Post # 1
[This isn’t such an ’emotional’ post, but I thought this seemed like the most logical place.]
My Fiance is in grad school and will be finishing up around the time of the wedding. When he’s done he’ll have his PhD, so, he’ll be Dr. X (so, not “doctor” in the medical sense). Right now he can finish in April, but said he’d wait until August (the month after the wedding) if it’s important to me. The thing is, I just want all those cute signs/decorations that say “Mr. & Mrs.” – NOT “Dr. & Mrs.” He said that people won’t be referring to him that way anyway, and it’s fine to just ignore it for the wedding, but I think it would be weird. I just want to be Mr. & Mrs. – if only for a month!
Obviously it’s not a huge deal, but does anyone see things from my perspective, or am I the only girl in the world who wouldn’t want to marry a Dr.?
Post # 3
I honestly don’t know many people who refer to non medical doctors as “Doctor”, so I wouldn’t worry too much about it.
Post # 4
I agree with@KatyElle: the only time I see “Dr” used in the non medical sense is professionally. Like an educational article or a professor. I think you’re in the clear
Post # 5
Even if he’s a “doctor” (albeit non-medical) he is still a Mr.
Post # 6
We had a chemistry teacher in high school with a non-medical PhD who insisted we refer to her as Dr. We all thought it was pompous and a bit sad. Then again we were 16 year olds…
Post # 7
Nothing to worry about! Half of the population does not know how to formally address people as it is!
Post # 8
@KatyElle: I do, but I live in the same town as a major research university and my Fiance is a non-MD Doctor, so a lot of her friends are Dr., as well.
Post # 9
usually, unless he is a professor, he will not be reffered to as doctor.
Post # 9
slightly off tanget BUT!, when i was working overseas, some of my co-workers said they didnt want to marry a doctor because they have a large social pool of nurses and other doctors they could tap
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2012 - The Old Field Club
I’m going to be a medical doctor when we get married, and I keep joking that they will have to introduce us as Mr and Dr. But I am only joking to sound obnoxious. Regardless of the title you have, at weddings it is fine to ignoer them and just say mr and mrs…..
Post # 11
For the wedding you can definitely use Mr. and Mrs. Especially if he’s ok with it. I agree with @MASPA that it’s mainly reserved for a professional setting or whenever you’d use their full title like on invitations. But just because he’s a psychologist doesn’t make him any less of a doctor. I always get annoyed when people say “well your not REALLY a Dr.” The majority of my family has their doctorate so that’s probably why I get so touchy about it! But that’s another issue! For the wedding its perfectly acceptable if he’s comfortable with it!
Post # 12
i’m a doctor of pharmacy! but no i don’t want to be refered to as doctor when i get married.
Post # 13
@Eva Peron: Haha, very true!
@kmsw: Yep, he will be a professor eventually. But probably not by the time we are married. 🙂
Thanks for easing my fears, ladies!
Post # 14
I’m a non medical “doctor and no one has ever refered to me as Dr. outside of a professional setting.
Post # 15
Never thought about this outside the medical dr, I know a ton of PhDs (engineering) and dont think any of them refer to themselves or are addressed as Dr.