Post # 121
I’m actally only waiting to get married until I’m 26 because of that reason. I look at it as a sort of regret prevention. I’ve heard people around me regretting that they got married so young, but never that they regretted waiting another year or two. I don’t think I’d regret it if I got married tomorrow or nxt year, but I also am only 22 and don’t have a whole lot of personal perspective.
Post # 122
Did you know that until you’re 25, age is actually a significant factor in divorcing? So, if you are under 25, and you get married before you are 25, you are more likely to get divorced because of your age. If you wait until after 25, of course there is still a chance that you may divorce, BUT, it won’t likely be because of your age. Does that make sense?
Of course, there are always exceptions to every statistic. We’ve all know those people who have done everything “right” i.e. waited to get married, dated a long time, had more than one relationship beforehand, waited until they were financially secure and then had a terribly messy divorce. Of course on the other side of that we all know people who met when they were 18 and jumped into marriage and in society’s view did everything “wrong” yet have the best relationship out there.
That being said, it’s about what you want. I’m a big city girl, will be married this year and am the first of all of my friends, I feel YOUNG getting married at 26. Early 20s weddings just are not a thing around here at all, so my opinion is probably biased.
I’ve never seen the point of getting married so young. If you’re going to spend your lives together, why rush it? Besides, once you have your big special day, you don’t get to do it again! I for one, have really loved the feeling of looking forward to the big day and wouldn’t want to rush that. Relish that feeling, plan your dream wedding out over a few years! Obviously marriage is not about the weddding, but once your wedding is over, your relationship is stilll going to be the same it was before (unless you come from a religious background and are not allowed to live together before marriage or be intimate, etc) so it’s not like you have to rush the wedding in order to get to some amazing change afterwards.
I for one, grew up SO much in the few years after I graduated University before I got engaged. I met my Fiance right after I graduated and it’s definitely a lot different being a relationship as a real adult with real adult responsibilites (and if you are already at this stage in life I am sorry, I’m just thinking of it in terms of Uni and college). I learned so much about myself in that time and was shocked at how different (and amazing!) an adult relationship really is.