(Closed) Am I the only PLUS size bride to be around here?

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Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

<span class=”postby”>GetMarried4Less have you tried Alfred Angelo?  I heard they have some nice styles there.  Even at a 14, I feel so much bigger that regular girls.  I considered AA but ended up getting my dress at DB.  Good luck!

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Hey there. Try going to Shapely Prose… the ladies there are faboo and may have wonderful suggestions.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

no youre def not the only one…

i ended up ordering an 18 – but i wear a size 14 in jeans and other clothes…

the sample size – yeah that biotch was a size 6… whatevs – i ordered it anyway and it’s just as i imagined it would look…

still pretty frustrating tho…

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I’m a size 26/28, and with my dress shopping, I went to the fabulous, Alfred Angelo.

 

I got a dress in a size 26, which is a true lace up corset and it’s beautiful.  It’s strapless and I think it’s going to work out just fine.

 

It is very frustrating to look for things when you’re a curvy girl.  And I feel you when you think that somehow we’re not entitled to enjoy our wedding in the same way as everyone else (that isn’t fluffy) does.  Not true!

Praise your curves and demand service!  David’s Bridal doesn’t care about you being big, they just want your money.  So, they threw in some bigger sizes to "silence" us.  I’ll pass.  They’re quality is poor and so is their service.

 

Don’t dispair!  Feel free to email me if you need support or suggestions! 

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Plus size bride here too, size 18! Actually, I’m so nervous about dress shopping that I’ve been putting it off (luckily I’ve had a long engagement of 2 years- thought it’s 1.5 now) until I lose some weight. However, I will never be a size 6 and able to fit into the sample sizes no matter what. I have heard so many horror stories about plus size dress shopping, and I know I am going to have to call all the salons in my area to find out if they even carry ANY dresses in my size. I figure that my game plan will be to go to David’s to see if they have any dresses in my size to figure out what styles I like and then either custom make my dress or order one from a bridal salon. Either way, I definitely understand where you are coming from! Good luck!

Oh and if anyone knows any good bridal salons in the NYC area that actually carry plus size dresses, any advice would be appreciated!

Post # 22
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Helper bee

I am a Bee.  And I am a plus size.  A real plus size.  I am a 16…you know…that size that you can never find in stores because they only go up to 14…

I absolutely understand your situation and empathize.  My dress was an Alfred Angelo and it laced up the back.  The one thing I wish I had taken into consideration was having a sweethart neckline so that my juggs wouldn’t look like such a shelf.

Oh, and DB made me cry. 

Best of luck!!

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Don’t be put off–keep trying!  I too sent myself into tizzies after first being engaged.  The dress shopping was the thing I dreaded the most.  I wear a street size 16W, which really means that I need a 20-22 wedding gown.  🙁

In addition to David’s, Encore Bridal online has some larger sizes, as does preownedweddingdresses.com.  I have to tell you, though, that David’s Bridal stores vary, so you might find more larger sizes at a different shop.  Also, call around to the bridal stores you want to visit and ask whether they have larger size samples to try on and which designers they carry. 

Blush, in Gainesville, VA had lots of great things that fit me.

I haven’t bought my dress yet but I have found several that I’ve really loved.  I could get myself into a sample size 10 or 12 in most cases and the good salons have lots of assorted "hardware" (binder clips, rubber bands, clamps, etc.) to pull the dress closed so you get an idea of what it will look like in your size.  I know that’s not the same as slipping a dress on and going out to twirl around in front of everyone, but just think–you’ll be able to do that at your first fitting if you really want to.

While I really didn’t have a problem with most of the dresses I tried on, I did notice that A LOT of the larger-size samples were pretty dumpy.  Big, ornate, ostentatious beading, TONS of fabric, lacy sleeves.  Stuff that hasn’t been in style in a very long time, and generally not the direction most larger women should be going in (in my humble opinion–the more fabric, the greater the chance of you looking like you’re being attacked by a snow monster).  That was disappointing.  But, if you are willing to use your imagination just a little and step into those smaller samples, you’ll probably find something a lot more current.  Most designers will go up to a size 24, some even to size 32! 

Also, my bridesmaids, who were shopping for their dresses, are bigger girls.  They had more trouble than I did.  The dresses they were trying on weren’t so full in the skirt, so it was harder to get them on.

