(Closed) Am I the only PLUS size bride to be around here?

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Post # 32
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2007

Ahhhh, the trials and tribulations of being plus-sized seems so magnified when wedding-related, don’t they??? I’m an 18/20 and was not looking forward to dress shopping at all. This is my second (and final!) wedding and I remembered how humiliating the process was the first time around. Round one I had gone into every fancy, mid-range and neighborhood bridal salon in the Westchester County and Main Line area – many places were flat out rude in that they didn’t deal with "plus-size" brides. I was a size 12/14 at the time.

This time around I didn’t want to go the traditional wedding gown route anyway and was thinking about going custom but my mom and bf talked me into a run to DB. We went to the Plymouth Meeting location with very low expectations and I left that night with a very simple, extremely lovely wedding gown.

Finding sexy/pretty wedding night lingerie, "Mrs." panties and the like was also next to impossible in plus-sizes.

 

Post # 33
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m a street size 18 and my dress from David’s Bridal was a 16.

I had a really good experience at DB though. 

Post # 34
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Newbee

This is exactly why I love Wedding Bee!  I’m a 24 normally – my dress is a 26.  I’ve said for years that I just need to get back down to my college weight.  Puh-lease.  I agree with all of the ladies that have already suggested Alfred Angelo and individual bridal stores.  I knew I didn’t want a huge dress (aka the snow monster – that was a great description) and the store I went to suggested a bridesmaid dress in white.  They also suggested adding 6 inches in the length to make a "mock" train from it.  These were the best suggestions I’ve heard – I will be scheduling my first fitting this week! 

Good luck and if there are other brides out there that want to trade suggestions – I’d love to!!

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Not to completely discount, David’s Bridal — but some shops that they have — have ZERO respect to plus size brides.

 

I went to the one in Orange, CA and they were better.  But the one in Costa Mesa, CA was HORRID.  They wouldn’t help me and told me that I couldn’t even LOOK at the dresses, because I’d "smudge them up".  WHAT!?

I knew I had to go with Alfred Angelo, because they offer all kinds of sales, great service and classy reps.  Plus, they had a much larger selection of styles that DB ever had.  Why?  Because DB LIES.  They say they have a size 24/26 for some of their styles but they don’t.  They don’t even MAKE them.  They’re catalog says they have them, but they didn’t even manufacture any.  Ridiculous.

 

However, I see a lot of brides saying that they are a "true" plus size with being a size 14, 16 or 18.  Not that I think you’re not in the same category, but I think the OP was saying about brides OVER 18 and at least 20+ — that’s where the real challenge kicks in. 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’d vote for trying Alfred Angelo if only because they’re one of the only dress lines I’ve seen that actually has advertisements that feature plus-sized brides. That definitely sends the message that their goal is to make everybody feel gorgeous.

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I know that for a lot of brides dress shopping is the most exciting part of the planning process, but not for me. When he asked I was a 20, and I carry all my weight around the middle, so I’m not even cute and curvy. Since then I’ve dropped to a 16 but still I was sweating bullets when I finally dragged myself to the dress shop. Trying on dresses 10 sizes too small, ordering a dress 2-3 sizes bigger than your normal size, having the whole world see you in your skivvies and spanx – not pleasant if you ask me.

But, I found a dress I love. Granted I don’t yet know what it looks like done up, and I plan on being sucked and tucked with lycra on the big day – but don’t forget that he loves you the way you are, that you are gorgeous and wonderful!

 We don’t buy into the idea that you need to go into an incredible amount of debt to have a beautiful wedding, why buy into the idea that there is only one standard of beauty?

All the best.

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Another plus-size girl chiming in here…  You’re not alone!!

When I read your post, my first thought was, "Geez, my friends are going to read this and think I’ve moved on to complaining on WeddingBee now…"  It sounds exactly like me!

Hang in there… I went to probably 9 bridal shops, cried in some but also had a few exceptional experiences.  Call ahead and ask them if they really do have dresses in sizes 20 and up.  I’ve had places come back with a count for me because the second dress shop I went to claimed they did–turns out they had TWO!

Ok, I’m not going to complain. πŸ™‚  Just trying to think about what’s helpful.  I totally understand about DB and although I went there and they had a good selection, I didn’t *love* any of the dresses and the service was bad.  I had a posse there helping me so it didn’t matter so much that the attendant person wasn’t.

I ended up finding a specifically plus size shop that opened January 1st (I think my appointment was for the 3rd!) and that was a great experience, although since they were just starting out, they only had 8 dresses.  For anyone in Minnesota, it’s Rubenesque Bridal in Savage (very close to Burnsville tho).  The owner, Cynthia, is super sweet.   I didn’t end up getting a dress there though–I just didn’t love any of the dresses I tried.

