(Closed) Am I the only one who pays people back ASAP?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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9687 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

One Friday, years ago, I was at lunch with a co-worker who started telling me her and her husband had no money for groceries over the weekend and she was very upset.  She even started crying saying how broke they were, couldn’t afford to eat, and had no food in the house.  So, I felt really sorry for her and asked if I could loan her some money.  She immediately jumped at my offer and said she needed $200.  I wrote her a check and asked if she could pay me back on the next pay day.  At the time I was young and struggling, working as a legal assistant.  She made a lot more money than I did but I was better at saving.  The $200 was a lot of money to me but I felt it was for a good purpose to help her buy food for her and her husband.  Imagine my surprise, and dismay, when she came in the office on Monday bragging to everyone about how she’d bought a new vanity set, complete with a table and chair, and how cute it was.  I asked her how much it cost, and she said, “$200!”  I guess she had forgotten how she had lied to me about needing my money for groceries.  I was so pissed off.  It took her several months to even begin to pay me back, and then she only paid about $50 every other paycheck.  I decided then and there that I would never loan money to anyone again if I expected to be paid back. 

Another co-worker (that I work with now) is a good one for going out to lunch with people here but “forgetting” her wallet and not realizing it until the check comes.  She’s burned me a couple of times but there’s not much you can do.  At least she always pays me back in a few days.  Sometimes I just give the money rather than loan it.

I’m like you, I don’t understand why people don’t pay you back!  I never borrow money from people and I don’t like it when someone asks me, either.  If we can learn to manage our money, they can, too, lol.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

YES! I feel the same way.

DH’s old roommate just gave him the money for last years cable bill yesterday! And we were married (and moved in together) 6 months ago…. It was almost a thousand dollars!!!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

@Sunfire:  I can’t believe the nerve of some people!!

For the most part I’m okay with lending people money for lunch, but I’ve never lent anyone an amount more than like $20.  It’s never come up and I hope it never does, wouldn’t want to be stuck in a hard place.

Post # 8
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9687 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@SimplyChic11:  Really!  I hope they pay you back sooner than that.  I don’t understand some people sometimes, sheesh!  I had to learn my lesson the hard way about this one.  Even family members can be bad about it.  I decided I either give them the money as a gift, or use one of my favorite words of all time, “No.”  😉

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

On the freak occurance that I leave my wallet at home or something, and someone has to cover me- I ALWAYS pay back. Literally on the spot. If my wallet is at home, or accidentally left in FI’s car, I fess up immediately.

“I’m soo sorry, I just realized I left my wallet inside my Fiance’s car. I have a bank app on my iphone and I can transfer you money immediately- do you mind? I’ll complete the transfer in front of you and give you the verification number!”

And I’m always sooo embarassed! I just never want to be talked about as “the girl who uses people,” or “the girl who is always broke.” I live within my means, and I will never ever use somebody for money!!

It just causes sooo many awkward situations..ugh.

ETA: I’m not a dick if it’s a CLOSE friend. My 3 closest friends all have full time jobs, etc. We have those relationships where it’s just normal for me to pick up the lunch bill one day, and a friend to pay the next. If one of my close friends genuinely needed money, I would know they would pay me back ASAP, and that they were putting it towards what they said they were.

Post # 10
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3776 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

I don’t understand why people are so casual about paying back the people they owe.  We had to borrow $500.00 (the mortgage company was $500.00 off on our closing costs and we has already put everything we could down on the house) one time from my mom and I had her paid back within two weeks because I couldn’t handle how I felt to owe someone money. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Sunfire:  Wow!!  I can’t believe that happened!

 

I agree with you though…anytime I “loan” money, I always just assume I’m not getting it back, so I give and forget it. 

 

 

@SimplyChic11:  But I agree, I HATE owing money.  I pay it back as soon as I possibly can. 

Post # 12
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2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am obsessed with paying people back. I just feel so guilty. I literally pay back right away. Becuase I know how annoying it is to give people money and never see a cent of it back.

I never loan people to people. Ever.

Post # 13
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1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I always do. I can not think of a single person I owe money to.

Post # 14
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584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I hate when people do that. I have a friend who needed a computer for school, because theirs had died.. I felt bad, an I asked how much? “300.00” I really didn’t want to, but I felt bad. Shortly after I hear them talking about how they got a mac pro or something which is like  1,300.00. Still haven’t seen the money.

Post # 15
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9687 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@greenviolets:  I couldn’t believe she was dumb enough to tell me on Monday, lol.  Maybe she forgot! I was shocked, so I didn’t know what to say at first.  Then, I was like, “Kathy!  You told me you needed that money for groceries, what the hell?”  She was so caught in that lie, haha!  She didn’t even act one bit ashamed. 

I also hate owing someone so I never borrow money.  I hope I never have to, it’s not a good feeling.  But I would definitely pay someone back immediately if I ever did.

Post # 16
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Yea I pay money back asap! Does oweing money to someone make anyone else feel like they have the Linus cloud from Charlie Brown over their head? LOL

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