At any age, unless you can easily afford it, I think it’s irresponsible to go into debt or compromise your future to host a party.
You are certainly not the only one who feels this way.
Post # 36
ktsteimel: Why? Old people shouldn’t have celebrations?
Post # 37
Sassygrn: Kikibear: woah, I never said 40s was OLD!!!
As I explained before:
Being oldER makes you no less elligable to have an extravagant wedding by any means. Its just seems like the old people get, the less extravegant thier weddings are. If I was in my 40’s I’d be way more all about having kids and a house than spending $$ on a wedding.
EDIT: Just want to add, also the older people get the more they appreciate $$ and realize how much things cost and the fact that things might not be worth it. The OP said she was in her 40s, I think she came to this realization about weddings becuase she’s older and wiser about $$. Someone a lot younger might not understand the value of $ because they dont have kids or a mortgage and all that.
Post # 38
I totally disagree with you, but you decide how you spend your money, and I’ll decide how to spend mind.
If someone is invited to one of my family’s larger- than-average- budget weddings, and they think weddings are a waste of money, they’re certainly welcome to stay home.
Post # 39
Here we go with everyone taking it personal 😐
Post # 40
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
Going to go ahead and close this thread, as threads created for the sole purpose of criticizing others’ wedding choices are not allowed.