Post # 1
I don’t know why, but it has ALWAYS bothered me, I always figure i take my DH last name not his first. I am my own person with my own name, Please use it! (short vent) lol Everyone has there pet peeves and that is one of mine
Post # 3
I”ve seen lots of posts of this nature so no, I assure you, you’re not the only one! 🙂
ETA: I should add that it doesn’t bother me in the least and I quite like it. I don’t feel as if i am losing my identity, but as a married woman, my identity is half of the partnership.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
Oh, it’s definitely a pet peeve of mine. Seeing just “Mr. & Mrs. John Smith” makes me feel like the woman has disappeared. At the very least, she’s been reduced to “Mrs.” and that’s it. I hate getting mail addressed like that, especially considering I didn’t take DH’s last name.
Post # 5
I actually love it. I never get called it except on formal wedding invitations, darn it. I just love his name and I love being his Mrs! We just don’t have the kind of relationship where I would ever worry about being submerged, nor have I ever had a relationship with a man like that, so it’s just not an issue or concern of mine. I am trying to get him to go along with being called Mr. Magdalena but he won’t go for it 😉
Post # 6
I dont see whats so bad about it. It doesnt make me any less me. Thats how I addressed all my wedding invites and thats how we were adressed on most of our wedding cards.
Post # 7
understandable, but 1/2 my partner, let him take 1/2 my name lol
Post # 8
I hate it except for when it has to do with formal stuff, when I’m okay with it.
Post # 9
I don’t like it. I think it should be Mr. and Mrs. Smith or John and Jane Smith. But I know the “formal” thing is Mr. and Mrs. John Smith because
Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Smith
Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith
are both too awkward.
Post # 10
I can’t stand it. I’ve actually never been addressed this way because I’ve made my feelings on this issue well known. I refuse to love my identity just because I’m married. To me it’s insulting to be only acknowledged as his wife and not my own separate person.
Post # 11
I haven’t been addressed in this way — but stuff like this doesn’t usually bother me. I did think this post was originally going to be a rant about the movie though haha– I was wondering why you were bringing it up so many years later.
Post # 12
hahah that made me laugh:)
Post # 13
I can’t stand it either, but I have no idea how we’re being announced… any way but that ! :p
Post # 14
being announced at the reception?
Post # 15
I guess I’m the odd (wo)man out. I love that sort of address. But then, Im old-fashioned in a lot of ways. It just sounds…stately.
Post # 16
I detest it.
I am not simply an extension of my husband, he’s just LUCKY I want to take his last name. I wouldn’t get openly up in arms about it, but I would be miffed. We got an invite addressed to he and I as if we were already married (why? I dk…I guess bc we live together) and I was just like…”Here, this is for you.” I get that it’s etiquette, but it’s etiquette I am not the least bit fond of.
ETA: I suppose our invites will be confiscated by the etiquette police ;), but I’m not doing this on ours. I think it particularly irks me when my mom is addressed like this….because my mom is Dr. She is not “Mrs Joe Ya-Da-Ya-Da” She is DR. Mom Ya-Da-Ya-Da.