Here’s what my dad told my sis and I and then I’ll tell you about my sister and her H.
My dad sat my sister and I down and told us both this..He said "I love both of you and forbid each of you to marry at all or even consider it because this world is unstable these days. You have to be sure 100 percent you can not only support yourself, but potentially support your H and if God forbid, you divorced, be able to support yourself AND the kids you may have 100 percent too. Unless you both graduate from college, you will not have my blessing to marry nor get a dime from me to pay for any wedding."
Wow. I thought he was so harsh. But he was right.
I married my xh after dating almost 3 years after graduating from college and ended up being the one who NEEDED that job and education because I’m a single mom supporting my son. I AM GLAD I DID THAT. I’d ask you to consider what my dad said and if you’re able to say "ok" to that, then go for it.
My sister married at the age of 21 to her college bf. She graduated from college a few months after the wedding (it was ok with dad because he knew she was graduating). My sister then spent the next 4 years pretty much supporting her H because he was attending medical school.
They made TONS of sacrifices and had a beautiful daughter during his med school years. They did not live on credit, they didn’t blow money, and they saved. Scrimped. No lavish vacays. But they LOVED each other and respected each other and it was and has been beautiful to witness over the years as their relative.
They now have two kids, he’s a successful doctor, she owned a boutique (but is at home now with the kids) and they have a wonderful family life and marriage. They go on lavish vacays now (after all the years sacrificing) and he just upgraded her wedding ring..it’s gorgeous..they still have anniversary trips together too. They are absolutely adorable and still love each other.
I say go for it..but be able to do like my dad suggested and take his wise words to heart.
My dad has passed away almost 10 years now. I loved him so and still do. I think he would be proud of how both of his daughters turned out now.
I am just now barely (as of a few weeks) 40 and am FINALLY marrying the love of my life. But I can STILL honor the original question my dad asked me. He wouldn’t worry. He’d give me his blessing.
Love and hugs to you both. Best wishes.