- 6 years ago
I didn’t know where, exactly, to put this, so I am posting it to Beehive.
I wanted to warn/discuss a major issue that occured at my wedding that I still can’t believe happened. I am curious if this has happened to anyone else.
My wedding ceremony took place at a small hotel. The reception was held at a restaurant, about a mile down the road, which is owned by the same people who own the hotel. My invitations, which I have since double-checked, specified the name and address of each location. Unfortunately, my guests decided to completely avoid reading the “Reception to Follow” part (which was in the same size and font as the rest of the invitation). I am unsure as to why, but this separate ceremony and reception locale thing caused mass confusion.
I had someone who was helping me set-up the reception. She called me and informed me that she was “at the hotel” and they were telling her she was “in the wrong place.” I told her that the reception was not at the hotel, but at the restuarant. Once I got to the reception site, my helper began arguing with me, insisting that my invitations DID NOT specifiy that the reception would be held at a separate location. They definitely did, though!
After the ceremony, all of our guests crowded around on the hotel lawn and were socializing. Finally, I had to shout to everyone, “Go to the reception, guys, so you can eat!” That met the response of several guests asking me, “Which room is it in?” and, “Where are we supposed to go?” Subsequently, I had to shout directions from my hotel room balcony to the guests below. Several people looked perplexed and one person even said, “A MILE?! Oh my gosh, (Pinksapphire)!” Yeah, a mile. Can you imagine having to drive a mile?! The horror!
Our reception was an hour late getting started because the wedding ran about fifteen minutes late and the guests proceeded to socialize on the lawn for thirty minutes after the wedding before driving down the reception. Everyone thought the reception was at the hotel. Because they didn’t read my invitations in their entirety.
My advice: If you have separate ceremony and reception locations, stress this fact to guests via word of mouth BEFORE the wedding. That way, there is no confusion going on. Simply including this information on your invitations AND wedding website is clearly not enough!