Post # 32
I know what you mean. I wasn’t ‘waiting’ to get engaged either, and had never visited boards until I started planning. But one of the first things that struck me on the boards was the expectation that ladies would get engaged whenever a holiday came up.
I don’t want to give the impression that I disapprove of people getting engaged on holidays, and I’m sorry if it came out that way. It’s just that in my opinion a proposal is nicer if the highlight of a particular day is the proposal itself (regardless of whether people end up remembering/celebrating their engagement anniversary).
Post # 33
I told my Fiance absoloutely no holiday proposals. I think holidays are already special.
Post # 35
Im indifferent as well because we wont even be celebrating our one year engagement anniversary!! We will be married for exactly 2 weeks on the date of our engagement so it doesnt really matter! We got engaged over Labor Day weekend and Im glad we did because it meant an extra long weekend of celebrating!
Post # 36
I don’t think it’s that big a deal, but I would prefer not to become engaged on a holiday (I’m already married at this point). I think it’s a nice surprise, but can be predictable. I phoned a friend on her birthday several years ago and minutes later she became engaged. And her husband was really cute and creative about it, so it was nice, but x-mas, Valentine’s day? A bit cliche, but guys don’t know. I don’t want anyone to become offended (which I’m awesome at doing). I mean I think it’s better to become engaged on a “holiday” (that’s one big birthday or x-mas gift!), but I wouldn’t want to be married on a holiday either as it would take away from the specialness of your anniversary for some (and I don’t mean gift-wise).
I’m with cakegal -I’d never heard of this phenomenon of “waiting” until after I was engaged and stumbled onto weddingbee through a google search. I became engaged at the NY marathon, so I know it was somewhere around 11/2 -11/4. I think considering how expensive an e-ring is, it CAN be a b-day or x-mas gift. And considering the “waiting list,” I’d be damned happy if it was! As far as getting engaged on a holiday -you all are right –you don’t celebrate that! We stopped celebrating our dating anniversary after we became engaged I think. So maybe a holiday proposal would be memorable (Oh this is the day we became engaged. One “less” gift on the actual proposal, but come one.)
Post # 37
Fiance proposed to me on my birthday this past December. I loved it and we still celebrated my birthday as a separate event.
In the end the only day we are going to celebrate in relation to our marriage or engagement is going to be our actual wedding day this April.
Post # 38
I don’t know if I’m supposed to feel bad or not. I’m getting married on 9/11 and granted, I’m not Amercian, but I still get funny looks and I feel like telling those people to “F” off. Seriously. Didn’t something tragic happen EVERY DAY in history? I’m sorry, it just irks me that people try to stomp on your happiness every which way they can.
Post # 39
Honestly…my Fiance and I don’t celebrate an engagement anniversary. We celebrate our dating anniversary and once married, we will celebrate that. I honestly can’t remember the date that my Fiance proposed…I just know it was in December of 06. It wouldn’t have mattered if it was a holiday though.
Post # 40
Because you’re not American, I think that makes all the difference. I’ll admit, I think it’s a little odd when Americans choose that as their wedding day -sort of like the Anzac Day thing.
Post # 41
When I got engaged I would have taken any day for a proposal holiday or not! lol I was so anxious. He ended up proposing on New Years Eve and I was really super happy he did. I thought that the holiday proposal was nice because you are already in such a cheery mood, most likely on a break of sorts from either work or school… for us we were on vacation so it was just all perfect.
Post # 42
ok now i think i understand what you mean. i do think it’s a little odd to be expecting an engagement simply because it’s near a holiday. but then i also never went to the waiting boards before i was engaged. heck, i had never heard of weddingbee until a few months after.
for us it happened that way because Fiance lives 10 hrs away and he was home visiting for christmas. i was actually completely surprised because whenever we had discussed getting engaged it was looking like it would be summer of 2010.
i think a lot of this just boils down to personal preference. everyone is different. 🙂
Post # 43
I was proposed to on Valentines day and I loved it. Also I’m getting married 2 weeks before my Birthday but that’s not a big deal either.
Post # 44
My fiance got some advice from a jeweler once when looking at rings- don’t get engaged on a holiday because then the ring is a gift. If the fiance breaks the engagement, she can keep the ring since it was a gift. But, if you get engaged on another day, the ri9ng is a contract and if the fiance breaks the engagedment, she is legally required to give the ring back since she broke the agreement of engagement. Nice advice coming from a jelewler, right?
Post # 45
LOL yikes! that’s a grim way of looking at things haha