I pretty much knew that I was not going to be able to hold up a dress to my body or have it hanging off of me and order it based on that.  I flat out refused to try on dresses that *really* didn’t fit.  If they were a size off or something more reasonable, OK.  But a size 10?  Yeah right.  I completely understand and agree with your desire to see yourself in the dress–I think it’s important!

So, there’s hope–I found my dress at a long-established reputable and locally owned bridal shop here in MN.  It turns out they have a women’s department!  I pretty much knew the second I put the dress on that it was the one.

Funny thing is, it’s also a Mori Lee (style 2108)–It looks like many other brides on this thread also found that Mori Lee worked for them!

Here is my dress and if you can believe it, I think it looks better on me!!

I really have to stop posting at 4am…I think I talk to much when I’m tired.  Sleep avoidance, probably. πŸ˜‰ 

Post # 40
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I, too, am a plus-sized bride to be! I was on steroids, off and on, for a year and a half and it’s been TOUGH to get the weight off!

I am normally a 22W <—- (there is a difference between 22 and 22W) on the bottom and an 18W on top (I am about as PEAR as they come…LOL).

I went to Harrient Kassman in Washington, DC, to order my dress during an Anne Barge trunk show. I saw the dress in an ad and literally feel in love with it.

I also visited Hannelore’s in Alexandria, VA, to look at dresses. Pronovias,  Cassablanca, and a few others have dresses in PLUS sizes.

Yes, I am going to spend more than I anticipated for my dress, but I plan on being a bride ONCE in my lifetime and I want no regrets for our day. The majority of our budget is photography and for the reception, but I saved and am paying for my dress out of MY money (alone).

Post # 41
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Since it appears so many of the people who have posted on this thread are from the DC area, I thought I’d put in my two cents on the places where I had success in case you’re still looking.

First, although DB has a bad rap (and for some reasons, deservedly so), I had an okay time at the one in Rockville.  I tried on lots of dresses that actually fit me and I’ll tell you that made the experience a lot better.

Second, Blush Bridal Boutique in Gainesville, VA had lots of dresses too that I could try on–some that were even too big (I wear a 16-18W and really need a 20 or larger)!!  Their prices were very affordable too, for some really beautiful gowns.

If anyone else is looking for shopping suggestions in the DC area, let me know, I’ve hit A LOT of stores over the past few weeks and have good and bad things to report about each of them.

Post # 42
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

size 16/18.. anyone here from indiana/illinois/kentucky region? i need help..there is no places to chose from around here. any advise?

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

If you’re willing to make the trip up to New York, RK Bridal seemed to have a nice selection of plus sized wedding gowns and the sales people seemed very nice and respectful of them.

Bridal gowns don’t run in normal, human sizes so you could be a size 10 in ready to wear and in bridal you’ll be a size 16. It doesn’t matter what number size the dress is, all that matters is that you feel comfortable and confident in that gown.

 

Post # 44
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’ve seen alot of DB bashing in this thread, and though I’m sure some of their shops deserve the bad rep, my experience at their Greenwood, IN store was great. I’m a size 22, and they had all but one of the dresses I wanted to try on in my size, and that one they didn’t have in my size they had in one size smaller so it wasn’t hard to put on just a little uncomfortably tight. I would suggest giving them a try, just be sure to make an appointment. It’s hard to get personal attention if you just walk in, especially on weekends. The dress I fell in love with is a size 22 with a lace-up corset back and definitly doesn’t make me look like a marshmallow. It makes me feel fabulous. I had horrible experiences in “regular” salons when i was my best friend’s Maid/Matron of Honor, so I swore I’d never go back. It was so embarrassing to have the consultant at demetrios look at me and say that the samples only go up to an 8 so they’d just have to hold it up in front of me to see if i liked the dress. i refused to let her put me through that. my friend tried it on so i could see if i liked the way it fit. I was beyond upset at that point.

I will say that if you have plus-sized maids, DB is alot more of a hassle, at least at the greenwood store. Even with an appointment, the consultant wasn’t nearly as helpful to my bridesmaid as she was to a tiny bride she was working with. My plus-sized (size 24) Bridesmaid or Best Man and I dug though the dresses and I put her in them myself. frustrating! don’t be afraid to turn on the bridezilla if this happens to you. I had to eventually in order to get a consultant to help us.

 

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

size 20 bride right here hun πŸ˜‰

Post # 46
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Bumble bee

Size 18/20 right here too… (Well technically I wear 14/16 uptop and 18/20 on bottom.)

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