(Closed) Am I the only one who ISNT super duper close with ALL their bms???? (long)

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

@princessggg:  If life was like pinterest, we would all be size 0 super models who work out 15 minutes before bed and eat horrifying fatty foods all day long.I’ve been a bridesmaid 6 times and at least three if those times I wasn’t particularly close to the bride. It happens. Your wedding photos don’t have to be like everyone elses. I would suggest not trying to fake it too.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@princessggg:  I am super close with all 6 of my bridesmaids and m 2 jr bridesmaids. They are the closest to me and only 1 of them is my sister; ther other are like sisters to me. I feel like whats the point in having bridesmaids if they are not close to you. These girls are supposed to be there for you while you are planning your wedding and help you out w/ the most important events in your life. They are responsible for your bachelorette festivities so why not pick people who know you well and know what you like? If I didn’t have any close friends I would not pick people “just because” its whats the norm…you don’t have to have bridesmaids….Pinterest is just a inspiration site to give you ideas.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Judging from many of the posts around here i would say nope.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

I have my high school best friend (we don’t talk often, but she’s awesome), my friend from college (we aren’t super close, but she’s also awesome), and my FI’s cousin (who is pretty and really important to FI). So, while I’m not super close with these girls, I know they’re probably the best suited for the job. They’re organized, practical, and enthusiastic. I stressed out about if for a while, but I’m really happy with my choices in the end. Oh, and none of them have ever met eachother, so it’s a little bit of a social experiment! hehe

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I have 5.  my moh is my fsil, but we are really close.  Then my childhood friend, who is one of those friends who you could go months not talking and pick up like nothing happened, which is frequently the case because we dont live close to each other.

Then there is my fi groomsmens wife, who I barely know.  And a girl fi grew up with who i barely know, and then another girl who is my friend but were not that close, we would be but Fiance and i moved away.

Originally we were going to just have 2 BMs and 2 GMs.  but Fiance always wanted lots of GMs he is very social.  Then over a few months the list got bigger lol I dont mind though because I have my 2 closest girls and a couple new friends

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t really have any friends anymore so I asked FI’s sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor and his niece to be my jr. bridesmaid. Plus his mom insisted. Even though they live in the same town as us, they are always too busy to spend time with us. They aren’t even coming to any pre-wedding parties or to the rehearsal and won’t be there for the picutres we are taking all of them before the ceremony. They are leaving as soon as the ceremony is over. FI’ niece has a softball game she is 8. I wish I had asked my mom to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. We are getting married on my mom & dad’s 45th wedding anniversary, so it would have been special as my mom is my best friend. So, that being said I know how you feel. Just focus on you & your Fiance.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@mrsrigsby60:  that made me really sad. how can they not even show up for pictures?? I played softball competatively for 20 years, and I can sure tell you that I would have missed a game (maybe even during playoffs) if I’d already committed myself to being a part of someone’s wedding, and not just a guest.  I always wanted my mom to be in my wedding party since we are besties, but she always said that wouldn’t be appropriate. are you having both of your parents escort you down the aisle? that’s how im including my mom (i dont have a dad).

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Dude, you are NOT the only one. Here’s my lineup:

1. My sister. Obvs we are close.

2. SO’s sister. We’re not super close (at all) (yet) but I really really like her.

3. Childhood best friend. We’ve literally been friends since birth, but for the last decade we’ve only really seen each other once a year. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in her wedding four years ago.  When we get together now it’s fun, but it’s also obvious that we’ve each taken a different path. 

4. College friend 1 (MOH). She and I are close in that I feel like we can tell each other anything… but we probably only hang out twice or three times a month. She’s so funny and awesome, but I think she probably has friends that she sees more often. 

5. College friend 2. She and I lived together for one term in college, and have been getting together every once and a while for brunch. I didn’t know if it would be awk. for me to ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man since we aren’t anywhere near the traditional “best friendship” level… but I just really really enjoy her company. I actually already asked her if she would want to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and she seemed stoked on it! That made me happy. :}

6. High school friend. She just moved back to my town from the coast, so I’m sure I’ll start seeing more of her. She’s one of my most “loyal” friends and I love that we’re so different. But again, we’re DIFFERENT and I don’t know if we get each other all the time. Ha ha ha. 

The bottom line is that I’m not really the kind of woman who has tons of BFFs that I spend a ton of time with. But it’s okay, and I’ll be so happy to have these women as a part of my wedding day!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I am sorry it must be a crappy feeling! I was very close with every Bridesmaid or Best Man and every time I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man I was very close to the bride so I can’t relate there but I understand how sometimes not everyone has super close girlfriends so don’t feel bad. I am sure your not alone in your feelings! Maybe try and do something with all the girls to have fun and bond? Like have them all over for dinner and watch bridesmaids or some other fun wedding movie? 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@_Adelaide_:  I feel worse for my Fiance than myself. I can only have my dad walk me down the aisle as that is what my Priest will allow. They are the ones who are missing out but I am still a little bummed.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@mrsrigsby60:  really? only your dad? i’m far too much of a feminist for that to be okay with me, but to each their own, right? yeah, that’s really sad for your whole family (you and hubs get to be a “family” – yay!), but it’s about the two of you in the end, right? and im sure it will be beautiful.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@_Adelaide_:  it’s what is done in my church. I abide by my Priest.  I’m not a feminist just the opposite.  My mom will get her own moment in the sun. My wedding day is also going to be my parents 45th wedding anniversary. My only family are my parents. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I hope that didn’t sound rude. I am super sensitive about the way my extended family has treated me.

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