(Closed) Am I the only person who won't use "choose a seat not a side"?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What camp are you in?
    Choose a seat, not a side : (111 votes)
    51 %
    Bride's family and Groom's family seated seperately : (90 votes)
    41 %
    Everyone is standing : (9 votes)
    4 %
    We're eloping! : (9 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 92
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    2437 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Asia:  I’m not. Idc lol, sit wherever. 🙂

    Post # 93
    Member
    2285 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    It’s a 30 minute ceremony in which they can’t talk or move. How much drama can they start? I’d let them sit wherever so that it’s even for photos.

    Post # 94
    Member
    1848 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Our families are both very insular, with my family coming off as standoffish sometimes (we’re just quiet). I think it would be beneficial for them to mix. I do like the signs, but I have seen them so so so much and by the time I wed, it’ll be old news. I was thinking having the ushers ask people where they would like to sit. I think in the end, I won’t care what happens. I just want to get married.

     

    Post # 95
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    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I didn’t really care where people sat.  In fact, we had a police wedding, with an honour guard in a public park, so lots of people saw the police and thought it was a public event.  So there weren’t even actually many seats left for our actual guests until after the randoms got word that it was actually a (private) wedding, so people kind of ended up wherever.

    Post # 97
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    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @NowDontLetsBeSilly:  i kind of like the signs in that people definitely don’t NEED to be told where to sit but it’s sweet to acknowledge the joining of family even down to the seating where things are typically divided. i so agree that this particular wording is wayyyyy overdone. i agree. i love it but i won’t word it like that. as for what i’ll write, who knows.

     

    Post # 98
    Member
    10452 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We won’t be putting up a sign, but we are also not having ushers so I imagine people will just sit where they want. 

    Post # 99
    Member
    748 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I think ultimately people sit with those they feel comfortable with. So even this no-side thing tends to become a defacto “sitting with my side”.

    Post # 100
    Member
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    No I’m a traditionalist for this. Brides side on one and Grooms on the other. Sorry haha

    Post # 102
    Member
    388 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @kes18:  +1. So cheesy.

    Post # 103
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    526 posts
    Busy bee

    @Asia:  thank you! I think the ‘seat not a side’ thing is a little bit of being scared/embarassed of looking out and seeing your spouses side being more/less filled than yours (my side was definitely smaller) but our way we could SEE who was there for us, and it wasn’t a comparison moment.  The church part goes by so fast anyway!

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