Post # 1
Hi There Bees!
When Mr. M and I decided to elope we had a serious conversation about “OK, if we’re gonna do this, we need to start making arrangements because air fare is only going to get more expensive the closer the date, etc.” So we agreed on a date, booked air, hotel, chapel, bought his ring, put deposit down on photog & cake. We’re good to go. When I brought up my rings (engagement & wedding band) he said, “Don’t worry about those, I have it under control and don’t worry about a formal proposal either”.
That all being said, we’re now 39 days away from our wedding day and I still do not have a wedding set. I asked him today about it because he had me make a wish list on Moissanite & Co. and I’m a little concerned if he hasn’t purchased anything yet because seriously, we’re down to 39 days. I’m afraid that what if they don’t fit? Their website says they’ll re-size up to 30 days after the purchase, BUT knowing him, what if he purchases them today but doesn’t let me see them until the day before we leave, the 30 days are up!
When I asked him today if he ordered the rings he got annoyed at me and was like, “I already told you to not worry about it, I have it handled! You never listen to me!” Obviously he was peeved, and I told him that I did listen, but I have concerns with whether or not they’ll fit, and the timing. He replied, “They’re pretty quick” We got his ring from Tungston Kay and they were very quick, I’m hoping he doesn’t think every jewlery business is literally a 4 day turn around.
I understand that he still wants me to have that “special” proposal, and that because we’re eloping he doesn’t want to let the cat out of the bag by proposing and opening us up to tons of questions, but am I the one who doesn’t get it? I just a. would like to know what I’ll be wearing the rest of my life, b. would like the reassurance that they fit, c. would like to stop worrying that he’ll have a ring, and I wont!
Post # 3
Maybe he is planning on surprising you with something very special?
Post # 4
@unixfairy: He knows that I don’t need anything special or spactaclar (since I actually told him that many times). I’m just being a stressed out bride and to make matters worse I can’t even talk about it to anyone except you ladies here 🙂 Secrets blow! hahaha
Post # 5
I know someone who went through this exact situation. He said he had it handled and that she should just not think about it, but she kept pestering him over and over until he finally said “fine here!” and handed her the ring and two tickets to Wicked (which she had been dying to see). He wanted to formally propose to her as a surprise after the show about 3 days before they eloped. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard stories that end in the phrase “fine, here”, a lot of crying and the ultimate ruined surprise. I would say trust him because it sounds like he has a plan.
Post # 6
Trust him with this. You’re about to make a commitment to trust him for the rest of your life. (and if they don’t fit you can just wrap some tape around the back until you get them sized)
Post # 7
@Corilee13: I agree, just trust him and try to wait patiently. My cousin and his wife weren’t eloping, but she had been waiting for a long time for him to propose and kept pestering him… He was waiting for the 4th of July to propose under the fireworks, and instead he jumped out of the shower while she was whining at him, grabbed the box handed it to her, said “HERE!” and then got back in the shower. Oh so romantic!
Anyways, I hope it’s worth the wait!
Post # 8
Thanks bees! You’ve never lead me wrong yet! hahaha. I think the “inner bridezilla” is trying to make it’s way out! HAHAHA. It’s just killing me (he knows that surprises drive me nuts) so I think in a way he’s getting a little revenge too! 🙂 So I promie you ALL that I will not mention my rings to him again, worse case it’s only 39 days, I’ve waited 4 years and 8 months, what’s another 39 days.
Post # 9
I agree with all the ladies. Trust him! What if he wanted you to make a wish list just so he could see a style, and then he’s going to get it somewhere else. Maybe in person, in your city. Who knows! Just trust him =)
Post # 10
I agree that it sounds like he has a plan, but holy hell, cutting it that close would drive me batty, too!