(Closed) Am I the only who thinks that a holiday proposal is not nice?

posted 10 years ago in Proposals
Post # 17
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Busy bee

My FH proposed on the fifth anniversary of our first date – I joke with him that it is one less “special day” to remember – two for the price of one! He looked pretty thoughtful when I said that – I don’t think he had considered this before, but decided it was a nice perk!

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

meh.  i think it depends on if you’re the kind of couple that would celebrate something like that or not.  FI proposed to me on christmas eve and i thought it was awesome.  best christmas ever.  and i thought it was sweet that he was giving the promise of our future life together to me as a christmas present.

honestly, the idea of celebrating our engagement anniversary never occurred to me.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes, you are.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee

We don’t plan on celebrating our engagement, not sure why anyone would do that anyway. I just don’t like holiday proposals. Always have.

MissGreen-As far as him doing it on a holiday, would I get upset?…no. No woman would. But then he already knows I don’t want it on Christmas/Thanksgiving, and especially V-Day. He wouldn’t do that anyway, since he already told me it’d be too obvious. But then, that may just be us.

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I got engaged on Christmas Eve and where it was wasn’t my first choice, I still loved it because heck, I was engaged! Also, I am in school 5 hours away from him so honestly usually only see him during holiday breaks, so it’s what worked. And who celebrates their engagement? That sounds excessive.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

@ Firie…OMG! As a fellow Aussie I would be pretty appalled to be invited to a wedding on ANZAC day. I think I have been invited to a wedding on the ANZAC day weekend (so, Saturday and the actual day is Monday) and I don’t remember minding too much since it was a 5 hour drive away and that gave us time to get home, but to expect people to give up the actual day for your wedding seems a bit much. For many families who have/had people serving in war it would be akin to be invited to a wedding held on Xmas Day.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Do people seriously celebrate the day they got engaged? I couldn’t even tell you the date we got engaged… some time in late September? I guess I fail at being a bride.

From now on, we are going to celebrate the day we get married, which happens to coincide with our dating anniversary which also falls on… the day before Halloween! I guess we’ll be having a super fun couple of days from now on!

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

It wouldn’t bother me. I have no idea what date we were engaged on – I know it was around September but I don’t know the exact date. (Haha that makes me sound awful!). I personally think holiday proposals are lovely – especially Christmas. Although I definitely wouldn’t want to get married on a holiday cos I want a day of celebration to ourselves! I don’t know anyone who celebrates the anniversary of their proposal after they’re married so for me, it’d really only be an issue for the duration of the engagement. Plus, at least it’d be a good way to remember the date of your proposal – perhaps I should have had a holiday proposal! LOL

Post # 27
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Helper bee

Ohhhh well, not the same exactly, but my parents got married on New Years’ Eve…and then 25 years later got divorced. The first few NYE after that were a bit awkward…

Because of that, I’ve sworn not to get married on a day that has other cause for celebration (not that you expect to get divorced, but ya know, pretty sure my parents didn’t plan on it in the begining hah).

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It’s not so much about the day as it is about the setting. Our dating anniversary is Dec 24th, Christmas Eve, and although it’s not the same as a proposal every Christmas Eve since then has been super special for us. And sometimes it’s nice to have a different outlook on a holiday than it just being a holiday.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@mountain.bride:  I felt it was so disrespectful.  We intially said we wouldnt go, and the couple got really offended and upset.  So we went, and it was the first time that I can remember that I didn’t march with my brigade.  So I spent the whole day feeling extrememly uncomfortable, guilty and a little upset having missed the service.

And things have transpired between that bride and myself since then, and suffice to say that I don’t appreciate being treated like human garbage.

So I think I made the wroing decision about which one to attend. But oh well, we live and learn 🙂

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I made it very clear to Fiance that I didnt want to get engaged on any holidays/ birthdays because I didnt want him to combind presents! e-ring does not = christmas/birthday presents!

Post # 31
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Busy bee

I think it would be nice-holidays are fun and festive and seem like a nice time to get engaged. I have never heard of someone celebrating the day they got engaged. It seems similar to celebrating your “dating anniversary” after you are married .

I have no idea what day it was for us- I know the month.

@Shaunna-it may not be believable to you, but not everyone was waiting to get engaged. I had never been on a wedding forum, including here, until I started planning. I am excited to be getting married, but it was my fiance who was waiting.

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