Post # 1
As hard as this is for me to write, I’m gonna do it!
If there are ANY REAL PLUS size brides on here, I mean size 20+, what did you do when it was time to look for a dress? Bridal salons don’t carry very many, if at all. Then there’s the selection. Even David’s Bridal that has a WOMENs size section (I hate that) doesn’t carry that many. Don’t I get to TRY on my dream dress?
Are plus size women not supposed to marry and have fairytale weddings?
Just wondering…must I resort to imaging what that dress on the internet will look like on me and then just order it and hope for the best.
Venting and hoping there might be ONE or two others that have suggestions.
Thanks in advance!!
Post # 3
Size 18 here. And yes, most of the dresses in the store are for little brides. My dress is a Mori Lee and has a lace up corset. It’s a REAL corset and not one of those decorative corsets that really have a zipper and is only there to look pretty. I tried on the dress and it didn’t fit, (a size 10) but gave me the general idea of what it would look like. When I ordered it (get ready for this) I had to order a size 24! Now I’ve never fit into a 24 in all my life, but the measurements really were sized for my 18. (which I’m trying to lose 10 more lbs and I’ll be a 16… I just can’t seem to get there!!)
I loathe David’s Bridal. (and make no secret of it) Try going to a real Bridal Salon. Someplace that will take YOU into consideration and not try to heard you through like cattle. That’s what I did and it was wonderful!
Post # 4
I’m a size 20 here. Surprisingly enough though, my wedding dress is an 18!
I bought a David’s Bridal dress. I was very fortunate that my DB had a ton of dresses in their plus size section – I had about 15 dresses to choose from! It was pretty exciting. It must vary store to store? It doesn’t help that I live in one of the fattest states in the union.
I’m sorry that I have no real advice, but just know that you’re not alone out there! I thought it would be depressing to try on a dress, and I just knew I’d look huge and like a marshmellow, but I didn’t (as far as everyone tells me!) Don’t give up!
Post # 5
Au contraire, my dear – I am most definitly a curvy girl. (Around 24 bottoms and 16-18 tops, I’m an extreme pear.) When I started planning my wedding, the idea of shopping for a dress could nearly put me into a meltdown.
I didn’t want to be embarrassed at a regular salon so honestly, I skipped most of them except for window shopping. I couldn’t bear the thought of being squeezed into a dress that wouldn’t zip, or worse, buying something that was held up to me and I had to "imagine." I did the DB thing, and was also very dissapointed with my options. I decided to go the custom dress route. Before you assume it’s out of your price range, know that most dressmakers can work within your budget, whatever it is.
I got quotes from a handfull of designers in my area, and they were all super reasonable. I’m working with a fantastic designer here in Seattle (Kiko House of Couture,) and he stuck to my exact budget. His labor was about $600, and the rest was fabric and supplies. Mine is on the expensive side ($1800) but I’ve seen other dresses he’s made for $700-$1000 and they’re all gorgeous.
Sigh… I totally understand the frustration… I love weddingbee, and I even applied to join… But… I do sometimes feel like there isn’t really plus size respresentation here. I wish there were more of us around (and I definitly wish it had been me writing for all of us, hehe!) 😉 I think that plus size brides are often seen as needing their own niche, almost like our dress shopping problem can’t be discussed side by side with flower problems or vendor issues, which is too bad. I’d be happy to share any curvy bride resources I have, if you’d like.
I wish you the very best of luck. It might be tough at times, but it’ll be worth it. Know that you’re not alone and that all of us who have been through it are supporting you. 🙂 You’ll be beautiful on your wedding day no matter what.
Post # 6
I weaar an 18, and my dress is a 20.
I tried on things at David’s Bridal (though their plus-size selection was SMALL) and then at Bridesmart in Illinois (where I’m from and where the wedding is) and it was much better there.
In the end, I found several dresses I like, and then bought one very similar in style on eBay, and I love it!
Hang in there!! You are not alone! If you can get to a Bridesmart (I think they might be called Alfred Angelo now) I recommend it.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2007 - The Wellington House in Fayetteville, NY
My sister is a size 26 and when she got married a few years ago I went with her to all of her bridal appointments… and MAN was it frustrating. I totally feel your pain.
Eventually she found a shop (in Buffalo, NY) that had a great selection of plus size dresses on the rack and she got a beautiful dress and they didn’t treat her like crap.
Do you use the Knot message boards? Maybe you should post on your local knot board and ask for recommendations of good bridal salons with plus size dresses in stock.
