(Closed) Am I too young to have a baby?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

if you want the sex, then have the sex, you don’t have to get pregnant to have sex, just use protection 🙂

if you don’t feel ready, then don’t have a baby, just wanting one isn’t enough. a child is a lifelong commitment

age isn’t the issue, one of my friends who is my age is married with two kids, she got married and had her first child when she was 19, so it is all dependant on the individual 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

No matter how old you are, having a baby is a huge responsibility and one that you can’t “undo”. Personally, if I had any doubts/fears I’d wait a little longer until I was really sure it was something I could handle.

For Darling Husband and I, we really enjoyed having an entire year to ourselves after the wedding, without worrying about trying for a baby or having a little one to take care of. I think it helped us “work out the kinks” and get our household routine figured out so we’d be more prepared for the responsibility of a baby.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes you’re too young, especially if you’re asking strangers for their opinion! Ask your gyn about birth control.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

If you two are living on your own, with very stable, well paying jobs, enough in savings for a rainy day, and wouldn’t have to depend on your families for anything outside of normal grandparent-style spoiling, you might be ready, at least financially. Maturity and experience wise? Maybe, maybe not.

But then again I know zero nineteen year olds who are like that. I don’t even know any 23 year olds like that! What about school? What is your support structure like? How long have you two been dating? Those are things I would think about before having a baby.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Zama Beach Club, Isla Mujeres, Mexico

Yes you’re too young. But then again, I am 25 and I think I’m too young to have a baby… So maybe its just me? 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Honestly, I would say the answer is probably yes. Having children is a HUGE responsibility and a total life changer. At 19, you are still developing cognitively yourself – you have years ahead of you to have kids, and right now you’re still growing and changing as a person. It might lead to resentment if you have kids now and look back later at the experiences you didn’t get to have. My mom had kids very young (21) and she hit a point when I was in high school where she was VERY resentful of everything she missed out on, and she took it out on us. Not that I’m saying most young parents will do that – I think a majority don’t. But it’s clear to me my mom was not ready to become a parent when she did, and it majorly effected her life in a negative way for years and years after.

You can have sex and not get pregnant. I’ve been having sex with my fiancé for over 2 years on a regular basis and we’ve only had 2 pregnancy “scares”. We use condoms since I can’t be on hormonal birth control, but there are TONS of options out there! I suggest you read this article: http://www.vaginapagina.com/index.php?title=Hormonal_Birth_Control and http://www.vaginapagina.com/index.php?title=Non-Hormonal_Birth_Control for tons of information on the many types of birth control. Also make an appointment with your doctor/gynocologist to talk about your options and get started with a reliable BC method. If you don’t have medical insurance/don’t have a doctor, check out Planned Parenthood – they offer a sliding scale based on income, and many of their services are free depending on your income (they provide everything from birth control to health checkups to cancer services).

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

The real question is…who doesn’t want the sex?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Also, as PP have said, you really need to think about how you would care for a child: do you both have well-paying jobs, a home set up, medical insurance? Babies and children need a LOT of care and attention, and you have to be able to take care of yourselves before you can bring a child into the world and care for them.

Most of my friends/acquaintences who had kids before the age of 25 ended up living with their parents. The others hold down 2-3 jobs to make ends meet and didn’t get a chance to go to school, so idk… it seems like waiting might be better, at least until you have the resources and ability to provide the care and attention a child needs.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

yes you are too young, can you support a baby and yourself 100%?? are you ready to stop being selfish and give up your free time? Im 26 and still think Im too young for a baby, we still want to have fun with eachother and we are not yet done being selfish!

Do not have a baby, wait a few more yaars!

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had my son when I was 19… wait until your fully ready- babies are cute little full time jobs.

 

*19 is NOT too young to have a baby but you might want to enjoy your free time as an adult for a little while first… 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think that it is possible to be emotionally and financially ready to have children at 19, but as a 20 yr old part time nanny/babysitter I know i’m personally not ready to have my own. I love the kids and spending time with them, but I need a few more years for just my Fiance and I 

my guess is that if you are old enough to plana nd pay for a wedding and your own home for your husband and yourself then you have the financial means to raise a child. Again I don’t think 19/20 is too young to raise a child, but you may want to think of what YOU want out of life

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