Post # 1
I knew I wanted my makeup professionally done because I’m sort of a makeup junkie, so I started searching for a MUA very early on in my planning process. I read on the internet that many brides chose to cover makeup cost as a part of a gift to their bridesmaids and I thought it’s a great idea! I was talking with one of my bridesmaids about this one day (she is also a makeup junkie) and she said it would be great if she can get her makeup professionally done since it’s a rare experience and bridesmaids can get pampered a little. I agreed with her and I found a MUA who, in my opinion, is very reasonably priced ($100 for bride, $55 for bridesmaids) and I have 6 bridesmaids so I booked her for a total of 9 people (including myself and two moms). I only asked for opinion from this makeup junkie bridesmaid and my Maid/Matron of Honor because I intended for it to be a gift for everyone. They were supportive of this idea, so I confirmed and paid a deposit shortly after…
Many weeks later, while I was having lunch with another bridesmaid, I casually told her that I booked a MUA to do their makeup and I will cover this cost. She said she didn’t want others to do her makeup because she had a bad experience before and ended up doing it herself. I was a little surprised but decided to let her have it her way if that makes her happy, so I contacted my MUA and asked to cancel 1 person. My MUA was agreeable but she said she will have to increase the cost of other bridesmaids from $55 to $60 in order to still cover travel costs (she lives 3 hours away). I wasn’t very happy about it but said okay anyways. To be extra safe, I decided to ask the other 3 bridesmaids if they wanted their makeup professionally done. One of them said “you even booked a professional MUA?” and then told me she prefers to do it herself, after I explicitly said I will cover this cost. At this point, I was very irritated and surprised because she doesn’t wear any makeup on a daily basis and I didn’t think any girl would reject a free makeover (maybe that’s just me…).
It has been a while since we had this conversation, but it’s making me doubt my decision to even hire a MUA for them. 3/6 of them are good at doing their own makeup, but the other 3 barely wear any. Now I think about it, it was partially my fault because when I told them I hired a MUA for them, I didn’t phrase it like “this is a part of a gift for you”, but it still hurts me to think that they would reject my offer! Now I’m debating if they should just do their own makeup since they know themselves best and maybe I will use that money to buy them individual gifts that they might like better.
I don’t know…am I thinking too much?? Have you had a similar experience? I just wanted to make my bridesmaids happy 🙁
Post # 2
Yeah, I don’t let other people do my makeup. Sorry your plan didn’t work out, but you should have asked before booking and it’s not unreasonable to not want someone else doing your makeup. If I was your Bridesmaid or Best Man I would much prefer a nice bottle of wine 😛
Post # 3
Yup, thinking too much! I know a ton of people who don’t like getting their makeup done professionally either because it doesn’t look like them after or it’s just uncomfortable if you normally don’t wear much. Especially if you didn’t phrase it as being a gift they may have taken offense thinking that you don’t trust them to do their own or think they need a makeover. It was a nice thought and I think is a great gift if ALL of your bridesmaids are big makeup junkies. But coming from someone who rarely wears it I would think of it as a cop out on the gift front and that the bride just paid for it so that her pictures looked nice!
Post # 4
I’m not sure phrasing it as “this is a gift to you” would help anything – treating your maids as blank canvases to doll up for your day and your pics is about you, not them. You should have consulted them before booking your MUA for everyone. Let them do what they want makeup wise and come up with something else to gift.
Post # 5
Makeup for your wedding isn’t a gift for these girls. It’s your wedding so that’s your expense. And it’s their faces so they get the final say on what goes on them or who puts it there. Relax. Unless they show up looking like Ronald McDonald, no one is going to notice if they had a pro paint job or did their own. Totally not worth being upset over
Post # 6
I paid for my girls to get their makeup done. Only I did and one other girl — It’s their preference, it’s alright. Don’t take it personally, they’re not snubbing you just the makeup artist. It’s really not worth the emotional dedication to be upset about it.
Post # 7
Yeah I get where they are coming from. I don’t let other people do my make up. It’s always overdone and I feel like a clown. I even did my own for my own wedding.
so while it was a nice thought I see where your bridesmaids are coming from. Plus having their makeup done for your wedding isn’t much of a gift. give them something that will last more than a day instead
Post # 8
I can see why it’s frustrating but just let it go. If you wanted this MUA for you anyways you would have had to pay her much more to do only yours (going off you saying she increased the remaining Bridesmaid or Best Man make up to cover travel). Just enjoy you getting made up on the day and leave it at that.
Post # 9
Yeesh. I think it’s kind of rude for the bridesmaids not to at least ACT grateful for getting free makeup, but that’s just me. I’m getting my hair and makeup done by two separate people (one hairstylist, one makeup artist), so I’m offering to pay for one service for my bridesmaids. They can either pay for the other themselves or DIY. I know some people are more touchy about their hair or makeup, and I figure this way, I’m not imposing or making it mandatory that you have professional help.
Post # 10
While I understand them not wanting the makeup artist, I think there is a way to decline graciously. Even if they are not interested, did they even thank you for offering? Or do they think that bc you are getting married then you just have the money to pay for everything? Like I said, it is fine to refuse but I have never had a bride even offer this, so they could have thought of this as nice even if they weren’t interested.
Post # 11
No worries, I asked my BMs before if they has a problem with me gifting them makeup the day of they all said PLEASE!!! They all CAN do it themsleves but prefered it be done. On the OTHER hand I asked about hair and some said NO, they wanted to do it themselves. Others wanted it done by the hair team I will have that day. So it goes either way depending on your BMs and thier styles. bUt it is nothing to worry about… The less stress YOU have the days before and day of the better I’m 45 days and counting and finding the little details creaping up on me so relax…. Everyone will be and look great no matter who does thier hair and makeup!!!
Post # 12
I would’ve asked them beforehand and it’s best to phrase it “if you want to..” instead of just saying you hired them to do everyone’s makeup. And I am on the boat that this should not be considered a gift even if all your Bridesmaid or Best Man said yes. Its for YOUR wedding.
Post # 13
Hmm yeah, in my experience, most girls would prefer to get their makeup professionally done for a wedding if you’re paying for it. I guess the lesson is to always expect the unexpected and ask everyone beforehand next time. But I agree with the Bees who said don’t phrase it as a gift – it’s not a gift when the sole purpose is to have all your girls look good for photos and such on your wedding day. You just pay for it as part of your wedding expenses. A gift would be like a spa treatment the day before or something.