(Closed) Am I the only one who gets the "Birthday Blues?"

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Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Not alone.  AT ALL.

Last week was my birthday and I literally drank martinis with my ONE friend during happy hour then went home, ate an entire thing of homemade rice pudding (that I made myself) and went to bed at 8:30.

My Fiance and I are long distance and he didn’t say anything about my birthday until nearly 7 at night, my grandparents (who I’m very close to) forgot it, my dad sent me a card a week ahead of time, and my mom sent me tulips even though she knows I hate cut flowers.

Don’t stress… Birthdays are never what you want them to be.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think you have every right to have the birthday blues! They’re totally not unfounded. That sucks that not only does everyone not think about your birthday- but then proceed to make giant, awesome plans… that don’t include you! What the hell! I’d be pissed too!

Myself, I just get irrationally depressed about my birthday. Not because anyone forgets or doesn’t include me in their plans.. mine is inexplicable. I guess I DO expect the parade and never get it. Anytime I’ve wanted to do something for my birthday, I wind up just getting dinner with my parents. Every. Friggin. Year. It’s so BORING and makes me feel like I’m 5 instead of 25. And no in case you were wondering I didn’t get a lot of parties when I was a kid either. Just dinner with the parents. :/ Booooring.

I do hope this year you find some way to celebrate. Even if you’re on your own. Go out, do something you’ve never done before! Cook a meal you’ve never tried but always wanted to, even if it’s crazy expensive (as long as you can afford it, of course) like filet mignon or lobster. OR BOTH. Get a one-serving dessert from the grocery store that looks completely sinful. Blast your favorite music! Do anything you want at all! 

And, happy early birthday 🙂 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Galang_Gyal:  I totally understand how you feel. My birthday was on Saturday and I spent the vast majority of it by myself. I try to really make a big deal of everyone else’s birthday but then when it comes to mine, I feel like nobody cares. I’m somewhat indifferent to my birthday, but it would be nice if someone made a big deal out of it without any direction from me. 

My Fiance went skiing on my birthday (granted I told him he could, but it would have been even better if he told me he didn’t want to ski, he wanted to spend the day with me) and I cleaned the house. He was supposed to take me to dinner or make me dinner, but he got home late and we didn’t have time to even eat before we had to leave to go to my sister’s house. 

Then during my birthday party, my grandparents didn’t come, my littlest sister was working, my brother was working and my mom told me that my gifts didn’t arrive on time. So yeah, it was a pretty crappy birthday all in all. 

I’m sorry you get the birthday blues, nobody should feel like that on their birthday!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My birthday has been fairly awful for the last few years except for the last one I had. For my 21st birthday I got my identity stolen by a fraud cliaming I had huge ER bills, and there was also absolutely no drinking at all. For 22 I had 12 straight hours of class and work and my night class was a 3 hour discussion of rap music which I detest. I thought 23 was going to be bad because it was on Thanksgiving, but it was actually awesome because Fiance took me to the zoo and the movies and then I cooked us a special dinner that had nothing to do with turkey.

For some reason I hate getting told happy birthday because I feel like people are telling me that I have to be happy. I hate being told how to feel and being told to be happy is a lot of pressure that often ruins the day for me.

Try to do something special for yourself this year.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Yep just turned 25 last week and I didn’t do anything nor did I want to. After my 21st birthday, I have hated celebrating my birthday. Darling Husband understands I don’t want to be reminded of my age. 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Well, today’s my birthday and pretty sure I’ll be sitting at home with Darling Husband and a glass of wine tonight!  I’ve gotten about 100 facebook greetings, a number of texts, and coworkers who ask what my plans are for tonight….to which I tell them none, lol.  I think birthdays just aren’t exciting anymore after you hit 21 or at least turning 28 today is VERY uneventful! Wink

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

My mom made birthday’s really special when we were kids so getting out into the real world was a shock. No one cares that it’s your birthday, no one treats you special, you still have to work, etc.

I’m turning 45 in a couple weeks. I sent my dh a link to the Coach factory sale and told him to pick one out and buy it for me. It arrived yesterday, it’s on the counter, I’m DYING to open it but I want something to look forward to. We are also going to see Jessi Cook that night and then going to see Oz the next day and I told him I want to go to Lobsterfest. I make my own fun now!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have birthday blues too!

I always got excited abou tit before until I turned 16 and my mother and step dad didn’t even acknowledge it. There was no dinner, no desert or cake…. absolutelly nothing… not even a card.

Sincethen I have been quite bitter towards it and am unable to accept gifts without feeling ackward and embarrased….. I am 32 now.

My ex also didn’t make big deals about my day…. I am sure it only added to my blues.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Galang_Gyal:  I had the worst 21st birthday in the history of birthdays. I was at college about an hour from my friends and it was a weeknight. My mom went to night school at the same college. We had dinner but she forgot her check card so we had about $8 to split something (I was super poor at the time so I literaly had no money)

Since then I’ve had memorable birthdays (surprise party at 37 where mom drove up from Houston even though she had to work the next day) and crappy birthdays. Making my own fun means I don’t have to rely on others and then I’m not disappointed!

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