Post # 1
I’m not trying to pick on anyone here (honest!) but am I the only one who doesn’t know or care about the details of their ring? I mean, I have no idea the color, clarity, carat weight or cost of my ring and I don’t have any desire to know.
When we were ring shopping together, it sort of aggravated me that the jewelers would discuss these details in front of me – I didn’t think it was any of my business. I get that a lot of couples are very open about all this but still, the cold, hard details seem to take some of the romance out of it, doesn’t it? It also strikes me as a bit crass when others post about their rings and just have to include all these details because it just sort of makes it seem like THAT’s what’s important about the ring – not what it means or represents.
Post # 3
@lisa105: i had no idea, and still have no idea on all the rules around rings, diamonds, etc.
the only thing i did was look at a pic of the tiffany novo and gave it to Fiance as a ring “i liked” … i ended up with a princess cut, channel set… i think, f color and vvs1 clarity?.. i only know those from hearing from Darling Husband and reading it on the sheet… i dont the scale unless i google it. 😛
Post # 4
i wanted something very specific—high quality, great color, best cut we could get (and it HAD to be canadian). so, we researched how we could get it. my fiance told me exactly what he got me after he proposed, because he knew it was exactly what i wanted and he was SO EXCITED about it.
plus, i had to know for insurance purposes, since the policy had to be in my name.
Post # 5
I didn’t anticipate that I would be so involved in the process of getting my engagement ring, but I found it all EXTREMELY fascinating! To this day, I am still interested in learning about the different aspects of diamonds and settings.
As a couple we met with an independent jeweler, tried the big chain store, went to a small, family-owned jewelry store, and even attended a diamond expo!
We tried it all. It was the hands down, most expensive purchase either of us had ever made (besides his truck) and I am so glad we took the time together, as a unit, to make the decision. It still felt incredibly romantic to me!
He also kept the actual proposal a surprise and I was totally swept off my feet. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Post # 6
It is ‘just’ a symbol, but one that requires a lot of thought and usually money. With that said, I did a lot of reserach on my own in order to help steer Fiance. I knew his shopping style – go get what you need and call it a day. I didn’t want him to get ripped off, or spend more than he should for something, or anything like that so I help steer him and also gave him an idea of what I wanted. When I he proposed, it didn’t even cross my mind to find out the details, it was beautiful and thoughful. But then he asked if I wanted to see the certification… and hes like.. i know you are curious… and so I was. So he gave it to me to see. And then he proudly told me how he shopped for it and bargained cause he knew that was important to me too. But… that is the one thing I do not know… exactly how much it was.
Post # 7
I don’t think you’re alone at all! Lots of people I think don’t know.
For me personally, I do know the details bc my Fiance was SO proud of himself for putting in all the time and research to pick the perfect ring that he gave me all the “stats” within about 5 min of proposing. 🙂 It was pretty cute! haha. Also, I had to have all the appraisal paperwork on it to get it insured.
Post # 8
I doubt you’re alone on this. I showed him what I liked, and he went out and picked the one he liked best. He gave me the certification for safe keeping, so that’s why I know the details of my ring (though I didn’t memorize the information). To this day I have no idea what he paid, and I honestly don’t want to know. I don’t think it’s particularly crass for people to discuss the details, bc everyone is different.
Post # 9
LOL. @ corgitales, he did the same to me.. i think it was within 5 minutes that he asked me if i wanted to know and pulled the certification out for me.
Post # 10
i dont think alot of girls know…honestly the boys know alot more about diamonds than alot of us girl…i personally know my size, but i dont know cost or clarity but i could guess…but in the end you are right, it doesnt matter nor do i really care because i love him and i love my ering!
Post # 11
I don’t know anything about my ring – if it is a diamond or a cz or another colourless stone. I’m assuming it is set in gold, because I haven’t broken out the way I do to most other metals, but that is seriously the extent of my knowledge – don’t know where or when he bought it.
This isn’t because I think knowing takes out the romance or anything specific, I just straight up don’t care. Just not my thing.
So, yeah! I’m not sure if it is crass when others do know everything about their ring and go on and on about it though. I know everything about certain prized possessions of my own, and do tend to go on and on if asked about them!
I will say, however, that I sometimes get tired of people asking for specifics about my ring, and I will try to redirect the conversation towards the thing my ring signifies: my upcoming marriage!
Post # 12
Before he had proposed, we had been in a few jewelry stores (he wanted to get my ring sized and I finally gave in). While there, I pointed out rings I liked- but since I am “ring ignorant” I would just say “I like that one because it’s simple and pretty”. I know nothing about rings and diamonds.
Now that we’re engaged, I’m still ring-ignorant. The only thing I know about my ring, because my fiance was excited to tell me, is that “if you go into the store, you won’t find your ring sitting in the cases.” When he went in the store, he found the diamond he liked, but he didn’t like the band it was on. So he had them take the diamond from one and set it in a different band.
While I’m slightly curious, and I’m sure he would tell me if I asked, I kind of enjoy not knowing anything about my ring. I’m just happy that it’s a sign of our commitment.
Post # 13
@lisa105: I’m clueless when it comes to jewelry. After wearing this ring since April, I know: it is white gold, the diamond is almost a carat, it is a step below ‘perfect.’ I also know what it’s appraised at because Fiance finally gave me the paperwork last week. Oh, and when we went to pick out wedding bands, I got to look at it under the scope (super cool!).
Fiance chose the ring – I had no idea and never went ring shopping with him. I have no clue how much he paid (he refused to tell me). Before the ring, I tried to tell him not to spend over a certain amount. He didn’t appreciate that and basically told me it was none of my business (!).
Post # 14
You’re definitely not alone. I know my ring is set in white gold and that the stones are Canadian, but otherwise I haven’t a clue as to its specifications.
Post # 15
At first the only thing I made sure he knew was NOT to get a diamond because of ethical reasons. He asked me for a wishlist on the moissanite website and that’s what I gave him. For the longest, I had no idea what ring he bought, until I stumbled across the invoice. ^_^
Post # 16
@CorgiTales: That’s how I know too! As soon as we got home after he proposed he ran to get the GIA cert and appraisal to show me. He was so proud of all he learned.
Then he asked it I wanted to see the receipt too and I told him that I didn’t need to see that. So I have no idea what it cost (not that it matters). I only know it appraised for much more.
He was so proud of what he got for the price that he wanted to share.
ETA: Fiance is big on researching EVERY purchase he makes and comparing all over to get the most for his money. It took him EIGHT MONTHS to pick a vacuum and he always loves to share all the specs of his purchases with me (whether I understand them or not). He was also very proud that the diamond had been listed as one clarity level lower online, but he’d seen the GIA cert showing a higher clarity level so he felt like he was getting a “bargain” on the ring.
I knew very little about the 4 C’s before receiving my ring, but Fiance has since educated me. He also did a lot of research into the sourcing of the stones he was considering as that is important to him (and me) as well.