Post # 1
So I’m 26… but since I was about 17 I think I’ve really been 40 🙂
I am just a total homebody. I have friends and I like them… but I don’t feel the need to see them a ton and I mostly just like staying home with Darling Husband. Luckily he is the same!
Tonight a friend of mine who is only in town for the week invited us to go to a trivia night. The bar is about 40 minutes from us (in traffic, maybe 30 min on the way home). We’ll probably be there from around 7:30-10:30 or so.
My initial feeling was no. It is a work night and I don’t really like to leave my house on work nights. If it was a 1-2 hour thing and it was 10 minutes away… ok yea maybe. But that far and that long? boo. Darling Husband though pointed out that we were invited out for last Friday by this friend and were unable to go, so we really should go. So– we are.
And it’s fine. I know that once I get there I’ll have a good time, I always do. But whenever I”m invited to stuff like this, unless my Darling Husband kind of makes me go I just say no.
Just wondering if I’m the only hermit out there… or if hermit-itis is more common than I think. 🙂
p.s. I don’t have social anxiety or anything like that. I just really like my “sitting at home in the quiet” time after work and I find it stressful to spend all of my free time in the evening with other people.
Post # 3
Ya I’m with you. I’m a total hermit. I’d so much rather host a dinner party and deal with the prep and clean up than go out. Is that terrible? LOL!
Post # 4
I’m actually the same way. I love it once I’m out but it’s the getting out that’s the issue.
A) I hate spending money and some of my friends only plan events that involve gifts and/or very expensive nights out…dinner at a nice restaurant, club with a $20 cover and expensive drinks etc.
B) Once I’m home it’s just so comfy, especially on a work night when I haven’t seen Fiance all day
C) I’m exhausted by the time work is over and don’t want to get ready to go out when I get home (I do not go to work ready to go out lol)
Post # 5
I don’t mind going out on weeknights after work but only if it is just an occasional thing and not a common occurance. And I don’t like being out later than my normal bedtime or I’m exhasted at work the rest of the week.
I much prefer my “relax on the couch or with a book” nights at home. 🙂
Post # 6
Yup I feel the same way. I said I would go to something on a Wednesday but only if it was close and I knew I wasnt going to be out all night. I really enjoy staying at home and doing nothing with my husband! Or if we are going to go somewhere we might go to the movies or the mall which is like 2 minutes from our house. I am more likely to go out as it gets warmer but in the winter, forget about it.
Post # 7
My initial reaction to this was: are you kidding me? I want to have dinner, walk the dog, and relax when I get home! And then go to bed at a reasonable hour. (I’m 26.)
But, it really does depend on the night. Some nights I love going out unexpectedly, and I feel up for anything, regardless of the day of the week. So I guess I have hermit days.
Post # 7
pretty much everything everybody has already said, but your not alone. I would much rather stay at home on weeknights and relax with Fiance, it’s not that I don’t like my friends, but it’s just such an effort to get ready, get in the car, drive 40 minutes somewhere, spend 3 hours and too much money, then drive home and be tired at work the next day.
Post # 7
So with you! It has to really be worth it for me to go out on a weeknight. I even fight with Fiance over friday plans if they’re too far away. I’m freakin tired after working all day and then going to the gym for an hour a day- save the big plans for Saturday!
Post # 8
My first thought was that Wednesday night is American Idol night on tv….so ya, you could say I am a hermit 🙂
I’m the same though. I have a good time when I am out, but I much prefer to stay home with my SO and catch up on our days. My job requires me to be “on” all the time-talking to people and dealing with issues. By the end of the day I am just exhausted.
By the way, I am 26 going on 45 🙂
Post # 9
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Your title made me laugh. I like to stay home a lot too and I need some convincing to go out (especially if it is later). I never regret going out, but it’s easier to stay home.
Post # 10
I would go mostly just for the out of town friend whom I presume you don’t see often. I am also a homebody but it is as much choice as lack of an alternative!
Post # 11
I’m so the same. Life’s been really busy lately and I’d kill for a night in to watch TV. I often “force” myself to go out and be social. Cause I don’t live with my Fiance, I spend most days driving to his house, which makes me a huge homebody when I get a chance to stay home. Honestly, seeing friends twice a week is lots for me.
Post # 12
I usually feel the same way on a weeknight…once I’m out, I almost always have fun, but I have to drag myself out the door. I don’t get home from work until about 7 and I’m usually exhausted when I get back! We’re 25 and 27 and weeknights are usually dedicated to relaxing/going to bed at a reasonable hour. Now that I write it out, it makes me feel like a hermit, too!
@bakerella: I agree! We’ve started hosting some weekday dinners with friends, and I’d much rather play hostess and deal with the clean-up and preparation if it means I just have to sat put 🙂
Post # 13
I have NO life… none at all. I don’t even go anywhere on the weekends lol. I would much rather watch an awesome movie or bake than go out partying 🙂
Post # 14
I am exactly the same way. So is my fiance. We just don’t like doing stuff very often with friends. We love our friends, just we love our own personal time much more. We always skip a few gatherings, and then go to one, mostly because we have to, so we keep our friendships, and sometimes, very rarely, because we want to! It’s terrible, but at ;east we aren’t alone, and others are like us too 🙂