(Closed) Am I the only one who doesn't want a traditional bachelorette party?

posted 9 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Do/did you want a bachelorette party?

    Yes, a traditional one that includes bar hopping and the works!

    Yes, but something more low key like a girls night in

    Nope, don't want one at all

    Other (will explain below)

  • Post # 62
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Neither my fiance or I want a traditional bachelor/bachelorette party! Neither of us drink much and neither of us are into the clubbing or stripper thing either. I will be spending a weekend at the beach with my Maid/Matron of Honor and 3 FSIL’s(also BM’s). We’ll just be relaxing on the beach all day, having some nice dinners and having a few drinks at one of the restaurants.

    Post # 63
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I don’t drink (actually, I can’t drink – even a beer has me throwing up!), and loud thumping music and flashing lights give me a migraine, so the traditional bachelorette party is my idea of hell.  I’m going to let my MOH/bridesmaids know that they don’t have to go all out planning anything for me, but if they feel so inclined, a nice dinner followed by girls’ night in at my house would be heavenly. 

    Post # 64
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m completely with you hun! I’d rather have a nice brunch with champagne and my girl friends. No night clubs, penis straws, or strippers please! Who wants to be hung over during wedding week or worse on wedding day!

    Post # 65
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I didn’t want traditional but me and my 4 girls just went to Niagara On The Lake, we did a wine tasting tour of 7 wineries then rented a really nice hotel room and drank and talked, went to a small bar in Niagara Falls where there was a live band, had a couple drinks there then walked over to the casino and went and crashed.  

    it was perfect!  I really wanted some quality girl time since we all have busy lives and don’t all get together often.

    Post # 66
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    After I first got engaged I really didn’t care about having one at all…it wasn’t that important for me.  I feel like it’s more fun for the single ladies that get to go to them because I used to love going to bachelorette parties when I was single!  You get a lot of attention from men!  And only 1 of my bridesmaids is married so I know the rest of them want to enjoy the bachelorette party.

    My MOHs know me pretty well and decided they wanted to go to Vegas for mine.  We definitely like to have a good time and I love Vegas.  Since it’s closer now and we have plane tickets and reservations I’m actually pretty excited about it!  I’m not sure about wearing penis stuff though…  I do like to drink and although I don’t really go out clubbing much I still enjoy it on occassion.  I’m excited!

    I’ve never had a real bad hangover in Vegas…I think all the walking you do tends to work the alcohol out of your system.  I know I would have a worse hangover if we went out to the bars where I live!

    Post # 67
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    Sugar bee

    @Tarheelgurl:  I didnt want one at all. I hate clubs, dont drink and male strippers are just gross and embarassing to watch LOL!!!! Im having a destination wedding where all my close girlfriends will be with me for a week long vacation so we might have like a girls only day there instead. Also me and a few of my bridal party girls will be going to Niagara Falls this upcoming weekend and just doing some shopping in the States and overnight in a hotel…thats good enough for me!!

    Post # 68
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’ve told my Maid/Matron of Honor repeatedly that I don’t want to plan my bachelorette party, but she keeps asking me for opinions to which I keep responding “do what you want. . . I want to be surprised”. As far as I know, we’re going to see Cinderella on Broadway which I’m super excited about. I told her if there’s anything I wanted to do. . . it was to go dancing. . . so, I’m not sure what else she has planned yet. 

    Post # 69
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I would have loved a spa day bachelorette! It’s just time for you and your bridesmaids to have some fun bonding time, and it can be whatever you want it to be.

    We decided to go to an indoor waterpark with a hotel and stay overnight. It was fabulous, and while we did order some cocktails in our cabana and spend some time at the hot tub lagoon bar that weaves outside, the highlight was all the waterslides, relaxing on loungers, and getting room service back at our hotel suite while watching wedding movies.

    I hate to say it, but this may be a time to pull your “I’m the bride” card. What your mother thinks shouldn’t matter since mothers don’t generally attend, but if your bridesmaids are really vehemently opposed to it, you may need to compromise a little. But ultimately, their goal here should be to celebrate your upcoming nuptials and give you a little break from wedding planning. Maybe find a day spa that serves mimosas?

    Post # 70
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I am totally with you.  I really don’t even want a bachelorette party for the same reasons you have.  I don’t go to bars anymore. I don’t think it’s fun to bar hop around with penis name tags, penis necklaces, penis straws, etc.  If anything, I want to go out to dinner with my gal pals and drink margaritas.  That is what I call fun.

    Post # 71
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    i dont really want the regular old games. im trying to work with my Maid/Matron of Honor to get us girls (dont know who all would be able to make it) but get on a boat (three hours away) to the natural hot springs tubs. And to rent a cabin for a girls camping trip. the only problem is . is that im going to need to get a guy to take us in his boat. and im hoping he will just stay on the boat. give us rides to the cabin and back. maybe start a fire and chop some wood. lol. bear protection. that kinda thing. so it might work out weather depending. my sister is coming in from out of town and i felt like doing something really neat. i mean you only have one right? might as well make it big. i feel like i always go bar hoping. i mean not a lot but i live in a smaller town. there are only so many.

    Post # 72
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @Tarheelgurl:  totally agree with you. I already told my cousin/MOH that I do NOT want to go get drunk at a club or go dancing. She’s the party girl type but at least she already asked what I would like!

    Post # 73
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    1149 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Tarheelgurl:  In the south where I live, clubbing is non-traditional and has only been something people have done for the last 10-15 years.

    Post # 74
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    If my Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs get me a stripper, I will be leaving immediately.

    My Maid/Matron of Honor and one Bridesmaid or Best Man were planning to get me strippers but my 2 younger, under age sisters are also BMs, so a) they can’t be around strippers and b) I was threatening to throw my own ‘girls night’, my Bridesmaid or Best Man has agreed that she will not get me a stripper, and i’m pretty sure my Maid/Matron of Honor won’t either.

    As for bar hopping, ehh, maybe. I am not opposed to having a couple of drinks in a local country pub, but clubbing would be a no as well (because I hate it, but also because my sisters probably couldn’t get in).

    Post # 75
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Tarheelgurl:  If anything a relaxing spa day is my idea of a perfect bachelorette party.


    That is exactly what I want to do! The problem is finding one in this area that’s not SUPER expensive.

    Post # 76
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I agree, I’m not too fussed. I’d like to just go out for a nice dinner with my close female friends and my mum. No strippers, penis straws, dares to get other guys’ numbers etc.

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