(Closed) Am I the only who thinks that a holiday proposal is not nice?

posted 9 years ago in Proposals
Post # 47
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1943 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@kirafiki: I disagree with the jeweler only bc I think no matter what, if an engagement is broken, you give the ring back, no matter when the proposal but thats another thread entirely! 🙂

I keep seeing so many negatives against bc people are saying it would be “expected” or you would be sharing that day. No holiday will outshine your proposal and I don’t feel, unless your the type planning the proposal as to when and where, a proposal to be expected. But I never expected my proposal or was a waiting gal, it just came. My Darling Husband proposed the weekend of my birthday. We still celebrated both and I got a different gift for my birthday, but I will say, my ER outshown that gift! People I know that got married on or around the holidays don’t get combined gifts, we just don’t do that. It is a personal thing for each but I think it happens more bc people do get to go away and have alone time over holidays. Not everyone is celebrating in large groups etc and thus the proposal is more than likely private.

Post # 48
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We got engaged on Valentine’s Day and I loved it 🙂 I wasn’t expecting it and don’t see it as something that makes our engagement any less special. We just happened to be on vacation that week and Valentine’s Day happened to be the first day we were there and he wanted to propose right away so that we could relax and enjoy the rest of the week being engaged. It was nice to feel like our Valentine’s Day was made extra special 🙂

Post # 49
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2006 posts
Buzzing bee

@MissGreen: I think the jeweler was speaking in the legal sense! Legally a gift never has to be given back. An engagement ring (at its conception) is a contract.

I wouldn’t mind getting engaged on any holiday except Valentine’s day. I’ve never enjoyed the day and we don’t really celebrate it. The boy knows my feelings about the holiday so I don’t think he would ever plan to propose on that day.

Post # 50
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3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I don’t have an opinion about other people becoming engaged on a holiday, but I didn’t want it for myself.

Post # 51
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332 posts
Helper bee

I wouldn’t care, we aren’t much on celebrating our anniversays now anyway especially our engagement one. We will celebrate our wedding anniversary but the others Im not big on. Plus, his birthday is Feb. 6th, mine is the 10th, we got together on the 11th and then its Valentines day. Too many things to celebrate at once so we usually just do our birthdays.

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I never really gave it much thought at all, but my fiance proposed on Christmas Day and eventhough it’s on a holiday, it will always make Christmas just that much better 🙂 My thing is I wouldn’t want to get married on a holiday so we’re getting married on August 13th, which is the day he asked out 🙂

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I guess I’m just surprised that people even gave this thought. I never even considered anything this way. I was just happy to be engaged and never once did I think to myself, “Oh, no, this isn’t just our day, it’s also Christmas.”

I was also really surprised, like some previous posters have said, to discover that there were forums devoted to waiting to getting engaged. I started reading some blogs about weddings before we got engaged because I knew that the proposal would be happening soon, but I never sought out a community of other women waiting for a ring. When I first started posting on Weddingbee, the waiting boards were a big surprise.

Post # 54
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’ll plead neutral in general — I’m neither for nor against holiday proposals. My fiance, however… he was determined not to propose on a day with meaning previously attached. He wanted the whole thing to be a complete surprise (which it was!), and purposefully avoided holidays, birthdays, parties, and even our monthly date-a-versary.

Post # 55
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Hmm…  I’ve never even thought about celebrating the anniversary of our engagement, whether or not it was a holiday.  I didn’t propose on a holiday, but I actually had to look up what day I did propose to remember when it was.

Post # 56
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I honestly can’t imagine caring one way or another. Totally beyond me.

Then again, holidays are special to me only if they involve getting together with family. Presents and having a time that was all about me was cool until about age 12. I find that attitude really hard to take in adults.

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It was my only one of requirement that he NOT propose on a holiday so that the engagement would be it’s own entity. Other than that, I put no other restrictions, deadlines, ring choice, nothing. Just no holiday. ‘Course I only mentioned this after he asked me, so it’s not like I shoved it down his throat and pressured him into an engagement (should anyone think that, haha). Glad to know I’m not the only one who thought in the same way.

Post # 58
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@shaunna:  Honestly, the whole “waiting” phenomenon is something I don’t even understand.  To my mind, once the two of you have agreed to be married, you are engaged.  Before that time, you are not “waiting,” because you don’t know whether it is going to happen or not.

And this time around, there was definitely no “waiting.”  At the point at which I asked her, I was really unsure of what the answer would be.  And she had no idea I was thinking about asking.  It was only a few days after there was anywhere we could get legally married, so we hadn’t discussed the topic at all.

@SarahM:  I actually got married on my birthday.

Post # 59
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I didn’t want a holiday proposal, either. It had nothing to do with gifts, etc, but it was more about having a new day that was special to us separate from any other existing holiday. I’m a bit of a private person and I preferred not to have lots of people around for that special moment between us.

Funny enough, my fiancé proposed on the day before Valentine’s Day – in fact, it was less than an hour before Valentine’s Day! One of the first things he said when he pulled out the ring was, “This is not a Valentine’s Day gift and it is not Valentine’s Day yet!”

Post # 60
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@2dBride: My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I want to get married, and we decided three years from now would probably be a good time. I feel that we are at an in-between point: more serious than boyfriend and girlfriend, but not officially* engaged. I guess, for me, the “waiting” label just happens to fit that stage. I can’t speak for other Bees, though!

*Officially, for us, means a ring and a proposal. I know there are couples who get engaged without these things, and that’s fantastic! Their engagements are certainly no less valid. The Boyfriend or Best Friend and I are just old-fashioned in that respect, I guess.

Post # 61
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Depends on the circumstances I guess – my Fiance proposed in Paris and got no objections from me! We were relaxed and having a brilliant time – couldn’t have been a better time or place to do it.

@Firie: EEK that is a bit wrong. I always felt like ANZAC Day is the last holiday people really observe where shops don’t open and it’s not commercialised – it really means something to most Aussies and Kiwis. I wonder that her own grandfathers didn’t object!

@bloodgo1: My Fiance proposed on New Years Eve too and it was pretty special! New year = new chapter in our lives!

 

 

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