- 3 months ago
- Wedding: June 2019
I have been together with my SO for 20 years, and we got engaged 15 years ago….and we are still not married. Why??? Because I was “over it” before it ever got started.
We have both been married before. His kids were in their late teens and I had a 10 year old daughter when we got engaged.
We wanted to get married at our house. We live in the country on 30 acres.
Our guest list consisted of 160 people. That’s as far as we got.
We were told we couldnt get married at our house, that I couldn’t do the food myself, that I had to do it this way or that way. Everybody had an opinion, and everyone had their judgements.
Well, one night, a commercial came on about the 50th anniversary of Disneyland. I turned to my fiance and I said, “Do you want to spend our money and go to Disneyland, or do you want to get married?”
Without missing a beat he said, “I’d rather go to Disneyland.” DONE!!!!
My 10 year old had never been to Disneyland…neither had I, so I planned a surprise trip to Disneyland for my daughter and it was fantastic. We had a blast. We now go to Disneyland every couple of years.
That was back in 2005, and to this day, if someone asks why we arent married yet, we tell them because we would rather go to Disneyland.
My daughter is now 24, and she is getting married in June. She asked me to be her wedding planning/coordinator. I told her that I would love to do that, but if along the way she got stressed out or overwhelmed by it all, we were taking the money and the 4 of us were going to Disneyland.
So far, so good, no stress to speak of so far. She has been adamant from the start that they will have the wedding that THEY want, and not the wedding that anyone else says they should have, and she has stuck to that.