(Closed) Am I thinking too much? Makeup complication and a little bridesmaid rant

posted 6 years ago in Beauty
Post # 2
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3526 posts
Sugar bee

Yeah, I don’t let other people do my makeup. Sorry your plan didn’t work out, but you should have asked before booking and it’s not unreasonable to not want someone else doing your makeup. If I was your Bridesmaid or Best Man I would much prefer a nice bottle of wine 😛

Post # 3
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Yup, thinking too much! I know a ton of people who don’t like getting their makeup done professionally either because it doesn’t look like them after or it’s just uncomfortable if you normally don’t wear much. Especially if you didn’t phrase it as being a gift they may have taken offense thinking that you don’t trust them to do their own or think they need a makeover. It was a nice thought and I think is a great gift if ALL of your bridesmaids are big makeup junkies. But coming from someone who rarely wears it I would think of it as a cop out on the gift front and that the bride just paid for it so that her pictures looked nice!

Post # 4
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168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m not sure phrasing it as “this is a gift to you” would help anything – treating your maids as blank canvases to doll up for your day and your pics is about you, not them. You should have consulted them before booking your MUA for everyone. Let them do what they want makeup wise and come up with something else to gift. 

Post # 5
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6549 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Makeup for your wedding isn’t a gift for these girls. It’s your wedding so that’s your expense. And it’s their faces so they get the final say on what goes on them or who puts it there. Relax. Unless they show up looking like Ronald McDonald,  no one is going to notice if they had a pro paint job or did their own. Totally not worth being upset over 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I paid for my girls to get their makeup done. Only I did and one other girl — It’s their preference, it’s alright. Don’t take it personally, they’re not snubbing you just the makeup artist. It’s really not worth the emotional dedication to be upset about it.

Post # 7
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737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Yeah I get where they are coming from. I don’t let other people do my make up. It’s always overdone and I feel like a clown. I even did my own for my own wedding.

so while it was a nice thought I see where your bridesmaids are coming from. Plus having their makeup done for your wedding isn’t much of a gift. give them something that will last more than a day instead

Post # 8
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2704 posts
Sugar bee

I can see why it’s frustrating but just let it go. If you wanted this MUA for you anyways you would have had to pay her much more to do only yours (going off you saying she increased the remaining Bridesmaid or Best Man make up to cover travel). Just enjoy you getting made up on the day and leave it at that.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Yeesh. I think it’s kind of rude for the bridesmaids not to at least ACT grateful for getting free makeup, but that’s just me. I’m getting my hair and makeup done by two separate people (one hairstylist, one makeup artist), so I’m offering to pay for one service for my bridesmaids. They can either pay for the other themselves or DIY. I know some people are more touchy about their hair or makeup, and I figure this way, I’m not imposing or making it mandatory that you have professional help. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

While I understand them not wanting the makeup artist, I think there is a way to decline graciously. Even if they are not interested, did they even thank you for offering? Or do they think that bc you are getting married then you just have the money to pay for everything? Like I said, it is fine to refuse but I have never had a bride even offer this, so they could have thought of this as nice even if they weren’t interested. 

Post # 11
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60 posts
Worker bee

No worries, I asked my BMs before if they has a problem with me gifting them makeup the day of they all said PLEASE!!! They all CAN do it themsleves but prefered it be done. On the OTHER hand I asked about hair and some said NO, they wanted to do it themselves. Others wanted it done by the hair team I will have that day. So it goes either way depending on your BMs and thier styles. bUt it is nothing to worry about… The less stress YOU have the days before and day of the better I’m 45 days and counting and finding the little details creaping up on me so relax…. Everyone will be and look great no matter who does thier hair and makeup!!!

Post # 12
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121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I would’ve asked them beforehand and it’s best to phrase it “if you want to..” instead of just saying you hired them to do everyone’s makeup. And I am on the boat that this should not be considered a gift even if all your Bridesmaid or Best Man said yes. Its for YOUR wedding.

Post # 13
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1286 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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iamlalabee:  Hmm yeah, in my experience, most girls would prefer to get their makeup professionally done for a wedding if you’re paying for it. I guess the lesson is to always expect the unexpected and ask everyone beforehand next time. But I agree with the Bees who said don’t phrase it as a gift – it’s not a gift when the sole purpose is to have all your girls look good for photos and such on your wedding day. You just pay for it as part of your wedding expenses. A gift would be like a spa treatment the day before or something.

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