One warning:  there is almost always an upcharge for larger sizes.  In a way, I understand it.  You need more fabric to construct a larger dress.  But at the same time, it’s kind of depressing and unfair.  So, beware that a dress in your size might cost $200-400 more for higher-end designers, depending on how ornate and detailed the fabric is.

Finally, when all else fails, do not hesitate to ask your consultant if there is anyone who works in the store that can wear a sample size, or if there are other bridesmaids around who might fit into a dress, you could ask them to try the dress on so you can see how it is supposed to fit.  I know this sounds kind of humiliating, but you would be surprised at the reaction from the girls we asked to do this (twice on our marathon shopping excursion last weekend)–they were happy to oblige, and I got to see where the curves of the dress were supposed to be, and get a clearer picture of what it would really look like on me.  Not the same as slipping it on all the way, but it was a good substitute. 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

As a side note to EastportBride’s post. Alfred Angelo is the only manufacturer that I know of that did away with the "bigger size upcharge" they changed their policy this past year. I have several plus size bridesmaids and that’s why I chose Alfred Angelo. Why should we be punished?  No one gives a discount to the smaller brides who don’t use as much fabric!  Why should we pay more? And Alfred Angelo does have beautiful dresses.

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2007

I too had problems and even some anxiety about my dress shopping (street size 16).  I went to ton of salons looking for the right dress….. David’s Bridal was out, too many bad things I have heard about their services.  After “trying on” about 20 dresses, (holding some of them up, I have a very ample bosom, 38H) I could then understand what style looked best on me.   I knew I wanted a simple no beads or lace dress and something like straps to keep the dress up.  The worst part was the service I got from these salons.  I had almost given up when the third place in a row tried to put me in a MOB matronly dress.  Just because I’m a little thick around the bones doesn’t mean I want to look like I am wearing a tent.  

I walked into the last bridal salon and they carried up to size 24, yeah!  The owner was honest from the beginning, about what style and even color would compliment my size and Irish complexion. I ended up just ordering a size 22! Mori Lee dress sight unseen at that salon from a catalogue.  Scary, I know…but I followed my gut and everything turned out.

So like others suggested stay away from evil bridal chains, and perhaps have the dress custom made by a designer just for you, and follow your instinct.  No matter what, your friends and family, especially your fiancé love the way you look.  You will look and be beautiful bride! Good luck!

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Mrs. Kiwi had a great post a little while ago:

My Regret

Good luck.

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

i’m not sure why db gets a bad rap.  i ended getting my dress at db in orange, ca and they were really helpful.  it also could of been because they weren’t that busy.  anyhow, they had a large selection in plus sizes.  again, i guess it just depends where you go.  i doubt monique lluhlier would have plus size if you went there, but just try on ALOT of dresses.  i went in thinking i want this certain style, and it looked just horrible on me, keep an open mind and you never know, a look you thought you couild never pull off could be the one that looks the best on you!  

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I didn’t realize they measured you at the widest part.  I’ve been putting off dress shopping too.  I have to do it within the next month.  I’m planning on wearing a Sophie by http://www.rhymecouture.com/.  But I promised my Future Mother-In-Law that I would go dress shopping with her.  Ugh.  I’m a 34 Dear Daughter but a 14 everywhere else.  Do they make Turtleneck Spanx?

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

MissRojoOso, sophie is beautiful!  What is turtleneck spanx, is it spanx for the neck?  

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2007 - Radisson Hotel

Like enmoore mentioned, I am a plus sized gal: I think it was a 23? I don’t even remember, but I do know it was a miserable day.

I also posted this: http://www.weddingbee.com/2007/02/24/heres-the-truth/

 From experience I have to tell you to fight how bad you may feel at trying on gowns in sizes too small, find the dress you LOVE!!

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I saw your post and imagine my delight that you are from Silver Spring!

There is a bridal salon in Columbia, MD (called the Columbia Bridal Shop) that has a plus sized section of really nice dresses, ranging from slightly nicer than David’s to A LOT nicer than David’s.  The people there are pretty nice, as long as you have an appointment, and will let you take pictures and stuff.  

They don’t have an enormous selection (probably like, 20 dresses or so), but the stuff that they had was pretty nice, and they do have the size 10 samples, etc. that you can also try on.   

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