Or you could always consider finding a seamstress and having a custom dress made. Then it will be exactly what you want and you’ll be able to try on the muslim "mock up" before the real dress is made.
You’re not around Chicago are you? I ask because there was a great custom design shop here that I went to called Dame Couture and they said they work with a lot of plus size brides because of their frustration with other bridal salons.
If you’re not near Chicago… maybe there is a similar place near you.
~ Mrs. Radish
Post # 8
Thanks, ladies!!! I’m out the door for a weekend trip, but can’t wait to read all your responses when I return.
Post # 9
You might try hopping on manolobig.com. I know they’ve posted a couple of times about wedding gowns for women who aren’t size 4s. You can also email them to ask for specific suggestions…HTH!
Post # 10
Girl you are soooo not alone! I’m an 18.
I seriously cried the first time I went to try on dresses… I fell in love with a dress from priscilla of boston so I wanted to go check it out… I WAS SOOO f-in upset and embarassed first b/c they didn’t have a bra that fit me… then they brought shoes that were awful… then I’m standing there in my drawers in a bra that soooo doesn’t fit and then they put a size like 8 up against me with my hips and ass on the outside of the silhouette of the dress… talk about embarassing.
I bought a dress from lanebryant.com and it fit true to size…
Then I just said screw it because I wanted something like the priscilla of boston for my wedding but not 4 GRAND! So I am having it made.
Post # 11
I know you said size 24 and up….but I do still understand your frustration! I am a size 14, my dress is a 14 too, but only because it has a corset. And she tightens it to the point of me being unable to breathe just so it looks like I have a waist. But even getting to try on a dress that fit a 14 was impossible. most of the dresses were a size 8-10. and some places really aren’t nice about it. Dress shopping was very disconcerting. especially when there were these skinny little girls there who looked fantastic in everything, and they had to clip in the dress to make it fit. SO annoying! Really, I ended up just having to imagine what the too small dress would look like on me. and honestly, when it came in, i didn’t love it. but I have since grown to love me in my dress, this is my body, my Fiance loves me as I am, so whatever. Honestly, I can’t imagine having to find something if I was even a little bigger….I just don’t get it when the majority of women are a size 10-12 and dresses run 1-2 sizes small, and if little people can fit into the bigger dresses anyway, why the hell they can’t provide average size sample dresses to make it work for everyone!
Post # 12
YAY dreambml!!!!! I totally hear ya! Annnd… let add one more layer to this cake. Try being a plus sized OLDER bride. I’m 44. Yes.. do you hear me??? 44. And I’ve waited my whole life to find the right person and have my dream wedding and here I am. Sorry I am not in my 20’s or even early 30’s, but I have just as much right as anyone else getting married to participate in Bridal Fairs, shopping, etc. without someone saying "Oh YOU’RE the Bride?!?!" or asking me if I’m the MOB.
Geez! (sorry for my rant.. but you totally made me feel like "I am woman! Hear me roar!)
Post # 13
yeah – i’m a street size 8-10 and i still have a problem fitting into some dresses in the bridal salons. these shops need to get a clue, for realz.
Post # 14
I totally empathize, man. I’m a 12/14, and strapping on these dresses (I mean literally strapping) in a salon was unbearable. I felt like a sausage stuffed in a straw. When I finally bought my dress, they made me get a size 20, and they charged $400 extra for sizes 16 and up. At the time, I felt like a wounded animal, my girly properties man-handled into these dresses. So naturally, I felt like the manufacturer was punishing me for being a 747 instead of a DC-10. Bridal salons need to get with the program and cater to a wider audience (no pun intended).
Post # 15
hi i’m usually a 10-12 in dresses, but when i bought my dress they put me in a 16w. at first i was a little worried when going gown shopping, because of the sizing issue, but they take the largest measurement and go with that. for me it was my bust, 38-40, and i don’t have huge boobs, just a large rib cage. i’m sure what ever you find you’ll look great in it, as long as you feel like a princess. you’ll know when you try it on 🙂
Post # 16
i went for my first dress shopping experience this past monday.
i picked Davids Bridal bc i was hoping they would have more of a plus size selection.
Abosolutely nothing that i wanted to try on was available in my size. not even close enough for me to squeeze.
i was surrounded by skinny girls, twirling around in their gowns and i was stuck trying on whatever was in my size, which sucked immensely.
it was all i could do not to cry as i stood in my small dressing room cold in a bra that didnt fit waiting for the consultant to find anything in my size to try on.